Hi Peter:

“The small self resists this truth, clinging to control and fearing the surrender that freedom requires.”- you said it so perfectly!

“Realizations are not meant to remain as ideas but to sink into us, becoming embedded, becoming flesh. In this way, embodiment is the quiet shift where belief dissolves, and life itself becomes the expression of knowing. Flow”-

I want to surrender to Flow.. but I need not grasp to the wanting to surrender; just humbly, ego-less-ly surrender. Like right now.

It is very difficult because of these Tourette tics. They are in the way of relaxing and surrendering, and I don’t know how to stop them, or if it’s at all possible to stop (for anyone in my place). They’re a half century+ neurological-muscular habit.

Regardless, I am willing to surrender best I can. I think I am surrendering right now. I am hearing the rain (been raining all day).

I am not even following what I’m saying right now, not checking to see if I’m making (ego) sense.. lol.

So, going with the flow, as I hear the rain, and see the total darkness outside the windows. The only light is coming out of the computer screen showing the printed letters I’m clicking..

It feels like the rain is not for me or against me; nether is the darkness, it feels like I am part of the rain and the rain is part of me, and so is the darkness. And the people I interact with on these forums.. no separateness, not really.

.. I just got worried: how do I sound, how do I come across.. Have I just made a fool of myself..

But that’s just ego, is it, Peter?

I am having a feel, a felt realization of non-separateness right now.

Anita

Dear me: You are very welcome! So, it’s adios for this thread… I am looking forward to a new thread.

Take care, me, I am missing you already 😊

🤍 Anita

Another double posting, Peter (this time only 3 minutes apart). I am taking a Tao break (just a joke 😊) and will get back to you later.

* Hi Thomas: I was wondering if you read the message I addressed to you 2 days ago (Dec 6) right above? It may be that you didn’t notice it.

Hi Peter:

In your 2nd message yesterday (the one you addressed to everyone) you expressed (I am paraphrasing and will use the 1st person) that peace and flow don’t come from trying harder. They come when I stop forcing, relax, and let life express itself through me. Then rules and techniques don’t disappear; they become so deeply part of me that my actions flow naturally.

Developing my thoughts: your phrase “heaven beneath our feet” is a poetic way of saying that the sacred/ peace/ ultimate reality isn’t somewhere far away — it’s already present right here, in ordinary life. You’re rejecting the idea that heaven (or peace, or enlightenment) is something you reach later, after effort or achievement. Instead, it’s always underfoot — part of each step, each moment.

I don’t “climb up” to heaven; I simply notice the ground I’m already walking on. It’s like walking in a beautiful garden while worrying about finding paradise somewhere else. The moment I stop searching, I realize paradise is already under my feet — the grass, the earth, the present moment.

When serious problems arise, “heaven beneath our feet” would mean remembering that peace and clarity are already here. By relaxing into that presence, my actions become more natural, less forced, and often more effective. When facing a problem, I need to remind myself: I can’t fix everything today, but I can take one clear step. And I need to pause and rest so to not make big decisions in the heat of panic.

Rushing to fix is like thrashing in quicksand — the harder I flail, the deeper I sink. It’s trying to fix everything at once and making decisions in the heat of panic,, being panic‑driven and reactive while Flow is calm, present, and allows the next right step to emerge naturally, one step at a time.

And now, to your most recent post. Here you’re saying that Flow doesn’t mean shutting down my emotions or pretending I don’t care. It means to feel what’s already here, but not to pile extra struggle on top. For example: If I feel grief, let myself feel it. But don’t add the mental fight like “this shouldn’t have happened” or “I wish I could change the past.”

Non‑attachment= not clinging to what can’t be changed, not fighting reality.

I can still feel sadness, still care deeply, still honor what mattered to me, and at the same time, let go of the argument with reality/ stop the inner fight like “this shouldn’t have happened” or “I must undo it.”/ stop endlessly resisting what already happened and cannot be changed.

You added that self‑approval reduces self‑criticism, and therefore, it’s helpful. But if you tie it too tightly to “flow,” it can become another form of striving — like trying to score points for being good at flowing. Flow is just noticing feelings without effort, without grading myself.

“For tonight: take one slow exhale. Notice one thing you did today that came naturally. Let your body settle.
May you have a good Tao night of sleep and rest. Amen.”- Thank you for and for the 2 messages I processed in this post and for the excellent advice, will do tonight. Actually, will do today. You are a good Flow Instructor, Peter 🙏🙏🙏

🤍 Anita

Hi Peter:

I just noticed the message you addressed to me a bit more than 4 hours ago, thank you! I will answer Mon morning. I do hope to have a Tao night..