Hello Chelsea,

I can understand how you feel. I don’t have any clear advice to give, only something that I can see of myself looking into the past. Hindsight 20/20 🙂 I’m not sure if it actually helps you though.

You’re probably expending a lot of energy into wishing that things weren’t like they are right now, and that your life would be different. It takes a lot of energy to fight every moment of your existence. It leaves one exhausted and not sparing a lot of extra energy into actually getting things done. Besides, you’re kind of living in a limbo in such a situation: not really embracing and living in the reality, but not living in the fantasy life either. There are probably a lot of possibilities and opportunities around you all the time, but to be able to see them would require strength, energy and trust. There’s probably not much of those left at the moment, if you keep spending your energy on fighting, instead of going with the flow.

I recently read somewhere a quote, that I can’t remember fully, so I’ll have to paraphrase: humility is not trying to outsmart the reality. You may hate your current job, but it might offer you a way to get where you want to be. Do the best that you can with what you have right now at your disposal.

I sometimes think that somewhere in this world there is a person who wakes up really early in the morning and walks miles and miles to do a job that pays less than a dollar per day, and then walks back home to eat and sleep and does it again the next day. Am I above doing such things? For some reason, injecting a bit of humility in my life offers this tremendous feeling of safety and even happiness. Why fight everything, so that it would be how you want it to be right this minute? Why not do what needs to be done right now, and do it well while you’re at it? Why waste time and energy into wishing that things were different, because they’re not going to be different through magic. What if you’re not ready for Nashville just yet?

So I guess my answer to the question of what can you do to get back in touch with the life and the universe is “humility”.

Hi Chelsea,

I am sorry you’re feeling this way!! I agree with The Ruminant and Loopylou and I would also like to add a few more thoughts that may hopefully be of service as well. 🙂

There have been many times in my life where I felt stuck or things weren’t “moving fast enough,” which led to feeling lost and frustrated, but in hindsight, I have always come to realize that that period of “stuckness” ultimately served me in sone way or another.

Here are a few other ideas to help you suss out the value of where you are now which will hopefully ease and perhaps accelerate your path to living your dreams:

1.) Do you have any unresolved business or issues that need to be attended to before you move? This could even mean something like “a clearing of the air” conversation with a co-worker, or completing some volunteer work that you agreed to but haven’t gotten around to finishing.

When I used to work in film and commercial production, when a job was over, it was referred to as “wrapping out.” This is when the last details are taken care of and is just as vital as the previous phases, though it’s definitely the least exciting. So perhaps ask yourself if you are you really ready to “wrap out” of where you are now?

2.) Trusting that even though you are in a transitional period (and this is a powerful transitional period for many of us so you are NOT alone), that it is still valuable. Even though you’re not feeling juiced where you are, you are still on your path to where you need to go. Promise!

3.) The universe is always communicating with us, but it’s often subtle, so subtle in fact, that when we’re upset or distressed, we may not see or feel the communication… signs can be little things like seeing a Robin right outside your bedroom window (a symbol of not only spring, but new beginnings) or hearing a favorite song on the radio, or finding a coin or a pretty feather, or it can be a phone call from someone you were just thinking about… often these loving communiques are of a personal nature regarding what is meaningful to you i.e. did you stumble upon a favorite movie while channel surfing?

4.) Lastly, I have found that developing and practicing gratitude, even when it does not come easily (especially when it does not come easily), is incredibly transformative. Waking up and going to sleep while focusing on what we have to be grateful for (even little basic things, like, “the sun was out today” and “I am healthy,” etc). does wonders for my mood, confidence, and feelings of communion. I can’t recommend it enough.

I hope this is helpful! 🙂

Love,
Alix

Dear Anonymous (+ Chelsea),

I am also sorry hear you are in such distress too!

There is hope — ALWAYS!!

First know that ALL things pass. Like Chelsea, what you are going through is a phase, a part of your story… it’s far from all that is meant for you.

Second, everyone has a purpose! You just need to find yours. What did you want to do when you were little? What made you really happy? It doesn’t have to be a specific job or a career, but it can be an aspect or quality of something that can tip you off to your soul’s purpose.

Try to reflect, where did you find bliss when you were seven? That might be your first clue… your soul’s wisdom guiding you to why you are here.

Third, there are always solutions, even if we don’t see immediate answers to life’s challenges.

Fourth, sometimes, great patience is required of us.

Please hang in there and trust that where you are now is not where you will always be!!

Sorry, I am a little pressed for time as I write this, but I wanted to at least let you know that there is definitely hope.

Love,
Alix

PS — are you 29 or 30 by any chance? That is a pivotal transitional age for everyone.