Dear Lola
I agree with all of the above advice.
I have just left a very similar relationship. We were together for 3 years before he moved in to mine. In the year we lived together, he became more dominant, more controlling. His needs became all important, my needs & feelings were suppressed as it sounds yours are being. I kept working on it, listing all his good points. But the fact was that spiritually & emotionally we were on different planets (as it sounds like you are)
He said so many of the things that your boyfriend has said to you. It is a method of control. He is saying you are not as important as he and therefore he does not have to treat you as an equal.
You should be cherished & nurtured in a loving relationship. I realised I was not and it was diminishing me inside. So I left. You need to ask yourself the same question.
I wrote about the end of my relationship in the Share your truth forum, which you can read. Maybe some of it will resonate with you. If it does it may help you in your decision.
Your values about love and happiness are spot on.
I agree, you deserve better!
You deserve to be appreciated for working hard inside & outside the home; you deserve to be complimented on your beauty and your size 8 body; you deserve to be cherished!
Warmest wishes
Sue
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