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January 23, 2026 at 7:32 pm in reply to: Understanding someone who's recently divorced and not ready #454479
anitaParticipantAlmost 4 months since you posted last, Dafne. I hope 🙏 that you’re okay 👍.. and even better than okay.
🤍 Anita
January 23, 2026 at 7:29 pm in reply to: Should I Forget about him, or was he the one that got away? #454478anitaParticipantHow are you, Emma???
January 23, 2026 at 7:27 pm in reply to: “Giants Of The Nile” Bright Star – South Sudan Basketball Team. #454477anitaParticipantGregory, if you are reading this, how are you?
anitaParticipantHow are you, NYC Artist?
anitaParticipantHow are you, Eva?
anitaParticipantDear Sushmita:it will be 3 months since you posted last (it will be in 2 days). How are you???
anitaParticipantHow are you, Calm Moon 🌙?
anitaParticipantDear Clara:
3 months and a day since you posted last. How are you, Chau/ Clara???
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantYou are very kind, Mollie 😊. Thank you. Hope to speak to you soon, anytime 🤍
anitaParticipantDear Alessa: Praying for your healing and recovery 🩵 🙏 🤍 🩵 🙏 🤍
anitaParticipantGood morning, Confused:
I was confused yesterday but realize this morning that the questions I asked you yesterday require emotional access you don’t yet have because of your emotional shutdown.
At one point last evening (my last message to you), I thought you were avoiding my questions, not realizing you weren’t yet able to answer them.
I was trying to help you name what you feel, but it may have put you in a position where you feel that you must “perform clarity” for me.
Instead of asking you to define the pressure, fear, or responsibility (cognitively demanding questions given your emotional state), I better shift toward trying to help you notice rather than explain, asking questions that don’t require clarity — only observation. Here are two such questions:
1) When you think of being responsible for her feelings, what sensation comes up?
2) When you imagine her needing you, what’s the first thing you feel — even if it’s numbness?
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantTalk to me, Zenith, anytime. It’s the old childhood wounds bleeding into adulthood; child Zenith finding herself a mother.
Don’t give up, Zenith; don’t give in. There’s hope, there’s a better way.
🤍✨️🌙 Anita
anitaParticipantHey Confused:
I hope that you will “feel consciously” what you need to feel consciously ☺️
May the Force be with you, Confused (it’s a Star Wars saying).
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantI am thinking about a way to guide you toward more Clarity and Less Confusion, Confused.
Look at the sentence you wrote above- well, I’ll copy it and in parentheses ask you to clarify. I will number the requests for clarification):
“U talked about pressure (# 1: I talked of pressure to do what, specifically?) and responsibility (#2: responsibility for what or whom, specifically), I can sense responsibility (#3: you sense responsibility for what or whom, specifically?), but not the pressure (#4: you don’t feel pressure to do what?) and the “fear” behind them (#5: what fear don’t you feel, specifically?), consciously…???
anitaParticipantYou lack empathy, Zenith? This is not at all my experience with you.. hmm. Well, even if you don’t feel empathy or emotionally mature/ regulated (it takes humility to acknowledge that, Zenith. I am I’m pressed!), you can learn what to say and how to say it in regard to your kiddo (regardless of how you feel).
And ChatGPT can help with what to say and how to say it in different parental circumstances (Be away from the computer for a while).
🤍 Anita
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