Hey Joe,

I understand your state of mind…

Let me tell you, that you’re not the only one shy person here, I’m shy too and takes a lot of strength for me to socialize (even with friends).

Be open to try jobs, these dillemas are always there as to which stream/field to choose for job. Although one stream might be of interest but might not have many opportunities. There will be some other which might interest you. Keep looking for it. Don’t close yourself to job options. Only when you be open and try it out, you’ll know how comfortable you’re with it. And for the opportunities you missed, don’t lament over it, move on and grab the next ones.

‘Hate’ is a very strong word, I would say never refer it to yourself or for anybody.

It’s ok if the thought cycle is back and forth (positive and negative). Mind is a strange place…very difficult to handle! What is good is, you can atleast manage to get yourself on track with help from motivational stuffs. After all, we all need help. I would appreciate you for the efforts you’ve been putting in to get yourself on track. That’s commendable, not everyone can do that.

All the Best…

Hi Steve,

Your thoughts are very much valid…I share the same attribute..’I wear my heart on my sleeve’…Although I’m a woman, I prefer to say what’s in my heart rather than beat around the bush and play with mind (I’m bad at it :-))

2 days ago I told one of my friends that I like him more than a friend, although partly I knew that he won’t be able to proceed and even if he has something for me, it won’t come out. And I don’t wanna burn myself this time by investing in a relation which doesn’t have a future. I prefer the other person be open and candid too. Anyways, it was just to share.

When it comes to dating, the needs might differ, yeah? Some might be wanting just attention and sometimes women need someone to compliment them. If that’s all they were looking for, it won’t proceed further and believe me it’s better to not think much about why she didn’t reply you back (i am going through the same these days with the guy I like, so I can understand :-), it happens)….

Keep a tab on your self-esteem and don’t let it go down in any case. You’re a wonderful human being and deserve a loving person. Whenever any thoughts come and eat your head…remind yourself to ‘Move on’…

And as for the lady you met, if she is interested, she will message you back, have patience until then. Some people have a slow pace and we need to understand that. After all, it has to be mutual, yeah?

Lots of positivity to you Trevor… Stay blessed!

Hi Eve,

I will share what I have discovered lately…. There are many times when I would find myself with negative thoughts about myself… Although people find me attractive; I would think, ‘they must be crazy, hell I’m not or may be what they see is a facade’. Our mind is a strange place and difficult to handle sometimes.

I would look rarely in the mirror and one fine day, it caught my attention and I said, hey, wait a minute, this person in the mirror is pretty, is that really me? Well, then I should come here often and look at the mirror and develop positive thoughts about myself…

The point here is not if we look pretty or not, but the way we see ourselves. If we don’t love ourselves, we can’t expect others to love us.

Another way of feeling good about ourselves is to journal what we like about us or the things we are good at. Everyday, atleast 10 things, it will be difficult in the beginning, but you’ll feel great about yourself!

Affirmations is another good practice to implement in our daily life.

Lots of love and positivity to you….:-)

Hi Apothic,

I share similar views, although I just got divorced a year ago. As I listen in to friends and family to change my mind for better, I’m noticing positive changes in my mindset towards marriage. Conclusion for me still remains – if the person loves to be with me, he will be with me no matter what, don’t need a stamp and chain of ‘marriage’. Partly, I have ceased to believe in this institution, too many divorces around! including mine!

On pratical side, there are too much hassles (court proceedings) just to end a painful thing which both can do away with easily but one or the other person chooses to drag it to make it difficult and hurt!

I’m single and often get thoughts of retirement worries, what if I die alone? what if I don’t have anyone around to take care of me? But why ponder over something we haven’t seen; the future! Live in the present, take good care of yourself each day, be happy, spread happiness around…and enjoy the moment!

And believe me, slowly I’m discovering around me who literally feel ‘trapped’ in marriage (no offenses to anyone).

I do feel the lack of having someone to love me and take care of me, but let’s see who woos me..hehehe..:-)

Stay blessed!!! Feel free to share more such ques…I know how heavy these make us feel!…loads of love!!!

Santiago,

Consider if this confusion and the clarity behind it is what you want to carry in your relationship.

Your questions are valid, and you have the answers inside you; you just need to take a stand.

Love and Light to you!

Lindsay,

Only one advise I would like to give based on my experience on the same lines. Make sure that the person who wants to be with (which I believe here is Pete) is not out of manipulation, insecurity to lose you or the zest to win you over.

Shane seems to be more mature. I had to end up 6 years relation/2 yrs marriage with someone I considered my best friend (like you mentioned about Pete). Of late, I have realised it is better to be married to someone who’s more mature than you.

Also, at this stage it must feel exciting that you have choices to chose from, make wise choice. For me it turned out, it was good to walk out of both the choices and take a neutral path, as both had grudges inside of them, knowing that I was shuffling between two of them for a period of time. Which made the relation go sour.

I’m single now and pretty happy, content, satisfied and enjoying my space like never before. It was not easy, pretty much like a roller-coaster ride.

I have just shared my experience here. I’m sure you’ll take a wise and well-thought decison which is good for you.

Blessings and wisdom to you…