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  • September 30, 2015 at 6:44 pm in reply to: What does society need that you can offer? #84460
    jock
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    OK to answer my own question…

    humour occasionally but gee I’ve been in an unfunny mood lately. I can’t even laugh at my lack of humour. I’m humourless! 🙂

    September 30, 2015 at 6:22 pm in reply to: All things good to us are rewarding to us #84457
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    Since my mood is not ideal, it is better I don’t reply then.

    September 30, 2015 at 4:29 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84455
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    Fed up Fred
    He sees too many cries for help on here which are only half the story. They make the author look like a pitiful victim which they are sometimes he admits but…..
    Hey I must look like one of these people when I’ve cried for help. We all need sympathy, people to agree with us no matter what. We don’t really want to be challenged. We just want validation. Not specific advice either. Just to be listened to.
    So I’m projecting. I’m fed up with myself in fact.. 🙂

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    September 30, 2015 at 4:16 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84454
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    Expect too Much Eric
    This guy would like to see Tiny Buddha Forum more lively.
    He is too easily disappointed.

    September 30, 2015 at 2:08 pm in reply to: So disappointed in myself #84453
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    No judgement then

    September 29, 2015 at 7:57 pm in reply to: Unfinished Business #84436
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    ah but cowardice is sometimes mistaken for caution. Nothing wrong with caution. Being careful. 100% courage is sometimes lacking in wisdom and discretion.
    Courage needs to be well-placed or it is wasted. You have 100 soldiers with unbridled courage can be like the lambs before the slaughter. Look at world war 1, when troops had to go over the top, just to get to the next trench. They were just mown down. Wasted courage by idiotic generals/superiors.
    Brains and courage. Now there is a force to be reckoned with. You spend a long time preparing a speech, on a topic you really care about and you know it will make you vulnerable (because it is personal)and risk getting you offside with some of the audience. You go ahead and give your speech from the heart anyway. But if you didn’t prepare, it would be wasted courage as you haven’t thought it through.

    September 29, 2015 at 6:17 pm in reply to: Unfinished Business #84421
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    So his evil was actually his shadow that needed expression. His real confidence coming out. Maybe there is a lesson there for all of us. Don’t be afraid of our apparent darker side coming out. It needs expression and may be our lifesaver……but that doesn’t mean you become a drug dealer… 🙂

    September 29, 2015 at 4:42 pm in reply to: Unfinished Business #84416
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    No I haven’t Anita
    I noticed you said you watched Breaking Bad. That was an interesting study of human nature and its potential for good and evil. interesting that the main character maintained popularity(with viewers) despite becoming a demonic drug dealer.

    September 29, 2015 at 4:25 pm in reply to: I love him but I'm suddenly not "in love" #84414
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    Jaz
    I’m 57 and the definition of “love” has changed for me over the years.
    I look back at my younger years with amusement really.
    My younger self became infatuated with a girl/woman who became my wife.
    Love now is less giddy, less addicted to thrills and spills of a whirlwind romance. We don’t get insecure if we are apart. We have full trust in each other that our feelings won’t change from now on. It’s a relief to get over that insecure stage of “am I good enough for her?” Our love has depth and breadth, I believe. We are soulmates.
    So don’t panic. if he is the one, he is the one. It will happen naturally either way. No need to force the issue. Excitement is a drug like adrenalin. It took me a while to learn that. I mean that you need to feel excitement in order to feel love. You don’t. Love is more than a feeling and more than logic or even magic. Love is sometimes not pretty. It can be hard work. But it is worth the effort.

    September 29, 2015 at 6:03 am in reply to: How I see a depressed life #84397
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    I didn’t read the whole lot Matt.
    I can’t begin to imagine how dark, serious depression is.
    Hope your good moods become more frequent.
    Take care.

    September 28, 2015 at 10:48 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84381
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    Adam the Adult
    I see less of him these days. He was everpresent in my 20s and 30’s. He got the job done. He made sure I got to work and persevered despite the odds often against him. He bought and helped pay a house and car off. Kind of heroic but he ignored Ruminator Ron and Analystical Alan so much so they ceased to exist. He denied there was any chaos in the room. He often said “Man up Jack” He was more interested in appearances but also pragmatic: the bills always paid on time.
    He needs to come back so I can find and keep a job. But on different terms. he needs to lighten up and not be so tough on the other members. he needs to have a more democratic approach, instead of a macho “my way or the highway” approach.

    September 28, 2015 at 10:39 pm in reply to: Which movies impressed you? #84379
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    midnight cowboy with dustin Hoffman and jon Voight (father of Angleina Jolie)
    that was a classic, showing the insanity of city life versus the naïve country boy and the sadness of Ratso Ritzo (Hoffman)

    September 28, 2015 at 10:36 pm in reply to: If I had my life over again………. #84377
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    Anita
    you mean you’ve been absent from this world for 50 years? you mean not fully present? Not fully alive?

    September 28, 2015 at 10:35 pm in reply to: If I had my life over again………. #84376
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    lori
    just to add re your idea of me returning to teaching and this time working with older kids:
    I have given this some thought but I would need a serious overhaul
    ie. lose some weight, get my voice projecting louder with more authority, have much stricter boundaries, add Adam the Adult to my posse of inner selves. This guy would display commonsense in dealing with familiarity and boundaries with students. My fear would be that Llama Jack would take over and just want to relax with the kids by being a kid himself. Then the class gradually gets out of control with no adult present. Hence Adam the Adult would need to make his presence felt for sure, in fact stamp his authority over the others……maybe 🙂

    September 28, 2015 at 10:25 pm in reply to: Overwhelming Pain – What\'s wrong with me? #84372
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    I think your self-esteem is the main issue. If lots of women were fawning over you now, you’d soon forget your ex-wife. Am I wrong?
    If I were in your situation, I ‘d be trying to enjoy my own company for a while. Try to get some self-belief. First work on the superficial kind ie. appearance, lose weight, looking sharp, wearing good clothes. Then work on the soul or inner work which will address such things as your value system and integrity. Start to care what you think of you rather than what others think of you. Can you accept your weak points? Try to honestly admit your strengths, your good points. Compliment yourself when you do something positive..”good I walked 5 miles today. well done!”
    You might want to use visualisation as a strategy. What kind of person can you imagine yourself to be (positive of course)

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