Makes me 😊 just to read from you, whether you’re grateful or not, whatever you feel.. it’s just good to read from you.

How are you, Lisa, 10 days since we talked last?

Hey Kelly:

I hear how upset you are, and in my mind, it’s understandable. I relate because I too grew up in a home where my father repeatedly cheated on my mother (before they got divorced when I was 6), and she turned her anger on him before they got divorced, and then, she turned it on me and on my younger sister- for many years after.

Right now it seems like it’s all too much for you and you need a break, a real break, so to calm down and become steady, grounded.

The break you’re having with him right now is.. not a break for you because.. you’re afraid to lose him altogether.. do I understand..?

🍃 Anita

Dear Alessa:

I am ☺️ to hear from you. It sounds like you’ve been very busy for a long time. I’m glad you wrote when you could 🤍

Bogart and I are doing well. I am sitting comfortably on a lounge chair right now, typing on the (surviving) computer, while Bogart is sleeping and lightly snoring besides me 🐶💤

It must have taken a lot of patience to work through all those tangles with the cat, especially while building trust at the same time. It’s sweet to picture him getting more playful and comfortable in your home 🐱

Congratulations on the 84% 🎉— that’s a strong result, especially with everything else you’re juggling. It makes sense that the tests feel back‑to‑back right now, but you seem to be moving through them skillfully.

Potty training can definitely ebb and flow, so I heard. It’s such a long process, and your energy naturally shifts over time. Like you said, he’ll get there.

I’m glad you’re finding the book interesting. I’ll be curious to hear your thoughts about it.

And starting nursery at the end of April sounds like it could bring some rest 😴💤 into your days. I hope that transition goes smoothly for both of you.

🤍 Anita & Bogart

Hi Kelly Nguyen: I’ll be away from the computer for a few hours. Will reply when I am back.

I hope today has been a better day 🙏?

How are you these days, Thomas? 🤔 🙂

Hello Kelly Nguyen:

Welcome to the forums, I’m glad you posted here 😊

There’s a thread right under yours titled “I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love”-

It was started in Aug 2015 and is still ongoing. Dozens of members shared their stories and I replied to all through the years. I think that it may help you to read parts of this thread (even though you may have not “just randomly and suddenly”, or permanently, lost your feelings for your boyfriend).

As I read your original post I was deeply impressed by your level of emotional honesty and awareness. Also, I got the feeling, or impression that your boyfriend is a decent person who- like you- is able to learn and grow into a more loving partner.

In my mind, it’s no wonder that you’re experiencing difficulties in the relationship, being that, if I understood correctly, your mother has been nurturing and caring on one hand, and unleashing her anger at you (and your sister) for years.

This combination is what I grew up with and it caused me to crave intimacy on one hand.. and distrust it, on the other.

Does this resonate?

🤔 🍃 Anita