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May 28, 2015 at 12:35 am in reply to: Wanting female perspective on relationship breakdown #77406
Hi Rose…thanks for your reply…myself and her meet on wednesdays for coffee and we chat, she is broken up about us…and so am i ,, we both cant seem to let go,,,we tell each other we love each other…and then go our separate ways for another week..i think this must be the worst type of breakup…as in a normal breakup, one person leaves and the others left devistated and suffering.. but in this situation, we both keep comming together and holding each other..as e cant stand the pain of being apart..ive decided im going to write my thoughts in here every few days, just so i can find some release from the high emotion of it all…
today is a bad day… inside im dying…but i just keep going on, i realise, that as high as love takes me , the opposite applies, and i am falling into darkness…the pain…some days are better than others,,,me and her often talk and share..
i wonder if not being together if is self imposed,,, and if i can break out of this prison of the mind…
i wish you the best rose, i hope you find peace..
From the movie “what dreams may come”
The Tracker: Your wife love you as strong ? We’ll find her. But when we find her nothing will make her recognize you. Nothing will break her denial. It’s stronger than her love. In fact, reinforced by her love. You can say everything you long to say, including good-bye. Even if she can’t understand it. And you’ll have the satisfaction that you didn’t give up. That has to be enough.
And that’s the sad truth, you can’t save any one….although you can try…
Agreed. ..move on..and release
the pain of the heart needs to be felt, and understood, but torturing yourself is not productive, in the end you will find a way through this, but when we leave things unresolved..un said..it provides fertile ground for the memories to linger…regards
i never understood it when people said “we love each other but we cant be together”, like, how is that possible..cant people “choose” to be with each other regardless of how other people feel or circumstances…and then…”it happened to me”…i cant be with the one i love, and it tore / is tearing me apart..suicidal some times, and blackness…but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
i did mindfulness, meditation, compartmentalazation, reclamation and various other techniques to support my journey back to wholeness….only to find, its not her that i miss…its whats “lacking in me” that is the core issue..and until i resolve that i will ALWAYS fall into darkness…
just my opinion…and my heart goes out to you as a fellow sufferer… but you can decide to suffer or not suffer, its up to you, and one thing i found was… suffering doesnt change the situation at all..think about itMay 16, 2015 at 4:39 pm in reply to: Wanting female perspective on relationship breakdown #76876
Thanks for the replies…I spoke to her last night…and for the first time ever she exposed her feelings..and she is devistated that she and I are not together…due to circumstances…so as it is we both felt the same, but can’t be together..it is as it is…nothing more to do except, heal..