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September 11, 2017 at 12:58 am #168238
Hey B, I think Anita has a great idea,
What you need most is a good friend to sit down with you and let you just talk all of this out!! What I would do, is to find a counselor/psychologist to go to and just sit down with them and tell them all you’ve told us! I promise it will help you so much!!
As a Christian, I recommend you go to church! This is just my opinion, but I know that Jesus can be a great friend that can heal all that hurts. If you want message me back and I can tell you more! For now, just look in the Bible at John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only son (Jesus), that whoever believes in Jesus, can have eternal life.” Jesus can wipe away all our tears!!!
Also, make sure to talk to a counselor! I think most people in the world have done it and you should too! What are you waiting for? 🙂September 11, 2017 at 12:51 am #168236
I’m gonna give it to you straight from a guy’s perspective.
He’s not serious about you and probably never was. You are probably great eye candy for him and he can probably brag about his hot girlfriend to his friends and blah blah blah. Listen, this dude is neeeehhhever gonna propose or actually marry you. No matter how much you pressure him to make a real move instead of words, he will always dodge it and find a way to weasel out of it and make it your fault.
I’m just some guy on the internet so take my opinion for what it’s worth, but Brooke, since you’re attractive, go out and find a winner who will put a ring on it. I’m sure it won’t be hard to find a great guy who makes you laugh and doesn’t act like a brat. Please, save yourself some time, and break up with this bum. No matter what excuse or clever phrase he uses, break up with him. If you stick to your guns and break this relationship, he may actually respect you for once. You’re worth more than that.September 11, 2017 at 12:43 am #168234
I think it is fine to ask her on a date dude, buuuuuut with women, I’m gonna give you a hard truth!! If they aren’t texting back on average within about 15 min, chances are they aren’t interested. Heck, women are GLUED to their phones bro. Don’t lie to yourself if the messages are few and far between. I’m sure she’s great and got everything, but you need to get mentally prepared just in case she’s not into you.
I’m not gonna blow sunshine up your ass, I wish you the very very best in all seriousness. She could be busy if this has been only for the past few days. So that’s why CALLING around 8p.m. her time and asking for a date. Don’t text. Texting is dumb and it takes all the emotions out of it. Swing for the fences man, and if you strikeout, there will be another great gal later down the stretch.September 11, 2017 at 12:36 am #168232
I am a guy with anxiety, and it sabotaged one of my past relationships and I think I may be able to help you understand him.
With anxiety, your brain is literally on fire….It depends on what is causing the anxiety for him, but it is most likely that he has lost himself and it is incredibly embarrassing and emasculating for him to have this mental illness while he is with you. As guys, we like to feel invincible and make our girl believe that nothing can hurt us. When I went through anxiety, my girlfriend tried helping me, but it was honestly my battle to fight.
We broke up later because of money, but I can’t lie, my anxiety was a major enemy to our relationship. Please understand, that he broke up with you because he is a wounded animal right now and in nature, you need to leave wounded animals alone. He needs to conquer this dragon on his own. Once he has done that, he may come back to you, or you might find someone new. I can pretty much guarantee you that he is hurting alot right now, doubting himself as a man for not being able to control his anxiety for you. He wanted to be strong for you, but because he couldn’t, he broke up with you as a defense mechanism.
Give him time, and as for you, listen to some good music. Go on walks in the park! Travel maybe! I hope I’ve cleared up things a tiny bit.
-Lonely VikingAugust 26, 2017 at 3:40 am #165712
Thank you both so much for your help!!! Both of you have such great insight and have helped clear the smoke for me. I will try to just simply ask her out for coffee and see if she even says yes to that and if she does I’ll keep it simple!