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April 17, 2014 at 12:23 pm #54968
Dear Anonymous (+ Chelsea),
I am also sorry hear you are in such distress too!
There is hope — ALWAYS!!
First know that ALL things pass. Like Chelsea, what you are going through is a phase, a part of your story… it’s far from all that is meant for you.
Second, everyone has a purpose! You just need to find yours. What did you want to do when you were little? What made you really happy? It doesn’t have to be a specific job or a career, but it can be an aspect or quality of something that can tip you off to your soul’s purpose.
Try to reflect, where did you find bliss when you were seven? That might be your first clue… your soul’s wisdom guiding you to why you are here.
Third, there are always solutions, even if we don’t see immediate answers to life’s challenges.
Fourth, sometimes, great patience is required of us.
Please hang in there and trust that where you are now is not where you will always be!!
Sorry, I am a little pressed for time as I write this, but I wanted to at least let you know that there is definitely hope.
PS — are you 29 or 30 by any chance? That is a pivotal transitional age for everyone.April 16, 2014 at 10:51 am #54865
Thanks for having the courage to be so candid! Matt gave you such wonderful and loving feedback, it may be all you require, though if I may, I’d like to humbly submit this added thought: This experience triggered your “shadow” which is the unresolved or unprocessed pain which we all have stored in the unconscious part of ourselves, as brilliantly defined by Carl Jung.
If you’re human you have a shadow. In fact, no one gets through life without one. It’s the great unifier and nothing to be ashamed. When the shadow shows up (usually at what feels like the worst moments), it meant to challenge us by showing us the “unpretty” sides of ourselves, which ultimately are crying out to be healed.
So, as I see it, the good news is that this experience occurred in order for you to heal something within yourself. You may want to start by asking, “What pain or fear made me look at his phone?” just to get the ball rolling.
By getting to the root of our shadows, we are solving the great mysteries of our lives. If we can better understand this unconscious part of ourselves, then these kinds of situations will have served their purposes, so we can heal, and in turn, forgive.
I hope this is helpful!
To learn more about the shadow, the work of the late great Debbie Ford is wonderful. Her book, The Shadow Effect, is life changing. She made a movie about it as well. Both are terrific! 🙂
AlixApril 16, 2014 at 9:32 am #54862
I am sorry you’re feeling this way!! I agree with The Ruminant and Loopylou and I would also like to add a few more thoughts that may hopefully be of service as well. 🙂
There have been many times in my life where I felt stuck or things weren’t “moving fast enough,” which led to feeling lost and frustrated, but in hindsight, I have always come to realize that that period of “stuckness” ultimately served me in sone way or another.
Here are a few other ideas to help you suss out the value of where you are now which will hopefully ease and perhaps accelerate your path to living your dreams:
1.) Do you have any unresolved business or issues that need to be attended to before you move? This could even mean something like “a clearing of the air” conversation with a co-worker, or completing some volunteer work that you agreed to but haven’t gotten around to finishing.
When I used to work in film and commercial production, when a job was over, it was referred to as “wrapping out.” This is when the last details are taken care of and is just as vital as the previous phases, though it’s definitely the least exciting. So perhaps ask yourself if you are you really ready to “wrap out” of where you are now?
2.) Trusting that even though you are in a transitional period (and this is a powerful transitional period for many of us so you are NOT alone), that it is still valuable. Even though you’re not feeling juiced where you are, you are still on your path to where you need to go. Promise!
3.) The universe is always communicating with us, but it’s often subtle, so subtle in fact, that when we’re upset or distressed, we may not see or feel the communication… signs can be little things like seeing a Robin right outside your bedroom window (a symbol of not only spring, but new beginnings) or hearing a favorite song on the radio, or finding a coin or a pretty feather, or it can be a phone call from someone you were just thinking about… often these loving communiques are of a personal nature regarding what is meaningful to you i.e. did you stumble upon a favorite movie while channel surfing?
4.) Lastly, I have found that developing and practicing gratitude, even when it does not come easily (especially when it does not come easily), is incredibly transformative. Waking up and going to sleep while focusing on what we have to be grateful for (even little basic things, like, “the sun was out today” and “I am healthy,” etc). does wonders for my mood, confidence, and feelings of communion. I can’t recommend it enough.
I hope this is helpful! 🙂
AlixApril 6, 2013 at 6:29 am #31287
Hi Kate, Thanks so much for the ideas. I actually have the Louise Hay book but haven’t referred to it in a while… thanks for the great reminder! And of course, PT is always a good thing, right?
AlixApril 4, 2013 at 6:21 am #30483
PS – Forgot to mention that you have to use headphones (instead of the speaker) to get the optimum results.April 4, 2013 at 6:20 am #30482
I really love the banzailabs.com app I have on my phone. In addition to sleep, they have day time options for things like creativity, energy, etc., which are cool if you’re ever feeling the need.