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anitaParticipantSee my post before last?
anitaParticipantTo tell you the truth, Confused, if I was her, at her age, and I heard my love-interest say to me: ‘you shouldn’t make plans without us having lived together for a while’ (which is what you told her), I would bail, I would give up on you because I wouldn’t want to be on a trial basis (living together for you to decide if you want to be with me, or not).
Imagine how she would feel to live with you so that you can decide about her (keep going or not)? How would you feel in that situation?
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anitaParticipantHow are you, Sonia?
anitaParticipantHow is 2026 so far, Miss L Dutchess, 3 months and 12 days in?
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anitaParticipantDid you ask her what she meant by that?
anitaParticipantA new thread, me? 3 months and 11 days since you posted last?
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anitaParticipant5 months and 3 weeks since you posted last, Clara. I wish I could read from you again.
You are not easy to forget 🙂
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anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
The best you can do, as you have done, is to tell her the truth just as it is, just like you wrote in the message above.
Give her all the information that’s available to you and let her decide what she wants to do.
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anitaParticipantI hope 🙏 you’re okay, Tom. You are such a decent person. You deserve good things, at the least- peace of mind and heart.
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anitaParticipantHey Confused:
I didn’t consider that possibility as to why you checked for her messages every 10 minutes (see my multiple,choice question above ( probably double posting)
The certainty she’s looking for is you moving to Cyprus for living together as partners?.
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anitaParticipantHmm, let me present the question above as a multiple-choice question ( it may be helpful, if not, it may be fun 😀 (I’m okay with this emoji just for this post). Okay, here it is:
I (Confused) checked ✔️ for her messages every 10 minutes because:
a. I was bored and had nothing better to do.
b. I was afraid 😨 of her and was checking to see 👀 if she’d threaten my life.
c. I had nothing better to do. I was bored.
d. It was late, couldn’t sleep, so I kept my fingers moving for exercise (checking her messages) so to tire myself.
e. Bored.
f. I gambled with a friend for $20 that she’d message me by the end of the 🌙. Was hoping to make some 💰
g. Nothing 2 do.
h. a & b
i. c & d
f. 🤢
anitaParticipantHey 👋 Confused:
💯 charged now!
Well, you felt more than you could handle so you shut down emotionally, similar to eating more than a person can handle and the esophagus shuts down (and therefore, some extra food can’t go down and it’s expelled)
“Shouldn’t I be missing her?… checking (for her) messages every 10 minutes”-
What motivated you to check for her messages every 10 minutes?
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anitaParticipantHey Confused: I’ll B Back 2 U in a few hours
anitaParticipantAnd thank you for the hugs, a 🤗 back 2 U 🙂
anitaParticipantHello Mollie 🙂
Bogart is a 🐕 and a he. He’s,9 months old, and very affectionate with other dogs and with humans. He’s particularly attached to me. Actually, he’s my first ever dog/ pet.
And yes, a pet can be.. an emotion regulating helper. It goes both ways. Dogs get anxious too.
I will check the app you recommended when I have the use of the 🖥 (using my 📱, hence all the emojis, they show up as I type and I can’t resist them 😉)
Yes, I am feeling better, thank you. Thing is current lows are so much higher than past lows (those felt devastating, maybe 10 years ago or even earlier touch 🪵)
Three more test days, how exciting, seeing the completion of five 🙌 years of study. Of course, studying all the time is not a good idea. We all need rest to recharge.
I 👍 how you talk sense to yourself when feeling guilty.
I’m glad your brother is better, more self- regulated than he was before. I wonder if it has something to do with him living with you vs him living with his- your parents.
Bogart just settled right beside me 🙂
Currently emotionally regulated 😉, Anita
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