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anitaParticipantMy goodness, Nichole.. May your father finally rest in peace.
No guilt belongs to you, none whatsoever. You are a good 👍 person, always have been a good daughter!
I’ve been having a cold and bladder infection (fun.. not) throughout the holidays, Plus a new beagle dog, So, one day at a time.
I will answer more in the morning.
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantOh, and no, didn’t have any side effects for taking Zoloft (an SSRI).
anitaParticipantHey Confused:
The antidepressants (zoloft, U.S. brand name, which is also an anti OCD drug was wonderful at first. I remember describing it like a pair of scissors that cut off the chains of obsessive, ruminating thinking.
But then, because I didn’t have enough psychotherapy and too much instability in my loge no progress was made for about 15 years until I finally attended quality psychotherapy.
So, I would say, anti-depressants can be wonderful short-term but no substitution for effective, high quality psychotherapy.
Oh, zI understand, you were talking about the movie. Coming to think about it, I was a year younger than you when I watched it for the first time.
Just a pup 🐶(excuse the typos, it’s using the phone (broke my computer the other day and since then, I have access to a 2nd computer only part of the time.
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipant2026.. time flies
anitaParticipantI had a pattern, I say I HAD, byut it’s been up to very recently- that of submitting (people pleasing) on one hand and rebelling against my own pattern of submission and either becoming somewhat aggressive or just withdrawing.
It’s been either I am less than you (and I therefore submit), or I rebel against my self-imposed inferiority and get 😠
The middle way is doing neither, starting with never submitting, never accepting a position of inferiority, nor volunteering one.
And then extending the value of EQUALITY to everyone: I am no less than you; you are no less than me.
I didn’t think 😕 I’d have a New Year Resolution for 2016, but I do: Never Again Submit, Never Again people-please, but be unapologetically authentic and honest, guided by the Principle: I am no less than you; You are no less than me.
AMEN.
Anita
January 1, 2026 at 6:26 pm in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453720anitaParticipant*hoping, not *giping”, for crying out loud
January 1, 2026 at 6:23 pm in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453719anitaParticipant* “But lucky me, no brains 🧠…”-
Thomas the SEHM
(Self-Efacing Humor Master).
I’m a fan, Thomas ✌️ (just wanted to show my appreciation, giping tou would like the appreciation)
anitaParticipantYou are quite a mystery to me, me.
Positively a mystery, I mean. I wonder 🤔 if you’ve been a mystery for her as well (“left her puzzled”).
Maybe you leave before you explain..?
anitaParticipantHey Confused:
Yes, I was diagnosed with major depression and was on antidepressants as well as on other psychiatric drugs for 17 straight years. Got off all the drugs 13 years ago.
If you take antidepressants, I hope it will be short term.
“read the meaning”- please explain what you mean..?
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantHow are you, Squiggly pop?
anitaParticipantHow are you, Q?
January 1, 2026 at 5:21 pm in reply to: growing up – becoming adul / procrastination – in connection to childhood trauma #453710anitaParticipantA kick (not a cick) and other misspellings due to using my phone 😑
January 1, 2026 at 5:20 pm in reply to: growing up – becoming adul / procrastination – in connection to childhood trauma #453709anitaParticipantDear Robie:
You may get a cick out of it: during my Dec 31 get together at the local taproom, I talked to a Polish woman (who has a strong accent) about you living in Poland and in 🇷🇴 (I am using my phone and these emojis show up).
Well, this attachment style 😎 (lol) is not something you were born with, it’s the way you instinctively adapted to what you were born into, the emotional alone-ness, the isolation, the lack of space of your own (having to minimize your computer screen- and emotions- when “invaded”.
There’s healing to be done, just enough to make a breakthrough.
I like 👍 how you spent your Christmas 🎄 Eve. I am nursing a cold for days now, 😕, hoping to be finally done with it soon!
About healing.. what’s the last 🤔 we talked about it, do you remember?
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantHey Condused:
“Tring to find my feelings”, you wrote. What an interesting choice of words.
Trying to find your lost good 👍 feelings you mean, right? Because you do have the negative ones.
If only there was a magical ✨️ ay to bring back the positive ones!
(I am using my phone, so emojis to match my words keep showing up 🙂).
I know depression all too well 😪. Reminds me of The Nothing in the 1984 movie “The Never Ending Story”, it’s the destructive force that takes over when hopes and dreams 💔 are gone.
I wonder 🤔 I’d you’d enjoy the movie even though it’s old/ low tech.
In this fantasy movie, a child warrior and his horse, well, his horse 🐎 gets stuck in the “swamp of depression”. Lots of symbolism in the movie.
One day, and I hope sooner than later, you will no longer be stuck in depression hopes and dreams will return! 🙏
🤍 Anita
January 1, 2026 at 4:38 pm in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453707anitaParticipantBig, not “bug”, lol (using my phone)
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