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December 27, 2013 at 4:55 am #47647
Hello Shannon I also share your emotional situation. I seem to place a great emotional attachment to music and certain songs. I don’t know how or why but when I hear a song that is very dear to me it takes great effort to not start crying. I seem to have developed this because to my mind the song or artist voice connects with me in a very deep level, were I can truly feel the emotions that I have attached to it. I can repeat the song as many times as I want, and it’s always there for me, unlike people who can hurt you. I can trust the song or the music to never betray me. And this is why I feel such an attachment and emotional connection to music. My feelings are sad mostly when I hear the songs. And there are some songs that I have forbidden myself to hear until I’m ready. One such song was very dear to me it took me 7 years to finally listen it it again and 7years of pent up emotions was like a tsunami hitting me. But it needed to be done. And I can listen to it again. I don’t know if anything I said helps but I can understand you.
I really love music and the fact that it creates such an emotional response from me is something I think the song writers could appreciate.December 16, 2013 at 9:30 am #46842
hello Jeff I support you and there are others here who can share in your pain
you are not alone here. I was never married but I just broke up with my supposed soul mate after 8 years. I can sympathize with you. and share your pain just know you are not alone. and I and many others are here for you.December 14, 2013 at 5:33 pm #46757
Hello M@ry, I can share in your feelings, I am in the process of moving out of state after an 8 year relationship with my supposed soul mate.
My family is close by and they are very loving and supportive for me and I am truly grateful for their support. I find myself alone in the new town I am moving to I don’t know anybody here, and were ever I look I see married couples or couples, I have gotten over the fact that my ex and I will never get back together. (thank you Taylor Swift for rubbing it in.) we left as friends but I have not developed my self to forgive her yet. Its easier to blame her for my situation than it is to understand and forgive, some day soon I will learn to let it go and forgive. I am trying to heal and find myself at this time in my life, it is difficult for me as the last 8 years I had spent with someone and now I only have the company of a loving cat. I never had many friends and they are busy with their lives as they are all married with children.
I find myself now in a new town with out any friends and what looks like no prospect of finding anyone single around here. I like you go out and try to be among people to feel like I’m with people but I also feel so alone even more so when I look around and see happy couples every were. I’m the odd one walking alone.
But right now I have to heal myself and find the real person who I am and connect with him before I even think about trying to find someone else. I don’t know how long it will take until I’m ready, and I don’t even know if I will ever find someone again, But seeing the sea of couples I am surrounded with the odds are in my favor that someone will come along. I don’t know how or when but hopefully I will be healed enough to love again.
I sympathize with you and share you fears but please share in my hope that we will meet someone and love again.
my best wishes and sympathy M@ry I can understand..December 10, 2013 at 5:20 am #46519
AL you are right, every word. If I had this advise half a year ago my life today would be totally different. Sam Your situation echoes mine but you are at the stage were it can be salvaged before it’s too late take. take your time and think logically and think it through, ask all the questions above. Only you know the answers to the questions
I wish you well and hope you make the decisions that you need to make.
Best wishes Cesar.December 8, 2013 at 7:07 am #46386
I can relate to how you feel, my self confidence is at an all time low after my break up. I had dated my supposed “soul mate” for 8 years and she completely changed her entire life and outlook the last year of the relationship, I had began to think that I was the cause of her change because it was so radical. she became a completely different person, I felt like I was living with a stranger. I never felt so alone and helpless, then she casually broke up with me, it was like she was talking about a old pair of jeans that she decided to toss in the trash. My world crumbled, was the last 8 years of my life with this supposed “soul mate of mine a lie? a huge waste of my energy love and soul? I’m in the process of slowly moving out of state as we share an apartment and I’m ready to leave her and put her behind me. But is Very hard after 8 years of memories mostly good. right now I’m feeling that I will never find anyone to love like that again, that who would ever know me like she did, why would I open myself to that kind of pain again? I’m trying to put her in a small box and put that box on a shelf in a tiny corner of my mind. Easier said than done, I’m trying to reconnect with myself because over the years I had to put my desires and wants aside for the relationship. right now I have no idea what my passions are or who I am with out her.
and this is what I have to rediscover before I can open my heart to someone else. My heart comes first is it selfish? every time I go out I keep seeing couples in love what I had not to long ago. Now I’m alone and wondering if I’m going to die a lonely man. All my positive thinking and work is ruined by one stray thought.
I can completely sympathize with you and my heart goes out to you as we share a similar pain. what helps me is knowing that we are not alone and we can come to this site and support each other, we are complete strangers here but share a common pain and we can take comfort and support each other and know that someone is there for us. Stay positive and strong Straight No Chaser.December 6, 2013 at 1:03 pm #46312
Try to focus on your job opportunities and your personal growth before trying to find someone. I’m in a similar boat. I’m trying to reconnect with myself and be my own best friend before I even think about meeting anyone else. I think Thats more important. love works in mysterious ways our job is too not try and figure it out. when it happens it happens. and when it does embrace it.December 5, 2013 at 7:35 pm #46293
My deepest and most sincerest apologies for your losses. I have a cat that is my best friend. for over 8 years he has always been there by my side giving unconditional love and asking for nothing in return. I think that’s why we love our four legged friends so much. they give and love us and expect nothing in return. we know full well we will outlive our loved friends and we go and get attached anyways knowing full well there will be a day we will say good bye. I love my cat and I know there will be one day in the future were he will pass on. I knew that the day I picked him up as a kitten and looked into his eyes. I tell myself I will be ready when that day comes but I know full well a piece of me will die with him.
but that’s the price we pay for unconditional love and to me its worth it.
I feel for your loss and my heart goes out to you..December 5, 2013 at 6:20 am #46245
I can sympathize I lost the woman I wished for over 10 years.
we were together for the last 8 years and I lost her. I won’t go into the details
not enough time but my heart and spirit is crushed. the one thing
that kept me going is this quote from my favorite song.
“you can’t always get what you want but if you try some time you might find you get what you need”. I can understand that now and there was a reason for what
happened my goal is to learn the wisdom from it and move on
easier said than done god knows its the worst pain ever. but
they say pain is weakness leaving the body. I say pain is wisdom
entering the mind.
I wish you well brother. my deepest sympathies.