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May 9, 2019 at 7:59 pm #293145
AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
One more reason to not have these two women in your boy’s life, one of quite a few reasons!
I will be back to the computer in about ten hours.
anita
May 11, 2019 at 2:03 am #293241
ThonditParticipantHey Anita,
My son is doing great now! I am really taking cares of him most often , when the young who is staying with him hello me on phone and asked me how I am doing; I just ask her straight if the money is over let me know. If there is any problem let me know as well.
Gregory
May 11, 2019 at 6:31 am #293245AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
Why is your son not living with you?
anita
May 11, 2019 at 8:08 pm #293303ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
How are you doing ?
Ever since we were having misunderstanding between me and my estrange wife plus my mother in-laws , and on top of that they were also refusing to give me my son neither to go and visit him with them. They *could * tell me, we don’t want you to see you stepping into into our fenced. While they have my son. Whenever I try to insist and get in by myself without their permission, they immediately grabbed my son when he is playing inside the fence and go inside the house ,to hide my son from me.
I tried my best to respect them and give them a time for about 7 months without going to see my boy nor call them over the phone.
I t came into my mind that if I leave my son for them to raise him up they will soon brain wash him and later on , be will have issue with me.
My mother in-laws was the one rejecting me to see my son and she is letting her daughter go out to go look for the money in the hotels with those men who have money. Later on she come and give her mother money. On top of that , they brag a lots , my mother in-laws has her mother in Canada and she is the one sending them money .
My father in-laws is the richest man and he has declared that I don’t want this woman who I had married some years ago and now when her daughter is being married by the young Pilot , they decided to spoil everything. Now he has spent 3 years without stepping into the house where they are!
He has also refused to support them.
He was the very best friend of mine who decided to give me my son.
Where I live here has no any relatives and my mother passed away 6 years ago when I was finishing my High school in Uganda.
So no body I can give to my son and take cares of him while I go for work. So that was the reason I took him to Kenya.
Once again if I let my son stay with me , her mother will steal him when I am at work.
Thank you for the nice question Anita..
Greg
May 12, 2019 at 9:36 am #293327AnonymousGuestDear Greg:
I am fine, thank you for asking.
You answered very clearly, not like times before when it was difficult for me to understand. I understand therefore why your son is living in Kenya. If he lived with you in Uganda there would be no one to take care of him while you work and your mother in law could take him away from you, and back to living with her, which would be a bad thing for the boy.
What you shared then, is that your estranged wife is prostituting herself in hotels and is giving the money she makes as a prostitute to her mother.
I suppose the relative in Canada who is sending them money is not sending them enough money-
and your father in law who is a rich man also has not supported them financially so that .. it was necessary for his daughter to prostitute herself?
(I am curious about the 150 cows, who received and benefited from that huge gift, your mother in law or father in law?)
anita
May 12, 2019 at 1:06 pm #293345ThonditParticipantThanks Anita,
For the quick response and understanding.
So my son has to be there in Kenya and I will be there for him to support him as a good father . I love my son , he is my everything and my amazing one and perhaps , he is the only oil of my heart.
He will one day do for me the best thing as the father. And I do believe that he will not be like mother and grandmother. 150 cows will not be a lose when I seen my son Agoth.
Ayong, came on Thursday of last week near by market just moving and she found one of the guy who is staying with me , telling that man ; u see me I am growing fat. And when I arrive in the evening from work , he told that your wife came here during the day time.
I couldn’t bother to respond any of questions .
She is totally expired kalas. She will soon be rejected by those players.
May 12, 2019 at 1:14 pm #293349ThonditParticipantAnother News; is that. The Governor of Jubek state , Mr. Augustino Jadalla, declared and banned all the night clubs and hotels to stop those young girls and single mothers who are practicing prostitution in hotels.
He warned and each every hotels has 3 security personnel to see those who will come with girls or women. He says if any couples come to the hotels let them presented the marriage certificate.
Without marriage certificate then they must both go to jail.
May 12, 2019 at 1:40 pm #293353AnonymousGuestDear Greg:
You are welcome.
How interesting, the governor’s declaration, my goodness! That will make a difference: marriage certificate or jail time!
I wonder if that will motivate your estranged wife to try to go back to you. I hope you will not let her back into your life. I hope you do focus on Agoth and that one day you will find love with a good woman, a woman with a good and honest heart who will be good to you and to Agoth.
anita
May 12, 2019 at 6:41 pm #293373ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
Yeah its true. I don’t what she will use again . And another thing, I don’t thing whether I will marriage again Anita, my heart is out from ladies . I think my only Son Agoth, is enough for me. I will only focus how to educate him and myself , so that we fly together as a father and a son.
That is my first priority that I am targeting now. Marriage has a lots of consequences and disgusting , as well as disadvantages , and disappointment. Where on earth , you dated a girl for quite number of decades and unfortunately become a bimbos at the end .
Imy fear is only one thing, some may same I am a failure if i don’t marry again , but I am not. Agoth, is enough for me now Anita , I have a lots of things to do with my Son.
I owe you for more explanations if you want to ask anything , I will be there to respond to you.
Gregory .
May 12, 2019 at 6:51 pm #293379AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
I understand, you had such a bad experience with marriage, a painful one. I understand that you don’t want to get hurt again. I don’t think you are failure for having a failed marriage or for not getting married again. To have the goal of educating your son and yourself and looking forward to do a lot of things together with Agoth, these are worthy goals.
He will be starting baby school soon, you wrote earlier, in Kenya I suppose, I wonder what a baby school like in Kenya?
anita
May 13, 2019 at 1:18 pm #293593ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
Thanks for the quick reply.
My son Agoth, will started his baby class next year. To distance this boy from her mother , than he will be a good person in future .
May 13, 2019 at 2:06 pm #293601AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
Keep his mother (and her mother) away from him then and see to it that the people in his life are good people.
Baby class- I hope he likes it, his teacher, the other children in his class.
anita
May 13, 2019 at 6:08 pm #293621ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
With the help God, I will take care of him more than anything. He is the only thing in my mind now. God, love people who love themselves.
I want to show him the love that he really needs on earth. Her mother , tells hers friends that I do mistreated her and then she decided to go to their home. She said she will look for the baby where he is! !
May 13, 2019 at 6:48 pm #293629AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
“She said she will look for the baby where he is!”- do you mean that she knows where he is staying, that he is in Kenya and what location there?
anita
May 14, 2019 at 9:38 am #293709ThonditParticipantDear Anita ,
Thanks , dear mom, my best friend !! !!
You will always be my best friend up to next generation. If people meet on the other side of the earth , then you will be there for me to support me, encourage , empower me and guide me about the inbound (incoming problems ) that my wife may be planning with her devil mother.
You totally stood with me in this dark time of mine
. I always question myself what I could do to a person like Anita ??? I love your hospitality. You are so precious Anita.
Back to your ⁉️ YES, she knows that my son Agoth , is in Kenya, but she doesn’t know where the boy is!!! ! And however , she has never step in , into Kenya soil.
So she is just lying to herself , that she will go where the baby is !
So worry less Anita, I know I will control my son from these hopeless people who failed for their betterment of their lives.
They are totally confused.
Thanks Anita .
Gregory
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