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anitaParticipantHey Confused:
It’s okay that you reminded me of things that made me sad π. Sad is so much better than dissociation for me, at this point.
You are trying to think π€ your way into understanding things. Thinking is no substitute for feeling when it comes to understanding what you’re trying to understand.
Might as well stop thinking (if you could) until you can feel more about what was and what is.
An old song π΅ comes to mind: “Feelings, oh, oh, oh πΆ feelings”- I forgot the rest of the words (thoughts) because what stuck in my mind was.. Feelings, oh oh oh…
π€ πΆ π€ Anita
anitaParticipantDear Alessa:
Thank you for your kindness, Alessa π Oh, no, I wasn’t at all offended by your advice in regard to πBogart. On the contrary, I appreciate it. Every time I’m in the car with him I make sure the windows are partly open so that he can have fresh air (you suggested it would help with his anxiety).
I am sorry to read that your son has been having an irritable, difficult day. I hope tomorrow will be a better day for the two of you π
Not writing in my own thread is a good thing for now. In regard to my weekend: it was nice spending some time in the taproom yesterday late afternoon. Still early Sunday morning here and will be going for a walk with Bogart in a local park that’s perfect for walking dogs. So, that would be the highlight of my day, I predict.
* In regard to world doomsday predictions: it’s well known that a lot of videos online, especially on YouTube, tend to make everything sound much scarier than it really is. Fear gets clicks, so the dramatic predictions get pushed to the top. Itβs easy for anyone to feel overwhelmed after watching too much of that.
It’s important to remember that a lot of the economic and geopolitical content online is designed to amplify fear because fear keeps people watching. Watching those feed fear. Itβs helpful to not let the internetβs more dramatic- catastrophizing corners shape our emotional reality.
I try to remind myself that the world is always more balanced than the extreme voices make it seem. Yes, there are serious challenges, but there are also many systems and people working quietly to keep things stable. We donβt hear about that as much because itβs not exciting.
For me, it helps to focus on what we can actually control β learning useful skills, staying connected to the people around us, and staying present. Humans have lived through so many uncertain times, and we always find ways to adapt.
I really like what you said, Alessa, about passing on skills and resilience to the next generation. That feels like a healthy, constructive way to think about the future.
I wish you and your son a good evening and a restful night ahead π΄ π β π€
π€ Anita
January 24, 2026 at 7:40 pm in reply to: Gf’s Dad passing was the final straw into ending our long distance relationship #454514
anitaParticipantDear Alecsee:
I didn’t read all of your recent update or all that you shared since July 2025, but what stayed in my mind as I reread tonight is that you mentioned your attachment style being the Anxious style.
And I noticed you didn’t share anything about your childhood that might have led to your Anxious Attachment Style.. Did you?
The answers you are looking for may be in re-visiting your Anxious attachment childhood origins..???
π€π Anita
anitaParticipantOh, dear Alessa: I wrote “give me a shout”, an American saying – as I know it.
But you are quiet, you told me. You don’t shout βΊοΈ – so whenever you want my input on anything, just whisper it- in any of your threads or in any of mine, including the “Reconnecting” one that I started just for you.
When you address a post to me, I will answer every time.
π€ππππ Anita
anitaParticipantDear Bea:
It’s Sat evening here, not 7 pm yet, very dark and way below freezing outside.
I Visited the local taproom this afternoon/ eve, had a glass of π·, talked with a few people I know, familiar faces, familiar voices. I love familiar.
I crave social interactions, it’s like oxygen for me.
Do you socialize irl?
π€π Anita
anitaParticipantHey Dear Alessa:
You are very welcome, so good to read that you are feeling better π π. Well, it’s been slow here in the forums, I didn’t feel like posting in my own thread and I didn’t want to write much to you because of your cold/ chest infection.. I wanted to give you space. I always read your posts and whenever you want to talk to me, just give me a shout (here or in any of my existing threads).
π©΅ π π€ Anita
anitaParticipantGood to read that you are doing well, Bea. I am well too, just in a rush. I’ll write more later π
January 24, 2026 at 2:22 pm in reply to: Gf’s Dad passing was the final straw into ending our long distance relationship #454507
anitaParticipantSo good to read back from you, Alecseeπ I am looking forward to reading your update later this evening (or by tomorrow morning at the latest).
anitaParticipantYou are a good person, Debbie π I admire you for rescuing older dogs π. Barney is fortunate! Just came back from a walk ππΆin the frosty cold with Bogart. I keep telling him he’s a good boy ad he really loves hearing it. He’s 6 months old, going on 7, a toddler in human years, still a pup.
good luck (and preparation) for the snowmaggedon..π¨οΈπͺοΈβοΈ
ππΆAnita
anitaParticipantYes, my first dog ever. Didn’t know what I was missing! Thank you!
It makes sense for you to not pay for a session just to discuss her comment.
Six dogs and 4 cats.. Wow! How do you manage? (I am just about to take Bogart the Beagle for his 2nd longer walk of the day).
anitaParticipantGood to read back from you less than an hour after I asked! Well, since we talked back in Aug of last year, two major changes happened in my life, the second being having a beagle, first dog I ever had. He’s very affectionate and adorable.. and referring to the title of your thread, no shaming. He never tries to make me feel badly.
Please share whatever you feel comfortable sharing (I will soon be away from the computer for a while)
π€ Anita
anitaParticipantHow are you, John?
anitaParticipantHow are you, Debbie?
January 24, 2026 at 12:16 pm in reply to: Gf’s Dad passing was the final straw into ending our long distance relationship #454493
anitaParticipantHow are you. Alecsee?
anitaParticipantHow are you, Lindsey???
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