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anitaParticipant* That last happy face emoji with its pink cheeks bothers me: it’s too happy to my liking.. Edit: 🙂- much better
anitaParticipantI like it that you like how I framed it 😏
It didn’t occur to me either until I posted it: it feels good to feel kind and generous, and that’s indeed her reward 🎁
And I’m not surprised she feels loving and kind and happy because you’re in her life. I happen to feel happy every time you post here 😊
🌙 🎁 🤍 Anita
April 6, 2026 at 7:24 pm in reply to: Happy Chinese New Year, Happy Lunar New Year and Ramadan Mubarak #456694anitaParticipantGood evening, Thomas 🙂
Interruption? Not at all. It is truly a pleasure to read from you 🙏
And you getting carried away in your thoughts- please do (I do every day)
Good job 👏 fixing the hole in the tire and all the other mechanical fixing that you do!
In the last few years, I have spent more time and miles walking than driving, strange..?
Reading from you over time, I learned that you’re truly a dedicated father and husband. Admirable.
About death- true.. it is not energy destroyed. It’s energy transformed.
Allowing energy such as shame and guilt to transform while still alive in this (aging) body- is what is taking place in my mind and heart these very days, and that’s as happy as I can be 👍
Thank you, Thomas for asking, for posting, for sharing 🙏
🌙 🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
Acting on your values- 👏
Next time she is very kind to you.. think of how good she’s feeling, so good that she’s motivated to buy you gifts or say supportive things.
There’s warmth in her heart because you’re in her life- that’s her reward. It’s already there. Her reward already happened.
🎁🤍🎵 Anita
anitaParticipantDouble posting 🙂
Your answer: you owe her the same amount and quality of kindness (etc.) that she shows you today? You owe her to match her kindness every day? Did I understand?
So, if she’s not kind to you tomorrow, you don’t owe her kindness.. tomorrow?
anitaParticipantCondused: “I feel… It makes me feel… My feelings are eluding me”-
Feelings are very important bur they’re not everything. They have to be balanced by accurate thinking, truth-telling, I’d you will.
I asked what do you think you owe her. What if I asked, in addition to this question, what do you feel you owe her?
🤔🎈⏸️ Anita
anitaParticipantHey 👋 Confused:
What do u think you owe her?
anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
“What did I do to deserve such a kind and loving soul?”-
Lots of people feel like they have to do something grand so to deserve love. This is how I used to feel. But now, I understand that love is not something to be earned, but a gift to receive.
Your fear that you’ll disappoint her.. is it the fear that you’re not deserving of her love and it’s only a matter of time before she figures it out?
🤔 🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantGood morning, Serene Wolf 🐺
I would love to have an image of the sign posted here but don’t know how to do it. I’ll need someone to do it for me. It’ll take some time 🙏
I am sorry about the passing of your grandma 😔 Having felt very close to her- that’s something to cherish forevermore.
About Scarcity vs Aabundance mindset: you said that for many years, you’ve been trying to survive instead of actually living- because you didn’t feel that you had enough time, money and job stability to start really- living, as I understand it.
That kind of waiting is very common. I guess short-term it makes sense.. but when it lasts too long, it becomes a sort of a lifestyle. Or a habit. Is it, for you?
🤍 Anita
April 6, 2026 at 7:42 am in reply to: Happy Chinese New Year, Happy Lunar New Year and Ramadan Mubarak #456666anitaParticipantGood morning, Thomas 🙂
Thank you and glad to read from you this day after Easter 🐣
The biggest job I ever performed on a car was to check the oil level and add oil. So, from where I’m at, I admire your ability to do all the mechanical work you’re able to do 👍
Is feeling dizzy and having headaches a result of high blood pressure?
I wish you calm and health, Thomas 🙏
🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantWell, I’m trying to recover from my anger 😠
Anger is a rare emotion for you.. when’s the last time you felt angry?
(It makes sense it was a tb problem.. it was just frustrating!)
So, about anger..😤?
😑 Anita
anitaParticipantSomething is wrong with my 📱 or with tb because for FORTY minutes I’ve been trying to log in but couldn’t 😤 😤 😑 –
So if this message goes through and you post again and I don’t answer- it’s some tech problem.
Sometimes it feels warm.. that’s well.. it’s good to feel warm, better than feeling angry 😠
😠 😑 😤 🐇 Anita
anitaParticipantWell, Cold and Distant Confused (CDC) is just an image. I know a WCC (Warm and Close Confused)!
Did anyone tell you that they see you that way (CDC)?
Got you, you need emotion on a regular, consistent basis. That kind of stability is wonderful.
What I wrote right above, the whole thing, does it feel blank and empty?
🐇 Anita
anitaParticipantYou are very welcome, Confused 😊
I understand that you feel like a bad person in the last 4-5 months, BUT: I’ve been communicating with you multiple times a day for 3 months and 17 days ( ever since Dec 19), so (calculating)..
3.5 out of 4-5 months you mentioned is my experience of a grateful, kind.. 👍 good Confused.
Oh, I see, you need emotion to put an Approved or Registered stamp on intellectual insight.
🤍 Anita
April 5, 2026 at 6:13 pm in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456647anitaParticipantGood Easter Evening, Peter:
You say that the theology of reward and punishment creates a hungry system where love is treated as a wage to be earned rather than a gift to receive.
Before I keep reading, I pause ⏸️
Love as a reward, a payment- that’s transactional. It’s not really love at all.. that’s why it doesn’t satisfy that hunger.
A “hungry system”- a fitting term.
“The seed you hid becomes… your very life”-
That seed I instinctively buried/ or that was buried by circumstance, was the experience of being ALIVE: being care-free, experimenting, experiencing- together-with- others.
The Together was buried and I was A.L.O.N.E. dreadfully alone, for so long. Alone, a social animal withers.
There’s a natural reward in Together. There’s a hunger there, for me. It’s not a kind of hunger that leads to overeating and obesity 😊 It’s a natural hunger, it’s in the genes. I see it in my beagle Bogart when he hears or sees the neighbors’ two beagles (Kooper & Kurby)
The words of a 🎵 come to mind ☺️ – All you Need is Love- not the reward and punishment (non) love, but the natural, non-transactional kind- the not intentionally, premeditatively transactional. (Nature is transactional by design, or evolution).
Thank you again, Peter, for your words, thoughts and emotion being here with me this Easter Sunday. I don’t celebrate holidays of any religion, so it happens, but writing to you right now- this is a celebration.
Anytime I don’t feel Alone- that’s a Celebration!
🎵 🎁 🐇 Anita
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