You like the stability and family environment of shane, but the teenager fun that pete brings is also fun. The real question is do you wanna grow up? Unfortunately you can’t have both. I ran into the same problem with my ex. She didnt wanna grow up and I was done being a teenager. Good luck with your decision, neither one is wrong as long as its what you want.

Another thing ~ Shane knows there’s another man in the wings. Instead of paying more attention to you and appreciating you (after all, someone else is!) he withdraws and takes his anger out on you!

So let’s say you dump them both. Once you find a new guy Pete will continuously chase you. He might just like the Chase! And you might like Being pursued! (Who wouldn’t?) So that’s a clue that Shane wasn’t “It” if you still are open to being chased/courted. When you meet The One, it won’t matter who else is interested in you!

Good Luck!

Lindsay,

Only one advise I would like to give based on my experience on the same lines. Make sure that the person who wants to be with (which I believe here is Pete) is not out of manipulation, insecurity to lose you or the zest to win you over.

Shane seems to be more mature. I had to end up 6 years relation/2 yrs marriage with someone I considered my best friend (like you mentioned about Pete). Of late, I have realised it is better to be married to someone who’s more mature than you.

Also, at this stage it must feel exciting that you have choices to chose from, make wise choice. For me it turned out, it was good to walk out of both the choices and take a neutral path, as both had grudges inside of them, knowing that I was shuffling between two of them for a period of time. Which made the relation go sour.

I’m single now and pretty happy, content, satisfied and enjoying my space like never before. It was not easy, pretty much like a roller-coaster ride.

I have just shared my experience here. I’m sure you’ll take a wise and well-thought decison which is good for you.

Blessings and wisdom to you…

I’m with the crowd here. Move on from them both. Pete and Shane are not your only two choices – you do not need to commit to the lesser of two evils. As Inky pointed out, if either of these two guys was “the one”, you wouldn’t be distracted by the other. Once you meet the right one, you won’t have such questions or doubts. Think of the possibilities of meeting a guy who makes your toes curl like Shane AND who is a loving companion like Pete (but with the bonus of not leaving you when times are tough). Doesn’t that sound exciting? Don’t settle for less.