Hey Love-Hate-Confused, Confused?

“I never blamed her”- but she blamed you for…what?

“she couldn’t express (love) always and in the right way. It was mostly fighting and arguing”-

Fighting her loving boy was not expressing love in the wrong way; it was not an expression of love.

Confusing love with hate, Confused..?

When my mother tried so hard to make me feel bad, saying “You’re one Big Zero, a Nothing!”- that was not expressing love in the wrong way. Plain and simple: it was expressing hate.

Anita

Hello Confused:

“It is but I don’t know how to explore it.”- how about journaling about it, privately or here, in this thread, just type whatever comes to mind into your compute screen, type one sentence before you know what the next will be.. just let it all come out of you as it will, preferably in a relaxed state of mind..?

It has helped me to do so many times.

🤍 Anita

Hey, Confused:

“I’ve only known how to be strong and be there for other”- if you let others be there for you, if you depend on another.. is it strength or weakness?

Anita

Dear Thomas:

How kind of you to check on Laven for a second time, and to hope that she’s healthy, happy and safe.

Thank you for your kind words, Thomas. I think you’re quite capable to touch another’s pain and bring relief and.. you are not mis stepping!

Christmas Day is almost over.

Have a Merry Christmas Evening Thomas

And Laven 🎄✨🎅🤶🕯️❄️⛄🎁🌟🦌🍪🥛🧦🔔🎀

Dear Laven: We (Thomas and I) are hoping to read from you soon.

🤍  Anita

Dear James: you are interpreting a personal, extreme experience as a universal truth.

You described a year in darkness and silence, 8–10 hours of meditation per day, a near‑death experience, an open‑heart surgery, a belief that you “died many times”. Long periods of isolation or sensory reduction can lead to: feeling detached from one’s body,
feeling like the self is unreal, feeling like thoughts are happening ‘on their own’, and a sense that the world is dreamlike or empty

This is dissociation and depersonalization that can make someone interpret their experience as “there is no self” or “everything is nothing.”

A conviction that your experience is the only truth, warnings that others will “burn” or “go insane” if they don’t accept your view0 this worldview, is being filtered through extreme sensory deprivation, trauma, isolation and altered states of consciousness, a collapse of personal identity, and a strong need to universalize your experience.

Those factors make you sound rigid, apocalyptic, absolutist, disconnected from shared reality, convinced you’ve discovered a final truth.

You interpret your internal experience as: the nature of the universe, the fate of all humans, the only truth, a warning others must hear. That’s why your messages feel heavy, fatalistic, and sometimes frightening. This is your psychological state being treated (by you) as metaphysics.

The worldview you’re expressing — “there is no self, no awareness, no soul, no meaning, only nothingness” — is functionally absolute nihilism. Again, you’re interpreting a personal psychological state as universal truth, which is why it comes across as nihilism rather than non‑duality.

You deny the validity of all other experiences. When Tee mentions NDEs full of love, light, or consciousness, you dismiss them as “mind.” When I described non‑duality, you dismiss it as “belief.”

This is classic nihilistic absolutism: “My nothingness is the only truth; everything else is illusion.”

That’s not philosophy — that’s personal nihilism interpreted as cosmic law.

You reject all relational concepts of love. You say love is: “Being nothing.”, “No one to protect.”, “No one to suffer.” This is not love as any spiritual tradition defines it. It’s the emotional tone of nihilism dressed in spiritual language.

You repeatedly say: “Awareness is nothingness.”, “The soul is nothingness.”, “Before birth = nothing. After death = nothing.”, “There is no you.”, “Everything you attach to burns.”- This is not non‑duality.

Non‑duality says the personal self dissolves into awareness, not into nothing.

You say awareness itself dissolves. That’s absolute nihilism.

You deny the existence of: a self, a soul, awareness, consciousness, meaning, continuity after death, any underlying reality beyond the body- This is the core of metaphysical nihilism (nothing exists in any meaningful sense) and existential nihilism (life has no inherent meaning).

Dear Tee: you’ve been engaging with patience and curiosity, and your question is exactly the right one. You’re not dismissing James’s experience; you’re simply pointing out the contradiction between: “There is no self,” and “I am here to warn you, you misunderstand, you must see the truth.” That contradiction matters because if there is no “James,” then there is also no one to warn, no one to correct, no one to insist on a single truth.

Someone — or some perspective — is clearly interacting with us. Calling it “nothingness” doesn’t explain the activity we’re all witnessing.

Your worldview, James, blends ego‑death language, sensory deprivation effects, and personal trauma into an absolutist philosophy that isn’t true non‑duality but a personalized form of nihilism.

Tee’s question— “Who is engaging with us if not James?”—is the perfect way to expose the contradiction in your claims, because you insist the self doesn’t exist while actively arguing, warning, and choosing words. You will likely respond with phrases like “there is no doer,” which avoid the contradiction rather than resolve it.

A grounded reply should gently point out that even if the self is seen as an illusion, illusions still function, and someone—or some perspective—is clearly choosing to type, argue, and interpret experiences. This shifts the conversation from metaphysical proclamations to observable reality, where a meaningful dialogue can actually occur.

Anita