Dear Nichole:

Bogart is improving except when 🐇 🐇 🐇 are involved. The other day I let him off the leash so that he could freely run as I’ve done before and it went well, before. This time, he got himself into a huge, dense, tall mass of thorny, sharp blackberries. Next, I hear him making horribly alarming barks, so, I am thinking he’s caught in the blackberries bleeding and calling for help.

And there’s just no way for a human to get into the blackberries (tens if not hundreds of thousands, dense blackberries) without special equipment and team work of some kind.

Fast forward, at the point where I’m beside myself, he finally showed up, no injuries. The Sounds he made- those were the calls of excitement a beagle makes when on the tracks of 🐰 🐰 🐰

I am not letting him off the leash anymore, at least not close to that area!

“The flying 🐒 🐒 🙈 coming out of the woodwork”- ha ha, you have a way with words, Nichole 😃

I 🤞 you more floating out of depression as you steer away of flying-monkeys-paths.

“Becoming more Me”- I like the idea behind it: Nichole becoming more.. looking forward to reading!

How do you “harass” your 🐈?

🙈 🐇 🐒 🐰 🐕 🐈 Anita

Thank you, Thomas for letting me know that Zen Stories are not meant to be analyzed.

“I Am, therefore, I analyze” is what I would have said in the past, but that’s a rigid, limitin belief (referring to Peter’s story).

I Am- I Notice, therefore I can coose to not analyze.

🙏 Anita

Good morning, Peter:

“Even when there is noise and violence, there is a part of us that just notices… the ‘quiet Id.’…The lowest chakra is the highest.. we return home (to) know it for the first time? The last shell be first and the first shell be last.. an inner fact?”-

I am in awe of your creative, original thinking, Peter.

In Freud’s theory, the Id is chaotic, primitive, impulsive. You softened and reframed the old meaning, using it as a new metaphor (Peter’s Original Metaphor- POM) for the deepest, quietest part; the steady, observing core of the self— the part that doesn’t get shaken.

You flipped the meaning completely.

You are saying that the deepest part of me is not wild, or broken, or chaotic, or in danger. This POM is revolutionary for me because it brings the abstract (up there) to the concrete (down to earth).

You are saying that my fear, anxiety, tension, that’s not the core of who I am. These were “first” only because they formed early. But they are not the deepest truth or the final word, or the essence of me.

It, the Id, is the part that existed before fear, before danger, before breath‑holding. It’s my inner quiet, inner strength, inner home.

The outer, first shell is the anxious part, the breath‑holding part, the danger‑scanning part, the part that reacts fast. This shell formed first in my life. The inner shell (the last shell) is the quiet, steady part, the part that notices without being shaken, the part that breathes naturally, the part that isn’t “good” or “bad”. The part that simply is

So far in my life, I tried to heal the first shell almost exclusively through one lens or frame (analysis of childhood, psychology). In a concrete way, you introduced to me a 2nd frame- to shift my attention from the first shell to the last.

.. The “last shell” (the quiet awareness) is actually the first in importance. The “first shell” (the fear, the breath‑holding) is actually the least true part of me — just a protective layer.

Saying it yet again: fear is not my core. My quiet is my core: I am sensing an identity shift. This is not a matter of abstract spirituality for me. It’s a matter of shifting identity.

* So, when I feel tension, I can name it: ‘This tension is the outer shell.’ No judgment. No fixing. Just naming. Then bring my attention one layer deeper: ‘The inner shell is quiet.’- shifting my awareness from the anxious surface to the steady underneath.

“What if ‘exhaling’ isn’t a luxury, but… Something available to everyone with eyes that see and ears that hear?” (Peter)-

Shift the fight‑or‑flight reflex that says, ‘don’t let go.’, ‘don’t exhale’, => => => ‘I am life exhaling. It’s not something for me to control’, ‘Breath is happening. I don’t have to manage it. Or to earn it, or to wait for it’

Outer shell is tense. Inner shell is quiet. I am life exhaling.. I will let it all settle.

Thank you, Peter 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

🌿✨🍃 Anita

I’ll b Back 2 u Wed morn (Tues night here) 🌙

“All this suffering in my head” is still you suffering.

Why is it that you no longer suffering be a top priority?

Well, Confused, you are invested in this LDR, you are persistent, loyal.. and you’re suffering since Nov- 4 months of suffering.

Hey 👋 Confused:

In-person is good.

I read that a LD relationship is difficult for anyone, particularly a person with an anxious attachment style (a very common style).

Overall, seems like this LDR is not working out for you. I just wish 🤞 you experience clarity and peace of mind soon, as soon as possible.

Prioritize your mental- emotional well- being above anything and anyone.

🙏 Anita