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  • in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456874
    anita
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    Hey Dear Confused:

    The best you can do, as you have done, is to tell her the truth just as it is, just like you wrote in the message above.

    Give her all the information that’s available to you and let her decide what she wants to do.

    🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #456872
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    I hope 🙏 you’re okay, Tom. You are such a decent person. You deserve good things, at the least- peace of mind and heart.

    👍 🤍 Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456871
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    Hey Confused:

    I didn’t consider that possibility as to why you checked for her messages every 10 minutes (see my multiple,choice question above ( probably double posting)

    The certainty she’s looking for is you moving to Cyprus for living together as partners?.

    🤔 Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456869
    anita
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    Hmm, let me present the question above as a multiple-choice question ( it may be helpful, if not, it may be fun 😀 (I’m okay with this emoji just for this post). Okay, here it is:

    I (Confused) checked ✔️ for her messages every 10 minutes because:

    a. I was bored and had nothing better to do.

    b. I was afraid 😨 of her and was checking to see 👀 if she’d threaten my life.

    c. I had nothing better to do. I was bored.

    d. It was late, couldn’t sleep, so I kept my fingers moving for exercise (checking her messages) so to tire myself.

    e. Bored.

    f. I gambled with a friend for $20 that she’d message me by the end of the 🌙. Was hoping to make some 💰

    g. Nothing 2 do.

    h. a & b

    i. c & d

    f. 🤢

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456868
    anita
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    Hey 👋 Confused:

    💯 charged now!

    Well, you felt more than you could handle so you shut down emotionally, similar to eating more than a person can handle and the esophagus shuts down (and therefore, some extra food can’t go down and it’s expelled)

    “Shouldn’t I be missing her?… checking (for her) messages every 10 minutes”-

    What motivated you to check for her messages every 10 minutes?

    🍕 🙏 🤢 Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456867
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    Hey Confused: I’ll B Back 2 U in a few hours

    in reply to: Feeling Stuck #456865
    anita
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    And thank you for the hugs, a 🤗 back 2 U 🙂

    in reply to: Feeling Stuck #456864
    anita
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    Hello Mollie 🙂

    Bogart is a 🐕 and a he. He’s,9 months old, and very affectionate with other dogs and with humans. He’s particularly attached to me. Actually, he’s my first ever dog/ pet.

    And yes, a pet can be.. an emotion regulating helper. It goes both ways. Dogs get anxious too.

    I will check the app you recommended when I have the use of the 🖥 (using my 📱, hence all the emojis, they show up as I type and I can’t resist them 😉)

    Yes, I am feeling better, thank you. Thing is current lows are so much higher than past lows (those felt devastating, maybe 10 years ago or even earlier touch 🪵)

    Three more test days, how exciting, seeing the completion of five 🙌 years of study. Of course, studying all the time is not a good idea. We all need rest to recharge.

    I 👍 how you talk sense to yourself when feeling guilty.

    I’m glad your brother is better, more self- regulated than he was before. I wonder if it has something to do with him living with you vs him living with his- your parents.

    Bogart just settled right beside me 🙂

    Currently emotionally regulated 😉, Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456860
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    Good 🌄 Confused:

    📱 is 100% charged 🙂

    Well, the pre-label for ROCD is fear.

    How can you WANT her and then NOT?

    Think of WANTING 🍦 (my favorite is vanilla with hot fudge 😋 on top). I eat it and then 20 more, within a short time. I end up 🤢 vomiting.

    Vomiting means that the body really does NOT want it anymore.. after really, really wanting it before.

    You recover and a few days later, you’re offered same 🍦. Your body remembers the vomiting and can still taste it, and you’re thinking: ‘I used to really, really WANT 🍦. Now I don’t. It’s so confusing!’

    Or if you really, really love 🍕.. well, same thing 🙂

    😋 => 🤢 => ? Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456858
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    1% charge (see my above message( Power 🔋 dying… Ahh. B Back Sun morning

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456856
    anita
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    Hey, Confused:

    I used to be big into labels like rocd. Now I see these labels can be in the way, complicating things.

    There’s no rocd disease people are born with.

    Simplified, there is fear, a primal emotion. Fear of being hurt, of being terribly surprised (again) by something that hurts real bad, something you didn’t expect.. when you were a child- that tender, sensitive, vulnerable, pre-label time.

    And in adulthood you read on reddit and you Google and find labels and stuff when truth is much simpler. A scared little boy, a scared little girl, not wanting (really not wanting!) to get that badly hurt again.

    My 📱 battery is only 3% charged. Sadly, I forgot to charge it and no cable available where I’m sitting 😞

    Will charge and B Back in the 🌄

    🌙 Anita

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #456854
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    Well, dear Confused, I don’t think it happened suddenly because stress has been building up “since the beginning” (you checking and analyzing the interactions with her). I suppose stress built up over time.

    I mean, it wasn’t calm & happily-ever-after and then.. BOOM.

    I said that you don’t trust your love for her because you’re overly afraid to hurt her (you said that many times). As in something hurtful or harmful can come out of your love for her.

    I 👍 it that there’re 2 🙂s and only 1 😔 in your message right above.

    🙂 Anita

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    I hope 🙏 that you and your family are okay, GreGory.

    in reply to: self harm #456851
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    How R U, Caroline?

    in reply to: Trying to find a new job #456850
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    How are you, Calm Moon?

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