Dear Anita

That was interesting about the deep seatedness of if X is this then Y has to be that.
What do you believe good is? & how do you manifest it? This may help you clarify & reinforce the neural pathways you want to cultivate.
Does drawing/painting & or physically writing with a pen help?
For me visualization & mantra are a good medium to counteract negativity that arises in my mind & helps me move forward in a positive way.
Best wishes
Roberta

Hey Guys
Ann’s last post was nearly a month ago. For whatever reason she is not engaging with us (Tiny Buddha Forum) so why, oh why do you two butt heads like rutting stags no matter what the thread?

Hi Peter

Thank you for your gentle approach in your last 2 postings. You share insights which nourish my inner journey & hopefully that of others.
Bless you
Roberta

Hi Alessa

The Tibetans revere their mothers. In texts the talk of being like a mother looking after their only child. Protective & loving to understand how much a mother goes thru & how we should be grateful for their tender loving care. This often does not sit well nowadays particularly in the west because of all the instances of neglect ( is it a symptom of the modern world? easy access to drugs & alcohol etc). The older I get the better I appreciate & understand my mother & try to mimic her kindness & generosity & when I notice my mind sounds like her negativity, I consciously pause, to do a reset to how I aspire to be. So even many years after her death she remains one of my precious teachers.
Best wishes

Welcome friend or could I say doubting Thomas or both, not one nor two ha ha

Wild woman with red hair sought happiness in unskillful ways many times & that is putting it politely, not that I am ignoring or denying my skeletons I have taken them out & danced with them, many I hope have crumbled to dust from me admitting my mistakes & trying to make repartition, but take away or change one of my foolish acts or my acts of compassion then the two sons & my two grandchildren would not exist in this present manifestation such is the tapestry of my life, your life, all lives.

I think we mainly live with conventual truth & can only ponder & glimpse at ultimate truth briefly. If we take our bodies for instance it has grown & now may be shrinking as well over these many years. In a sense it is the Centre of our universe any yet cells live & die constantly, we have a whole microbiome in our guts for whom in a sense we are god & their universe, the food we give them, the antibiotics that wage war on them the peace treaties of pre & probiotic fuel. If we have nits do we not commit genocide to get rid of them? Sorry if I have offended anyone who thinks that I am being glib.
Anyway got to go & do an apology text, weed the garden of thoughtlessness, plant some seeds of forgiveness & love

Hi Ann

When people have been doing something for a long time they forget what it was like for them in the beginning. Take car driving for instance unless you think back to the basics & how over whelming & out of control it all feels at first, you wont make a good driving instructor.

One of my bosses never learnt how to swim as a youngster, in their 50’s they went on a short holiday which was designed to teach older people how to swim.
Also many people choose to swim parallel to the beach in not too deep water, but some locations where there is surf breaking a lot you have to go out a bit further to calmer water.

I hope that you find your confidence both in the water & your relationship.
Kind regards
Roberta