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Soul-searcherParticipantMark,
Ah right, yes i get you now. No i am pretty good with eating healthy, i try and add a lot of vegetables in my diet but even those have copious amounts of carbs. I downloaded My fitness pall and its making me calorie obsessed lol, so i just need to find my happy medium 🙂
I do indeed 🙂 I have a beautiful Samoyed, Do you?
Soul-searcherParticipantHello Mark,
Thank you for finding the time to answer 🙂 Yes it was wonderful feeling so light and free and happy, I am trying very hard!
Blessings
Ally
Soul-searcherParticipantGosh i didnt think of that .. i dont know if it is that, i have been feeling so good, and then as soon as those thoughts came through i just couldnt help it..
When will i ever feel safe to feel happy again?
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Ally
Soul-searcherParticipantProcessed foods as in what, sorry im trying to get into everything but i am finding all slightly confusing lol.
I am a veterinary nurse, so there is a lot of standing still, not so much walking.
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Ally
Soul-searcherParticipantHi there Mark,
Yes i think i may start cutting carbs, even though i am finding it very hard to do so as i am a carbaholic. Im trying to cut down to 60 – 100g of carbs a day.
I am 29 🙂
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Soul-searcherParticipantHi there,
i also had to go through a divorce with a man who had just separated from his wife, but in this case he only had the one son. It will not be easy for him at all, however strong he may seem on the outside hes probably crumbling on the inside. Its a whole new way of life for him now, he cant see the children every day he needs to move house etc.. On the other hand this doesnt mean he has to push you out of the picture. Whatever he is going through you have to be there beside him, so personally in my case i think when you are both somewhere comfortable and relaxed ask him are you and i together? Do you want to be together? He needs to make it clear otherwise you may give your heart and soul and time to this man who may just say he doesnt want to carry on anymore after his hard time finishes. Think about yourself too 🙂
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Soul-searcherParticipantYes of course, i took your advise on keeping a distance from friends or family that are toxic, and that i am doing. I am keeping a kind distance. I have met up with a friend of mine whom i lost touch with when i left to go back to live with my bf, and she has been an amazing help. She is full of positivity, hears me out and listens to me and handles me when i have those bad days of mine. Its been a week that i have been smiling and talking more. Unfortunately yesterday i fell into very deep depression, this time last year i was here on my own whilst he was cheating on me and ignoring me and was the worst month of my life. I think everything just kind of got on top of me and i felt such a surge of different emotions and i was very sad. I didnt get any support from him, as usual and i didn’t expect any help from him. I just feel so upset why has my depression crept up again, i was feeling so good 🙁
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Soul-searcherParticipantHello there,
What meditation technique do you use, how do you zone out and not think of anything ?
blessings x
Soul-searcherParticipantHey Anita
I am trying to get on to the road of correcting this bad habit of mine. Update on my mental situation, i am doing a lot better Anita.
I have started talking more and sitting with the family and going out more and speaking to friends etc.. its been a week being like this and that is an all time record for me lol.
Best regards and wishes x
Soul-searcherParticipantDear Anita
I agree with everything you say 🙂 It is true, not everyone feels this way, but i think this was conditioned from my mother as my mother is the same, she will put everyone before her no matter how she feels and i get this from her. My sisters on the other hand are completely different. It does feel selfish to me when i say no to something i dont agree with or in general just putting myself first, it is a horrible habit i need to get rid of!
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Soul-searcherParticipantI find that this happens a lot lately when it comes to social media, everyone is tempted to look at ”hot” men or ”hot ” women.
I have deleted any thing to do with social media, which i was very obsessed too and it was the best thing i ever did. I put my hands up when i first got with my bf, i was doing the same thing as i was massive into my fitness and i was like fitness models men and women alike, something i have always done even in my previous relationship. When i got with my now current bf he pointed out that he did not like it and made him feel ”inadequate”, i found this as some sort of control and jealousy and got angry with him saying that they are just models and not people that i know etc.. until he started doing the same (Obviously to give me my taste of my own medicine) and i hated it. I am also insecure of my body always have been, he on the other hand goes to the gym 6 days a week and has a 6 pack so i didnt see how looking at other men who looked the same as him would make him feel insecure, yet it did. I now totally understand how he felt and so i stopped, you cant help but look sometimes but you have to respect your partners needs, if he or she feels shitty about themselves and you liking pictures of other women/men bothers them then you should stop. Unfortunately social media is the hub of making the majority of girls and women feel very insecure about themselves, wouldnt it be nice if all of these sites could just go away and we all do one big clean up lol.
Blessings x
Soul-searcherParticipantHello Carolin,
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply.
I guess deep down we know when love feels right and when it does not. I knew what he was doing was wrong and the way he was treating me was wrong especially after i gave him everything he ever asked for. Anything i do i always put my heart and soul into it. I think my biggest problem is i have no self worth or self love left in me, so when i get treated like this i think its what i deserve, or maybe like you said its recreating my past, as we are all pretty much creatures of habit.
Like you said above i need to make myself number one priority, all my life i thought this was being selfish and i have to get out of that habit of thinking, that putting myself first is un selfish and does not mean that i am hurting others. Love should be magical and feeling safe that he can look after you and that he would never betray you, that you dont need to have that constant worry that he will hurt you or abandon you.
Unfortunatley yes ive hit rock bottom in regards to our relationship and no its not worth my death, but that isnt the only thing that comes to my mind when i have these suicidal thoughts, its about my whole life in general.
I hope in time by practising self love and just keep on growing within my self i can find the right path to walk on and finally be at peace and happiness with myself.
Blessings.
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Soul-searcherParticipantDear Anita
Sorry for not updating, i completely forgot! The massage was wonderful, it was some what relaxing but it was more of a deep tissue massage, so it was very beneficial. i spent around 2 and a half hours on the chair receiving a massage and reiki at the same time. It was magical and it made me feel good. Thank you for lifting my spirits and making me do something nice for myself
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Soul-searcherParticipantDear Anita,
I have missed talking to you 🙂
So i had my appointment with the homeopath. He prescribed me Omega 3, Magnesium, L- Theanine and 5- Htp and Vitamin D.
I went to the pharmacist and got everything apart from L-theanine and the 5-htp as they were so expensive, From what i have read these are basically a pick me up. I chose not to get them partly because of the cost and also i have started to go running every night, yoga at home, reading and i am feeling somewhat better within myself.
He also gave me what to eat and what not to eat. I was initially excited about this, but its a nutrition plan from hell i cannot see anyone being able to eat this way lol. He said its a detox for 3 months, the main thing that is cut out is sugar and salt, and i am doing my very best.
Since you are a biologist; I took 1 Vitamin D pill of 1000 iu and within 4-5 hours i felt happier and full of energy, is this the Vitamin D or a placebo effect? Even though i wasn’t thinking about it ?
Blessings
x
Soul-searcherParticipantHello Anita,
Thank you for your concern. You are right too bad there are war zones, it is so sad how so many people are suffering 🙁
Blessings x
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