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  • October 5, 2015 at 1:52 pm in reply to: I'm 24 and have never been with I #84767
    jock
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    when I was 24, I thought I was old. “oh dear, pretty soon, I’ll be too old to find a partner”. I was wrong. I found one, but not until 30. So I wouldn’t be panicking just yet.
    Oh and re you v status. Be proud of your uniqueness. There’s plenty of guys with no self respect who have lost theirs.

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    October 4, 2015 at 8:30 pm in reply to: If I had my life over again………. #84732
    jock
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    Anita
    let me guess
    your mother was Christian?
    Or some bible basher has scarred you for life? Turned you off the higher power concept?
    But congratulations. You seem fully recovered to me. Very mature.
    Hope you can now start to enjoy life…finally…
    I watch my dog, he knows how to enjoy life
    he is the Buddha in our household

    Pomp
    mmmm teaching, still unsure, thanks anyway

    October 3, 2015 at 8:13 pm in reply to: Do you like confident people? #84656
    jock
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    forum addiction may be yet another issue for me now too

    October 3, 2015 at 8:10 pm in reply to: Deserved Guilt- I did it and I can't undo it #84654
    jock
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    OK I won’t bore you by channelling Born Again Basil, then 🙂

    October 3, 2015 at 8:09 pm in reply to: I feel terrible, how to cope #84653
    jock
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    I just think you might be putting this new guy on a pedestal and you’re worried it is your last chance to get a decent partner.
    Might be better to lower your expectations and ease the pressure you put on yourself.

    October 3, 2015 at 8:04 pm in reply to: Do you like confident people? #84651
    jock
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    sorry, crap is maybe the wrong word then

    October 3, 2015 at 8:03 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84650
    jock
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    anita
    your replies always have that heart with them as well. A heart that is big, despite all the wounds you’ve received both physical and emotional. I can see how much you’ve helped a lot of people here on TB already.

    October 3, 2015 at 7:58 pm in reply to: Deserved Guilt- I did it and I can't undo it #84648
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    Don’t you think your nephew and sister have moved on from this?
    Time for you to as well?

    I’m not sure how much we can help on this forum with guilt.
    For my issues of guilt, I resort to a higher power….Buddhism can only go so far I believe…
    the worse we feel the more we need to pray…in my opinion

    October 3, 2015 at 7:48 pm in reply to: Do you like confident people? #84646
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    I was going to start a thread on guilt but there are a few things I find even hard to admit to myself. it is not that I don’t trust people here, it is just that I don’t think I would feel good about it by the end.
    All I can say is Anita, I’m sorry for your sister but I feel sorrier for you. You carry such a burden for such a long time. You deserve to give yourself a break . Absolutely no judgement my end. “he who cast the first stone…”.
    Hope that helps.
    Isn’t it amazing how much crap we all carry with us…

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    October 3, 2015 at 5:03 pm in reply to: When is anger useful? #84637
    jock
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    Thanks Mike
    I liken your suggestion to my teaching days.
    I never mastered it myself, but colleagues said “act angry and grumpy with students in the first 2 months,after that you can relax”.

    So what you mean is, use fake anger, pretend you are angry in minor issues before they become full-blown problems and you have to use real anger?(then it is too late and you are out of control)
    Shame we have to do this but I take your point and it is a very good one.
    I need to practice my temper tantrum, (spit the dummy) performance in the mirror. 🙂

    October 3, 2015 at 4:53 pm in reply to: I feel terrible, how to cope #84636
    jock
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    My inner self is still crap.

    Forget about any guys. any relationships for a while. Work on your inner self. get into something like Buddhism/Meditation. it’s basically free.
    I’ll leave you with a quote:
    “Beauty is only sin deep”

    October 3, 2015 at 4:50 pm in reply to: I feel terrible, how to cope #84635
    jock
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    I dont have enough money to see professional help.

    We don’t charge much here. It wouldn’t be more than like 250 bucks for your first 20 minute session with me on Skype.
    My name’s Llama Jack by the way.

    October 3, 2015 at 4:44 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84634
    jock
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    Hey Anita
    With this skill in analysis, you wouldn’t need to visit a therapist yourself, would you?
    I mean you have already sorted all your own issues out, I would imagine.

    October 3, 2015 at 3:51 pm in reply to: Meditate before or after studying? #84632
    jock
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    get others opinion here but I’d say before study is good.
    if you have time do it after as well, no harm 🙂

    October 3, 2015 at 3:46 pm in reply to: From Catholicism to Buddhism #84631
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    Don’t feel like you’re being torn between the two, embrace both of them.

    very helpful, thanks

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