Dear Robin,

I’m happy you decided to open up. That was very courageous of you, and let me share with you what my thoughts are.

You sound very stressed. It’s okay, let’s tackle your problems one by one. What you must know is that you aren’t alone in your journey. Everyone is wishing you well, including myself. This is one of the setbacks in your life that you have to be strong to conquer. You can do it, seeing how much you have endured in the past, you’ll continue to do so. As such, put on a smile, take a few deep breaths, and just continue living your life as it is! You are already on the right track, believe me, or not. Keep walking and don’t look back. Yes, have trust in where you are going, and stop doubting yourself, sure? Take it slow and steady, at your own pace.

Another advice is to let go of things that cannot be changed. I know this sounds cliche, but it is true. I am sure there are a lot of things in your life that you would like to change if you could, but appreciate these flaws and love the imperfections. Push yourself to continue to have the courage to face life. Fight on, Robin! Your thoughts are a powerful medium. Let your thoughts empower you.

Remember, you are not alone in this.

Let me know if you have anything else on your mind. 🙂

Cheers,

Jun Na

Hi Robin. I hope that job is going well. I usually just lurk and read the inspirational stuff here on Tiny Buddha but I had to reply to your post.

I’ve been and am in your shoes as I type this.In fact I can beat your story 10 times over.I’m 47 years old and have faced divorce,bankruptcy,eviction,unemployment,estrangement from loved ones and health problems in the last 10 years.

Just got laid off in June from a job a had for three years working extremely hard for a low wage.I too am months behind on my car loan and unemployment only pays my rent.

I’ve been trying to rebuild a life for myself forever and it’s 2 steps forward 3 steps back everytime. Have I made you feel better yet? LOL

Best advice I can give is try not to make important life altering decisions while in your weakened state.It seems all the wolves come out when they know you’re down.They’ll try to take your home your car and everything if you let them.Fuck ’em all.

Tell the car co. they”ll get they’re money.Did you know you can get numerous payment extensions by paying a small fee tacked onto your loan. Did you know you have renters rights? Don’t leave your home and don’t make things worse for yourself.I’m the king of self destruction so I speak from experience.

Lastly feel free to email me if you need a friend or advice.rsteve60@ymail.com

Good Luck

Hi Robin,

Around 2009, the same happened to me. I had lost my job, was facing eviction. I only had a little bit of money left from a 401K. My Dad had just passed, had no family or friends to help me. I went to see an attorney. Since it was a long time ago, I don’t remember all the details. But I remember getting help. I got help with my utilities by going to churches. They will help you. I also got help with 1/2 my rent from Salvation Army and St. Vincent Dr Paul. I remember being so desperate, I went to the yellow pages and contacted every single church and social service organization I could and explained my predicament. Many helped me out. Many churches had a social advocate deliver food from their food pantry for me, because I could not afford has to go and get the food. I had two cats, I called numerous animal welfare organizations and they helped me with cat food and even litter.

When I went to the attorney, she contacted a credit counseling agency, I was trying to get on SSDI, and somehow, she negotiated the car payments in at a reduced cost along with my credit card bills, so I could try to avoid bankruptcy and try to keep my car for a few more months. Don’t give up. There are places that will help you. I think I was even given a voucher for public housing. There is hope.

Robin I wish I could offer some advice, but everyone here who has answered you have given you solid advice. Each and everyone of them are your safe harbor in your storm. More importantly, I wish I could ease your pain.

Pearce