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I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. No one should have to go through so much. I think Anita has given you a lot of great tips on how to deal with your anxiety. If you need more resources, I know someone who has suffered from social anxiety and managed to overcome it. He shares his story and tips on what he did that helps him leave a normal life now. His article is published on my blog titled how to overcome shyness. I also have articles published from survivors of general anxiety and panic attacks. I don’t think I can leave links here, but you can check out my website through my profile. I hope this helps.
I read pretty much all the above posts and thought to myself what can I possibly say that hasn’t been said? I was going to leave without typing anything but then I thought if anything I have to say will help you even just a little bit then taking the time to write a response would be worth it.
Not long ago I was really depressed and was suicidal. I did not understand what my purpose was in life. I didn’t think I was good at anything and I couldn’t imagine a future for myself. I was feeling that way and I’m 33, you’re only 18 with your whole life ahead of you.
I spent many days in bed without a care in the world, no job, I just wanted to die basically. I did however want to create a place for other people that might be just as depressed as I was. I don’t know why but something inside of me kept telling me I have to create a place for people who feel like they don’t belong anywhere.
I decided one day to learn how to create websites, and I created a website for those who are depressed and need to feel a sense of belonging. In my blog I talk a lot about my experience with depression and anxiety and I give tips on how to overcome them. The website gives me the purpose I have been looking for. It also makes me feel great that I am doing something that not only benefits me but benefits other people as well.
Sometimes when we’re so lost and can’t figure our life out, It helps to do stuff for other people. Like some of the above posters suggested, you might want to think about volunteering. Think of something you can do that can benefit others and it may help you find your purpose.
You might also consider writing in a journal or start blogging like me. Writing for my website is a great therapy for me. I hope I helped you at least a little bit. I’ll keep checking back here to get updates on how you’re doing. Obviously you can see there are a lot of people here for you if you need to vent. You can contact me through my website as well. If you do enjoy writing let me know. I’m actually looking for a couple of writers for my site. I’d pay you per article, either way stay in touch. Let us know how you are doing.
All the above answers are great, I would also suggest you try to focus more on the solution to the things that are worrying you rather than the problem itself. For example when that negative voice tells you won’t find a job either ignore it and counter act it with something positive by saying: “Oh yes I will find a job!”. or you can say to yourself everything is going to be fine here is the solution to problem xyz. write out your plan to how you are going to fix each problem. That way when your brain sees that you have a plan, your nerves might calm down a bit. Focus on the solution not the problem! Hope this helps
I am going through something similar and can totally relate. You see, not long ago I got kicked out of school due to performance anxiety. I was so ashamed, embarrassed and so depressed that I just avoided my family and friends as much as I could. I have yet to tell them that I got kicked out of school.Every time they ask me about it, I come up with a lie.
The worst part is I made myself learn how to build websites and created 2 one for people who suffer from depression and anxiety and one for ADHD. I have been keeping my fingers crossed hoping a member of my family or a friend won’t stumble on one of my posts online and discover what I’ve really been up to. But it’s getting really hard to keep the lie going and they’re going to find out anyway. so I’ve decided I am going to tell my family tomorrow, I can’t take it anymore. (wish me luck) I suggest you do the same. It’s like Inky said: “what’s the worst that can happen?”
I write. I can’t tell you how much writing has helped me fight depression. I guess it has to do with putting my thoughts on paper or on my blog. Whatever I’m feeling or thinking, I write it down. It’s a great relief.