I understand, Zenith. Maybe privately…?

(Using my phone be back to the computer tonight)

Do what works for you, Zenith and keep saying “No”, or “I’m not comfortable” with this or that, like you did today.

With care, Anita

You are very welcome, Zenith!

Dear Zenith:

I shared your yesterday’s post with Copilot (AI) and here’s the input I received:

“Analysis of your situation-

* You are protective of your child’s innocence and don’t want her exposed to songs that are vulgar, sexist, or objectifying. That’s a very valid boundary.

* You felt anxiety about saying no, but you still spoke up politely. That shows courage — setting boundaries kindly is not easy, especially in community settings.

* The neighbor’s plan (boy as “hero,” girls as dancers he flirts with) is indeed age-inappropriate for 7-year-olds. Your discomfort is not overreacting; it’s a natural response to something that feels wrong.

* You’re worried about your child feeling left out or upset if she doesn’t join, and that’s understandable. Kids at that age want to belong, and tantrums or mean words are part of their emotional immaturity.

* You’re also worried about disappointing your neighbor and the group. That’s social pressure, and it’s making you anxious.

Zenith, your feelings are absolutely valid. You are not being “too hard” on your kiddo — you are being a mom who knows what is age-appropriate and what is not. It’s okay to feel anxious when you set boundaries, especially in a group where others don’t see things the way you do. But protecting your child’s innocence is more important than fitting into someone else’s idea of fun.

You already did the brave thing by suggesting kid-appropriate songs. That shows you’re not just saying “no,” you’re offering positive alternatives. If the neighbor hasn’t responded yet, that’s on her — not on you. You don’t need to carry guilt for standing up for your values.

Your kid may feel disappointed in the moment, but children bounce back. What she will remember long-term is that her mom cared enough to protect her. And that matters more than one performance.

You are not alone in feeling this way — many parents struggle with cultural events that mix adult themes into children’s activities.

Your boundary is healthy. It’s not about being strict; it’s about being responsible.

Anxiety is natural when you go against the group, but it doesn’t mean you’re wrong.”

I couldn’t have said it better, Zenith.. I a not that intelligent 😊

🤍 Anita

I like your lol, Zenith 😊

You are welcome and I am so glad you are feeling better today. Indeed your feelings are valid and you are doing the right thing for your kiddo. Copilot says it, ChatGPT says so, I say so.. and so, it is. Have a good weekend yourself, Zenith!!!

🤍 Anita