* You know I’m emoji-sensitive, so.. I just looked at the above and noticed that I submitted one with red hearts on its face. I mistakenly (poor eyesight and no glasses on) thought it was an emoji blowing a red whistle, or wearing a red party hat as a gesture of celebration (that you’re still here).

I didn’t see the hearts and don’t want to appear weird for sending red hearts to a young man. That would be 🤢-able.

🥳 more like it, Anita

YES! Confused is still here 👍🥰✨

Yes, of course, guilt is affecting you. You indicated that many times, beginning in your very first message here, on Dec 19, 2025: “feeling like a burden and like I am responsible for her feelings” and last, in your post before last: “Yes i have been very guiltful 🙁”.

Maybe we should explore your guilt, figure out what it’s about, when it started?

Anita (who knows a thing or two about guilt)

Oh, my goodness, Confused: it’s longer than 24 hours since you posted last. 25.5 hours since you posted last. The thought: I may never read from you again.

It happened so many times over the years. If this is a goodbye, then 👋

🌙 🦉 🐇 🍦 🍕 🤢 😐 😊 Anita

Hi Mini:

My last post is the first of my posts to you that is a (slightly edited) AI generated response addressed to you. Re-reading it, it leaves me a bit confused.

So now, using my 📱 again (I am low- tech and don’t know how to access AI on my phone), I want to go back to a strictly human response 🙂

In your first post in this thread you wrote that your boyfriend of 3 years loves you “deeply”-

But I don’t know what that means: in what pracical ways is his love for you deep?

You said that the two of you discussed favorite colors and he didn’t tell you (you wished he would) that his favorite color is the color of your eyes.

If he did tell you that, it would have been a symbolic, poetic way for him to say: ‘I-love-you.’

But again, in practical terms, H.O.W has he been loving you deeply?

You said that you don’t want another partner but him. And I am asking myself: you don’t want another because you’re afraid to have wasted 3 years with him? Because you’re afraid to end up alone?

Or because he has been loving you deeply (in practical ways you didn’t mention)?

When I literally accepted your words that he loves you deeply, the expectation that he tells you that his favorite color is the color of your 👀s seemed.. superficial a bit, as in: why would it matter if what you experienced from him is deep-love?

Sometimes people focus on what is minor (color of your eyes example), so to distract oneself from what is major (‘does he love me deeply?’)

– End of my human thoughts.

Anita

Hi Mini:

You are welcome 🙂. You are someone who loves with a lot of depth and awareness, Mini. You notice things, you feel things, and you remember things. That’s precious, not “too much”.

Wanting initiative from a partner isn’t unreasonable. It’s natural to want someone to remember what matters to you without needing reminders every time. It’s natural to want to feel chosen, noticed, and cared for emotionally. Those aren’t extravagant needs — they’re human ones.

And I hear how exhausting it feels to be the one doing most of the emotional work. When you’re the person who sees everything, it can feel lonely when the other person doesn’t see you in the same way. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you — it just means he loves differently.

I don’t think your passion is something no one can meet. But I do think it’s something rare. You don’t have to shrink yourself or pretend your needs don’t matter. Because they do matter.

How does it feel to hear that?

🤍 Anita

Good Friday, Peter:

Copilot told me earlier this morning in regard to my last post here that it was a monolgue not a dialogue, that I should have asked you if what I expressed resonated with you, if you feel it to be true to you. Do you agree?

In regard to my post before last (my observation), it was too dense. I should have limited it to the faulty external (adult) compass messing with the true internal child compass.

Perhaps I got too involved with what you presented here, making it more about me than about you? (that’s not Copilot’s suggestion, it’s me thinking).

Please let me know what (if any 🙂) participation by me you would like in your threads.

🙏 Anita

Hi LeenBee:

You are very kind to thank me for inquiring about you. Most people don’t bother to say thank you 🙏

I am not surprised that the former new tenant left and that you intend to leave as well. It’s a good thing you’re not in a rush to leave.

Some dynamics can’t be changed or adequately changed, so better leave them behind.

Does he know that you intend to move, or are you keeping it a secret (as well as where you’d be moving to, when time comes)?

🤍 Anita