To add. Peter: I like your answer to the child in regard to Santa 🎅

Another thing, black and white, all or nothing binary thinking is just right for the understanding of simple, black and white situations.

It distorts the understanding of complex situations though, so context and nuance matter.

Roberta- I wonder 🤔 if my comment about little girl Roberta made you uncomfortable, like maybe it was too personal coming from a person you never met in real-life?

I would love feedback on that. From you too, Peter: do I come across too personal, too close at times, making you feel uncomfortable?

🤔 😳 Anita

Can he manage financially living on his own?

Your words, Grandmother Roberta, make me think of a little red- hair little girl Roberta 👧🏻

To find the color within.. the image that came to my mind first was for you to paint using color (art), but you said that wouldn’t do it for you (something like that). Then I thought of you writing a poem, but I think you didn’t respond to that idea receptively either. So, next, I had an image of you in my mind digging in wet dirt as in preparing to plant something in the ground.

I imagined your hands in the wet, cold mud and you feeling connection to the ground, maybe feeling cold air (if it’s cold where you are) on your face.

The idea is to undo the isolation within, as in being an overthinking, isolated entity and CONNECT with the outside.

? Anita

* The original Pookie — the one from the 1940s, the one who wonders about Santa — was always a rabbit. Only in the Sandra Boynton series, which is completely unrelated to the original Pookie books, Pookie is a piglet. Hmm

Hi Peter:

Itchy Boots (Noraly, a Dutch full-time traveler) rides her motorcycle up into the mountains of Kyrgyzstan toward Kel Suu, a remote lake at very high altitude. Because of the altitude, her bike loses a lot of power, so the ride is slow and difficult. Eventually she switches from her motorcycle to a horse to continue the journey 🐎.

In the second half of the video, when she’s riding the horse, there’s a moment where the horse starts to gallop across the open landscape, and she laughs out loud. It’s childlike, free, and honest moment. And it was that moment for you too, Peter: “joy arising without effort” (your words).

A rare, pure moment of freedom (freedom from ego/ thoughts, performance, worries), a moment of connection with nature (with canvas, roots, ocean), simple, unforced happiness (Flow), a human being fully alive in the present (or “to” 😊the present)

There’s no drama, no conflict, no negativity. Just a person experiencing beauty and letting it move through her. In a world full of noise and tension, that kind of moment feels like a breath of fresh air.

I wish you and I Peter, and everyone who may be reading this, more and more moments like that.

Watching the lake toward the end of the video, so quiet, silent with tall bare rock mountains all around…that’s the silent canvas.

You asked: “What do you think, can the way we use language change how we feel and engage with the ‘ocean’.”?

Like you suggested: use “AND” more often than “OR”. Maybe use “US” more often. For me, be less afraid to be spontaneously, child-like friendly (fearing lack of reciprocity or to be misunderstood, etc.) and type out right now, something like: Peter, I am so glad you had that moment of laughter. It’s making me smile right now, to know that you laughed and hoping you will laugh again and again! (and not worry about whether or not I answered your question, or whether my question was satisfactory to you).

🤍 Anita

Dear Adalie:

I am so sorry 😞 to read about the sad state of your marriage.

I am sad that you are in a situation where you’re treated so disrespectfully.

I am guessing he didn’t behave in these ways in the beginning?

You shard before that you’re living with him because of financial reasons. Sounds like you’re trapped in this situation?

🤍 Anita