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RobertaParticipantDear Thomas
Would THE answer make you happier, kinder? If there was no heaven, hell, rebirth or reincarnation, no karma how would you live your life?
I have just perused a little book of poetry called The book of questions – some lines stirred my heart other the brain went huh, still I am glad that I picked it up. in places it has a gentle whiff of a koan ” Where does a rainbow end, in your soul or on the horizon?”
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Confused
It is impossible to feel ecstatic about anyone/thing even those we love all the time, writers get writers block & artists aren’t inspired to create all day every day.
Slow down & maybe consciously think about gratitude, the small things we take for granted like the food on our plate, how many unknown people it took to bring it to your table. Give the cashier at your local supermarket a smile & thank them, gentle, short interactions will bring you a sense of connection without any pressure.
Best wishes
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Omyk
I know it is hard to sit with uncertainty, & we like to know where we are going & what we are doing & that it is in our control.
Some how trust in your faith, destiny moves in mysterious ways. Just plant the seeds of peace in yourself & help water those seeds in others along your & their’s journey.
Have you been watching the monks who are doing a walk of peace in America? very inspirational.
Use your core values to help support you in this time of uncertainty.
I wish you health happiness & peace & prosperity
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Confused
Sometimes our dreams are a way of processing the stuff we/life has been inputted into our minds often in the last 24hrs. therefore the more you think about her/situation the greater the chance a part of that will play out in your dream scape.
Sometimes I dream that my ex-husband survived his boat sinking & I wake up happy other times I dream of his death & I wake up with the physical feeling of grief in my heart even though the accident was 25 years ago.
Lucid dreaming & dream yoga are quite interesting topics to mull over.
Kind regards & sweet dreams
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi
My son who is into manga & aminmee, got me a set of Buddha comic books by Osamu Tezuka. I keep one in the car & read a couple of pages when waiting to pick up my grandson.
January 26, 2026 at 11:14 am in reply to: Gf’s Dad passing was the final straw into ending our long distance relationship #454572RobertaParticipantDear Alecsee
“I’m always fixated on her body type as it’s not common and she fit my ideal girl language and type standards.” Whoa she is a human being, with a mind, emotions & feelings & a life with all its struggles ups & downs. In a LDF people are mainly in a 2 dimensional relationship, 90% fiction & the 10% reality of when they meet up which is for the most part either honeymoon or hell neither of which is healthy.
Chalk it up to experience, do not bother trying to figure her out, look to where you need to grow ie lying to someone to either prompt a reaction or to hurt their feelings.
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi Laura
Wow that sounds intense & scary. Does it feel like things are snowballing too fast?
I guess you could say to him that you are not ready to look to any concrete future beyond your studies & that talk of marriage & kids is definitely not on your radar now or in the near future. If you are going out on doubledate with your best friend, you can use that as an opportunity to be stronger about your politics, hair etc. anything that highlights your differing perspectives. Hopefully he will take time to reflect & see that you are not this romantic fantasy, but an independent person in their own right.
Best wishes
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Sonia
It can be hard to get the balance right when being supportive to a needy friend.
Maybe you can get him involved with volunteering or a hobby with other people to give him an alternative outlet & or you could start to do those kind of things for yourself & then he would understand that you have less time for him.
Ultimately we want our friends to be happy & self-reliant.
Like every one else has said you are not responsible for your friends depression.
Once you put in place healthy boundaries you may start to enjoy being around him.
Kind regards
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Alessa
Well done for being your son’s advocate especially around professionals. You are a good, wise & caring mother I hope that you are both resting.
RobertaParticipantHi Anita
Yes that little white rabbit touched my heart many years ago, the books had so much depth to them & the drawings are magical.RobertaParticipantDear Tom
Hopefully those reviewing your annual appraisal will see that the good statements come from those who work closely with you & give them more weight.
If you can see yourself as quietly confident, rather than trying to mimic the fervor of the outgoing shouty people. Often those who shout the most are covering up for their own fear at being inadequate etc.
My son works at a preschool & is very playful, but on the odd occasion when he raises his voice slightly, deepens his tone & speaks slowly everyone stops & takes notice even the other adults in the room.
Kind regards
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Anita
There is a book from my childhood called Pookie and another called Pookie’s Christmas. The one about Christmas bridges the gap between belief in Santa & total annihilation of that belief. It is still in print & I share them with my grandchildren. The written word is under the right speech category in Buddhism. Is it timely, is it helpful etc. This is something to be mindful everyday in all our interactions with others. Often we get too swept up in our busyness to take heed of these things.
Kind regards
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Luna
I am sorry that your current situation feels a bit of a rerun of past hurts. I know I was very flaky in the romance department for probably least 40 years ( I married at 17). Eventually I got around to some introspection & buddhism was what resonated with me, but even with those magnificent tools it still took a coupe more romantic gaffs for me to be older & wiser.I just jotted down a few ideas here. I think the trick is for your mum not to immediately feel on the defensive about the reconnecting with her ex. “mum I wish for you to be happy. I hope that … finding Christ brings about changes that will nurture both yours & his happiness. I need to feel safe & this may take some time, so please can the pair of you be patient with me.”
I hope this can be of some help.
Kind regards
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi
I see the nun as brave & wise.
It takes a lot of courage to stand up in front of your peers & teachers.
She was wise not to keep quiet, this could have been misinterpreted as colluding or encouraging the monk.
This story is still relevant today in our modern world.January 1, 2026 at 1:39 pm in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453703RobertaParticipantDear Elna.
I am sorry that you feel alienated from your birth family. It is a natural human condition to want to feel connection with other human beings. It is hard to keep deep friendships active if our lives have basically been nomadic for what ever reason.
What are your passions & joys? There are many different kinds of intentional communities all around the world. These communities could possibly offer that deep sense of connection & groundedness. Many of them welcome visitors/volunteers so they could make an ideal focus for your travels.
May you fall asleep quickly & easily
May you have sweet & pleasant dreams
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