Dear Going Through Life:

I am glad that you feel safe working under your father and that he is guiding you like you always wanted 🙂

Also, I am 🙂 that you are starting to forgive her and yourself, particularly yourself. You deserve peace in your heart and forgiving yourself for all past mistakes while holding yourself accountable for your behaviors today is the way to go.

And I am 🙂 that you are opening yourself to new possibilities.

In regard to one such new possibility, a romantic one with SS’s ex-boyfriend, I’d say- don’t rush anything, go slow, one step at a time. I’m saying this because the fear of being alone and the need for comfort can cause a person to rush: to feel too much, too soon, without getting to know the person well enough. And as a result, to act too soon.

I think that you need a partner who you can trust, particularly one who is very unlikely to cheat on you. Getting to know the person in this regard before investing emotionally too much will be very helpful.

I wonder how he feels about his experience of being cheated on. Talking about it more (if you already talked about it) will give you information in regard to shared values/ compatibility on this important matter.

🤍🌈🌿 Anita

Dear Thomas:

You are indeed very welcome here!

Please keep posting, you have lots to say and I want to hear more of your thoughts, your wisdom.

Respectfully,

🤍🌿 Anita

Hello Dear Q 😊,

“close the door”-

Close the door on what? (If you can type away whatever comes to your mind..?)

🤍🌿 Anita

Hi Everyone:

Thank you, James 🙏🤍🌈

Dear Thomas:

I appreciate your thoughts and agree with lots of them. I particularly feel positively about you idea that people in trauma are often trying to reclaim their sense of self, not dissolve it.

For trauma survivors, the loss of self isn’t liberation—it’s fragmentation. Healing often requires reclaiming the self, not dissolving it.

I like you advocating for compassionate presence, especially in trauma recovery, and expressing that wisdom without compassion is alienating; it doesn’t help those in pain.

I also very much like your idea that real spirituality is about meeting people where they are, not speaking from a mountaintop, and that truth must be communicated in ways people can understand. Helping others means coming down from the mountain, seeing them eye to eye.

I particularly like what you wrote here: “Here, people are looking for a safe space to vent their lives and feel alive again… I ask that you bring your wisdom down to those who need the help.”.

Overall, I am truly, positively impressed with your input, Thomas 🙏🤍🌈.

Having said the above, your delivery has been confrontational and your tone carried an aggressive edge at times, beginning with your 3rd and 4th sentence on this thread (Oct 4): “Cause aren’t you preaching your knowledge. Could ask what are you selling??”- that’s confrontational/ accusatory, implying that James is pushing an agenda rather than sharing sincerely.

I am not one to judge on the matter of aggressive tone, Thomas, because there’s been plenty of aggressive edge in my deliveries. I am working on that edge currently in my own thread (appropriately titled “A.N.G.E.R…”) So, trust me: I am not trying to shame you.. just saying that gentler delivery on both of our parts is wise.. and compassionate.

🤍🌿 Anita

I will get back to you, Going Through Life, Wed morning- Tues evening here, yet it feels like night time (8:16 pm here). Back to you in the morning!