Hey, so my situation is a bit complicated. Its complicated in a friends’ circle.
Maybe I will write it short.
I met some guy 1.5 year ago. He was from my friend’s group. He had a gf but they broke up later. Since then he has changed. He has changed his image, attidute and so one. He did also a lot of thing concerning his adulthood. He moved out, he started his own company, he met new business friends and so one.
Since february 2015 i saw he has been kind of interested in me. But I was not sure because he was not directly from my ‘friend group’. I was busy with my own stuff, with my own heart problems but whenever I saw him he was looking at me, being very SHY ( even though he is kind of popular in a friend and business circle), trying to talk to me but couldnt, following me and so one.
We were only meeting at parties.Whevener someone asked about his gfs and i was aroung he was neglecting it he was telling : what gfs, i dont have anyone. He was too nice to me, and bvery nervous when i was around. SO i was like : ok maybe he likes me but even if he is popular – he is too shy…
We have a common friend, a girl whom i ve known 7 years. He knew him since 2 years. She called him best friend. He called her: a homie or so one.
Whevener we met up and she was around she was some kind of blocking me from him, disturbing conversations, disturbing time we were spending with each other. Like she would be jealosu of her friend. I dont know why. Like she would not let him talk to me or so one dance or flirt.
She told me that he had a lot of gfs before and she told me that he is a player a bad boy in a circle of friends.
But he was helping me with some school stuff, he was being nice to me and so one. Friends were telling he is interested because he didnt behave like this since forever.

After one party we had and intimate encounter . It lasted about 2 days and later on he invited me over next day, behaving like my boyfriend, being too nice to me. When THAT girl noticed that she was spamming me on facebook next couple of days asking about him, what i feel for him, do i want something. Like she would be and advocate or so one.. Being too curious and sometimes aggresive. She told me that he told her he didnt want anything from me. BUt his actions and behaviour indicated something different….

So it was one week of silence and i decided to text him about the meeting. He agreed but we didnt meet. In the same time SHE took him to the other city for a party… And after that weekend he didnt answer, he didnt meet up with me. He didnt even tell me he was back in town.

So there was an issue there and I was a bit upset. Later on we were meeting up several times in the city centre, on parties. Whenever we met he was ignoring me, didnt look into my eyes and so one. Being too nervous like i would do sth to him.

So i made the atmosphere cold and i didnt contact with him and with anybody. After 1 or 2 months that girl asked me what was going on and i told her that nothing i was busy. She told me that HE was busy as well because she had a contact with him. She is his best friend so she KNOW almost everything- she was saying that.

BUT i know its not true because he has other friends as well, male friends that he parties with and treats this girl like a male friend…
So some months passed and we againg were meeting up on parties. He was againg behaving like he would care for me but being shy. I didnt understand that. Because we slept together and i was the one with a courage to asked about the talk and asked to meet up and now he was just bumping in a club inviting me over or asking me what i was doing next days… :)… So weird….

So after some weeks he invited me over his bday. I bought a present with a friend. He didnt thank for it only me. He was turning his back to me , dodnt notice, was weird. Idk if high or drunk. Whatever.
Later on someone told me he would win some business in Brasil with his friends. He didnt tell me about it. I didnt know. Now he is there and doing business for 2 months in a film industry. He became kind of popular in there. and I feel weird.
On his farwell party he didnt talk to me ignored me as well.
His friend told me : he is shy to you, he thinks you are stressed about it and thats why he is stressed. and i was like WAAAT. WHY? Why would he told you this not me?
So weird. He plays an adult but he cant speak to me about it?
…

So on his farewell party he was dancing and kissed some girl. So i was like : OK Im done.

Next day i was ok untill his best friend from high school wrote to me. He was asking me about my relationship adn so one. He told me that i am too shy and distanced. He told me its me who pulls back and its me who reject men. And i was like : WHY and he told me that I REJECTED SOMEONE. and he told me that i dont see signs , men signs when someone is interested.

So i was a bit confused.

Now i am confused as well

I am 25, he is 26.

he comes back from brasil next months.

THIS GIRL told me he is going to london with her for a techno festival ( even though she has a new bf and knows his friends)…

I dont know if i am a bit weak if it comes to relationships. I think that hmmm its my stupid opinion- he didnt know what to say and do with me, maybe he was into me but was scared of commitment.because he is a free spirit now.
AND SHE doesnt wanna lose him as a friend. thats why maybe she was too domineering and possesive. Like she would control the situation around her.

Its like whevener she see i flirt with some of friends she is too interested. Last week i was dancing with someone and next day she was asking me about him 15 mins… I was like LOL whatever why are u asking me this.

The problem is i think that maybe she told him something that i didnt want him or so OR she would feel insecure when two of her friends would get together.

I know it sounds stupid. But before when she was single she was the queen of the company . Like she owuld be surrounded with 10 boys. and whenever some of them would lirt with someone she would be too interested in that … U know what i mean? Like she would not let them or would not loose her knights…

And im her friend from high school and she knows im a bit sensitive, artistic…
But it doesnt explain that he didnt want to talk to me and meet me after my text… When i texted him on his bday asking what was going on he was just like : what do you mean???

So i dont know if its his fault or she did something inside the company as well
because now even thiugh she has a bf she would be around him, hugging him, being like a mother to him and treats him like a son or so…….. and for me its so weird….

what do u suggest for me?

should i let it go? should i just give up from this company? because i feel like he dumped me.
when i heard i dumped him i was like woooow what?

and i feel like this girl which is a controller in a company doesnt let her friend being together. u know what i mean?
she asks me about boys very often idk why she would be so interested in what happened between us 😉