Hi Ella, thanks for reading the recommended articles.
It is a human tendency to expect from people and situations. I am not asking to start thinking that your expectation will not be met. All what is required is to be prepared that things might not turn out as you have expected.
I will give you an examples from my life..when I enter in to my office every morning I don’t expect my boss to appreciate my previous day work. I focus on what is in my hand..that is doing my job with maximum efficiency…My boss reactions might have influence of traffic jam or his wife’s weird behavior at the breakfast table this morning.

Focus on your actions not on the reaction which come in return. Do best with what is in your control and focus least on what is out of your control.
Remember “Life is 1% how you make it and 99 % how you take it”
I am not aware of your real problem, if you could help me with your exact situation I might suggest something helpful. You can mail me if that is not a problem samir.saha1@yahoo.co.in.

Negative Thinking affects me as well but through reading a lot on the subject of affirmations I now try to stop myself fom thinking bad thoughts. I think coming here and acknowledging it, is a great first step. You should write out everything that’s bothering you and then comment on each thing in third person.
Ex, ill say “everyone hates me i suck” and then ill comment on it and say something like “that’s so ridiculous, everyone does not hate you”
Sometimes writing it out makes you realize how ridiculous most of these thoughts are.
I also have mental issues and I take these exercises very seriously and wrk on myself everyday. It’s also helpful to say “stop!” In your head when you hear yourself going down that route. Hope that helps

What bob said was very helpful as well

Hi Ella,
Yes positive affirmations have helped pull me out of the hole I’ve been digging myself in! It’s strange because I am still working on myself but everything I’ve asked for/told myself has come true. I have low self esteem and low confidence. I have sticky notes in my bathroom on the mirror. I write affirmations/goals and I read it most days and it seeps into your subconscious. You can use present tense, future tense or just general statements. Just use whatever feels natural. When the negative self talk gets really bad i just tell myself “it will be okay”. I try to see myself from another angle and I try to think of things I would tell someone who felt as badly as I do about myself.
When a friend, for example, is heart broken about a break up, we say “it’s going to be okay”. Because we know it will be okay. This might sound really cheesy but its easier to be your own best friend while you’re being your own worst enemy. It gets easier and easier.