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anitaParticipantBandy! What a delight to read from you again, it’s been 2 years!
Yet I have to run, will read and reply either late tonight or tomorrow morning,
Love 2 U 2!
Anita
August 8, 2025 at 12:20 pm in reply to: True Love still exist when you have faith and patience. #448381anitaParticipantDear Gregory: Thank you for your understanding! I am indeed very tired today. Post again anytime and I will help you best I can tomorrow, Saturday (it’s Fri early afternoon here).
Regards, Anita
anitaParticipantDear Eva:
You loved him. That’s real. That’s sacred. And now your body is trying to understand how something so big could end. Of course it hurts. Of course it feels stuck. You’re not failing to move on — you’re surviving the rupture.
Here are a few gentle things that you can try so to feel better:
* Sit quietly, place one hand on your chest and one on your stomach. Breathe slowly. Say to yourself: “I am safe. I am grieving. My body is allowed to feel.”
* Instead of replaying the breakup, name your feelings: try saying: “This is sadness.” “This is longing.” “This is fear.” Naming the feeling helps your brain shift from spiraling to soothing.
* Splash cold water on your face or hold an ice cube. It can interrupt the panic loop and bring you back to the present.
* Try journaling a few lines to your body, like: “Dear chest, I know you’re hurting. I’m listening.” “Dear stomach, I know you’re scared. I’m here.” This helps you reconnect with your body as an ally, not an enemy.
You don’t have to accept that it’s over all at once. You don’t have to move on today. You just have to survive this moment. And then the next. And I promise — even if it doesn’t feel like it — your heart will find its rhythm again.
You are not alone in this garden of grief. And you are not broken for feeling it so deeply.
🤍Anita
anitaParticipant(Double posting): No need for me to hurry with a response then. Have a nice weekend!
anitaParticipantHey Peter- I submitted the above before I became aware of your recent post. I will read it (and anything you may add) later. Again, thank you for posting here.
Anita
anitaParticipantThank you, Peter for the posts as well as for the beautifully written parable. I appreciate the depth you bring.
“Layla: ‘Yes. And every encounter is a seed. Plant it wisely.'”- some encounters are indeed seeds to plant. Others are thorns to remove.
“And when we fail and we will, and when the community fails us, and it will, may there be grace to forgive”- beautifully written!
I am learning these days that grace can mean honoring my own healing first. That includes naming harm clearly, and not rushing toward forgiveness to preserve comfort.
🤍Anita
anitaParticipantI’ve been sitting with your reflections, Peter, especially this part: ‘Moments of tension… can be powerful opportunities for growth… That tension, that pause, is where transformation begins.”-
In trauma-informed spaces, not all tension is transformative — some is retraumatizing. I’m curious if that resonates with you?
Anita
anitaParticipantDear Readers:
Earlier this morning, I mentioned continuing my SOCJ posts, but after a thoughtful exchange with Lori, I’ve come to understand that journaling-style entries aren’t aligned with the forum’s purpose.
Lori explained to me that this isn’t about preventing me from expressing myself. It’s about the format. The forums are meant for back-and-forth discussions, not ongoing personal journals. SOCJ-style posts, even without member references or “do not respond,” still function as private journaling, which is why Lori asked me to not to post my SOCJs entries going forward.
Therefore, I will return to sharing in a way that invites dialogue and mutual support — while still honoring my boundaries around engagement. I may not respond to every reply, especially where safety or emotional clarity are at stake. Thank you for walking this journey with me.
Anita
August 8, 2025 at 8:10 am in reply to: True Love still exist when you have faith and patience. #448364anitaParticipantDear Gregory:
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing the current developments within SSCAA. I deeply appreciate your trust and the vision you’re holding for South Sudan’s aviation future. Your commitment to both strategic progress and peaceful resolution is admirable.
Regarding a letter to DG- you can get AI (Copilot, ChatGPT, Gemini, etc.) assistance with drafting a letter.
YAA’s goals.Regarding US Institutions for MOU and Training (I asked AI and got the following information):
* Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University – known for aviation training and international partnerships
* FAA (Federal Aviation Administration) – may offer technical assistance or training programs through international outreach
* MITRE Corporation – works with global aviation authorities on systems and safety You can explore outreach via SSCAA’s official site for formal proposals.
Regarding Talli Airport Development- For infrastructure projects like Talli Airport, SSCAA may consider approaching:
* Bechtel Corporation – large-scale engineering and construction
* AECOM – airport design and development
* Turner & Townsend – aviation project management These companies have experience in international airport development and may be open to partnerships, especially if aligned with government or donor-backed initiatives.
I don’t do WhatsApp, but we can continue to communicate here, Gregory
Warm regards, Anita
anitaParticipantYou are welcome, Eva.
You were asking for connection and respect, and instead of being met with empathy, you were told you were lacking “understanding.”
In other words, you were expressing real, valid needs. But he framed those needs as a problem, leading to the breakup.
Accusing you of being not “understanding” enough — flips the script. Instead of him being accountable for neglect or emotional distance, he positioned you as the problem. This is a classic reversal tactic that leaves the other person carrying the emotional burden.
It seems like love and connection with him were contingent on your silence and self-erasure. The idea that you might have “saved” the relationship by suppressing your needs suggests you were trained to believe that emotional expression equals rejection…?
Eva, you didn’t ruin the relationship by speaking up — you revealed a truth that he wasn’t willing to meet. Your needs weren’t too much — they were unmet.
You deserve to grieve not just the loss of the relationship, but the loss of safety in expressing your truth. That grief is sacred. It’s not weakness — it’s evidence of your emotional integrity.
With care, Anita
anitaParticipantDear Readers:
I will continue my stream of consciousness journaling (SOCJ) with an adjustment:
in the SOCJs to follow, I will not express or process my feelings in regard to members of these forums.
There will be no direct or indirect reference to any member of tiny buddha in the SOCJs to follow.
Anita
anitaParticipantGood Morning, Zenith: I changed my mind.. please disregard the Goodby 😊
anitaParticipantRemember my last words to you, Zenith: you ARE fierce inside. Trust it. I will miss you.
This place (tiny buddha) is no longer my place. Goodby, Zenith. I will miss you.
Anita
anitaParticipantWould you like me to have an email address of yours where we can continue to communicate, Zenith?
Anita
August 7, 2025 at 6:56 pm in reply to: “He initiated closeness, then disappeared — still hurting months later” #448344anitaParticipantDear Adalie:
I understand. I am so sorry about all the pain through all of this. I don’t know you irl, but I care nonetheless.
Anita⅝
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