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PearceHawkParticipantAnita thank you for your thoughts…As I told another person who responded to my question, I think that in my thinking there is more to mindfulness, that in itself is a distraction which is not needed. From what my experience teaches me on a daily basis, mindfulness is being present in the here and now and not incorporating once upon a time experiences into the here and now. It is a focus on what is-I think. The value I continue to learn from being mindful is that I am not living in the past. Doing so, like I said, is a distraction from the here and now. Once upon a time is exactly that, once upon a time. Recently, while thinking about this, I came to realize that life is the classroom and experience is the teacher. The value I take away from mindfulness is that I truly get to embrace now and all the amazing things it has to give. The value in it liberates me from distractions and allows me to be more aware of those things that are truly important-the peace, love, and happiness that life has to offer. I am grateful for your thoughts.
PearceHawkParticipantLuckyfox thank you for your thoughts…I have taken your perspective and by doing so I am able to recognize even more the simplicity of mindfulness. For me to even think that there is more to it is in itself a distraction in it’s simplest form. I am grateful to you for your help.
PearceHawkParticipantCraig your insight is not of this world. I greatly appreciate it. Your thoughts on this have given me so much strength and is the answer to dealing with it that I have been looking for. I shall write later and give you details of the incident if you wish, if it helps you understand.
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PearceHawkParticipantCraig thank you for giving me a very powerful and helpful perspective. Your question caught me off guard and for a moment, my answer was, I don’t know. After giving it some thought, my answer seems to be a simple one, yet I am not sure if it is complete. My answer to what I understand “should” happen is liberation from holding on to anger/resentment from painful experiences. It would mean putting no value on a persons desire to hurt me. I also think that in my responding to painful experiences with anger and resentment means I am willing to engage in the negative moment, which puts value on that negative effort. I value your help and look forward to your thoughts.
PearceHawkParticipantTannhauser the real test of Christianity is how they treat non-believers. Christianity has a foundation of fear, guilt, and manipulation. For agents of a particular religion who come knocking on my door trying to buy me and sell me into their belief via fear, guilt, and manipulation is an insult to me as a human being. Stay the course you have chosen and find happiness in that journey.
PearceHawkParticipantMirabelle you are not the one who is lost. I am a follower of Paramanhasa Yogananda and you would not believe the number of people calling me Atheist, which is a narrow minded reaction. I have been shunned by my family for YEARS because of this. But I am at peace with that because I know it is their choice, just as it is my choice to pursue happiness in my discovery in the teachings of Paramanhasa Yogananda. All you can do is wish them to discover peace, love, and happiness in their journey, whatever it may be. Allow them their path as you have yours, which, it looks like you are embraced with more love than ever before. There inso reason for you to question or doubt your relationship with Buddhism because of other religions’ beliefs.
I wish you all the love, peace, and happiness that life has to offer, for an eternity longer than a lifetime. It is the least you deserve.
PearceHawkParticipantGetting stonewalled, what is he protecting?…he has fears of rushing into a relationship, this should have been put delicately in the beginning and not mislead you…understands if you want to leave, read that to mean you can leave because he doesn’t want to be the meanie…being a guy I know how a lot of guys think. In any relationship, whether it be work, school, friends, personal, there are two kinds of people; those of commitment and those of conformity. With people who embrace conformity, you will potentially have more problems BECAUSE they have to negotiate what they are willing to put forth. Their mindset is, what’s in it for me. What will I get in return? With people commitment, you almost always have no problems because they are, well, committed. You should be a safe harbor for him and not some bus stop. Also, and everyone consider this, as a guy I know you will have problems getting some meaningful commitment with guys between 16ish into their early 30’s, give or take. A guy between those ages who really want a meaningful relationship is rare.
PearceHawkParticipantBlondie I am sorry you are going through that. You say he has been badly hurt in the past. Half of a thousand is five-hundred and I truly believe that you are getting one side of that story. If his story is true, it is not fair that you are punished for something once upon a time when you weren’t even there. People in relationships should turn toward each other and not toward some artificial anchor to deal with their problems. At the same time, I truly believe that you should take some time out and re-evaluate your reasons for choosing to stay with someone who is replacing sex with chronic porn. I do not mean to seem insensitive to you, my advice comes from my heart and soul. As the old saying goes, first time a victim, second time a volunteer. Don’t take the back seat for porn. You are above that.
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