Just another opinion, please do not take seriously.

Growing up in the 60’s and 70’s, would always hear people say you have to get your head together. Of course, they would use a more colorful terminology. The point was to know enough about yourself … your needs, your wants, and what your plans are for your future. If the person you are with doesn’t have the same goals then it is time to move on. If that person thinks there is someone better out there for him then he will never be satisfied with you. Time to move on.

Emotional attachment is like a drug. One feeds upon it at first. And, it feels good. Then, it starts to take its toll on the person’s spirit when that attachment is not met with equal force. Breaking up, Change is not easy. Drug addicts, who are really trying to kick the habit and get better, are told to go to a new place. That is because .. being in the same old environment will only cause one to go back to the same patterns. The same thinking. Bringing back the same old habits. It is time to move forward. Find some like-minded people for support. Move forward.

My hope, here, is for you to find yourself worthy of all the love you deserve. To shed the past that holds you back. And to grow into the better person you can be. Sorry for my two cents.

• This reply was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by Tommy.

Love is a sort of madness. It takes away good judgement and replaces it with feelings that sometimes makes no sense.
You believe you are in a long distance relationship but you don’t want to be in another long distance relationship.
He complains when you don’t take his advice and yet, you say that he doesn’t tell you what to do.
You tell him that you don’t like that he is still on the dating website and he gives you excuses to still be there.

I have found that you can’t expect the person to change (although some, in the future, may change).
All the complaining and talking won’t do anything but build resentment for making someone do something they aren’t ready for.

With these things in mind, it may be time to cool things off.
I don’t mean to break things off. But, to step back and get some perspective on this relationship.
Feelings can get in the way of good judgement. So, just cool things off a little to see if this is the right fit.