Amy,

I would like to quote you only before I express my opinion on the issue at hand.

“he said he needed more time and eventually told me he had to be selfish and break up with me to find himself and have time alone. He seemed to switch his feelings off and was suddenly replaced by an arrogant uncaring individual.”

It’s his choice which he has exercised. You missing him is something very natural. It happens whenever a relationship ends. But won’t you like to avoid being in someone’s life if he doesn’t want you to be in it. Worse still if he wants you on his own terms….like if you are a friend to support it’s fine…but I don’t want you as a girlfriend.

So I don’t see you having very many options here except moving on. Whether you want to keep in touch with him or not depends entirely on his and your maturity. You have to see if you guys would be adding any value to each other’s life if you remain friends….would it make your life better in any way….think about it.

Girl you are young…..always always always focus on looking ahead….

When nothing occurs to me about some issue, I postpone thinking about it for some time. Give yourself a break and think about what you want to do little later…say two months from now….you can wait that much I guess….you will be lot clearer about what you want. So for now…tell yourself………..I am very hurt right now and this may not be the best time to think objectively about what I want. So let me take a break from my thoughts and I will think about it two months later. In the meantime( in these two months) learn something…go out on vacation, spend time with family. Two months from now, you will be in a much better position to see what has happened now.

Stay Blessed
Ananya

Aww….you are being harsh on yourself when you say that you are weird. We all try to think about our purpose in life and about strange ways of the world at some point in our life ( many a times actually)…..there is nothing weird about it. Trust me you are perfectly normal. Some people can make friends easily, while others find it difficult…so even that is perfectly normal.

It’s great that you are young and spiritual:-) Try focusing more on issues which interest you…and remember no two humans are similar. Enjoy the diversity the Universe offers.

Take Care.:-)

Well, I am not sure if you are confused or it’s the way you have written about how you feel gives this impression. You surely are dealing with issues, which you want to discuss and sort out.

But let me tell you that people are dealing with much graver issues….like a mother who has lost both her chidren in a road accident, a young soldier who has lost his limbs in a war, a couple who has learned that their six month year old daughter has blood cancer ………..There is suffering and so much of it. These are permanent loses one can do nothing about. Still….life doesn’t end with any of these and it has to go on…

If you become slightly objective, you will agree that your problem is just to deal with how you are feeling…..to find someone who can help you in sorting out your feelings….As Matt suggested, talking to your parents is a good idea. Or you can talk to some cousellor if you feel you need one.

I will request you to count your blessings!!!

If there is something which you want to share in this forum, you are most welcome….will definitely try to understand and give further inputs.

Take Care.

Cheers!!!

Stay Blessed:-)
Ananya