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I’m going to look at that place now. Enjoy a peaceful evening.

I’m getting off line for a while Hopefaith but please do stay in touch. There are some fantastic people here. For me, it’s home.

Hopefaith what you are doing now, reaching out to this community, is HUGE!!! The fact that you want to make yourself a better person for you is amazing! I say that because a lot of people don’t take the time, for whatever reason, to re-evaluate themselves and explore different areas of their life where they want to be better. Very nice! I know for a fact that there are some unbelievably amazing people here because I communicate with them, via this web site, and I see and even feel the depth of their concern for whatever. You can simply start by asking about any particular issue you are having difficulty with in solving. You can post an opinion you have and ask for feedback. That’s one of my favorites. You can ask the “how do I get over so ‘n’ so” questions. No judgement here, Hopefaith. By the way where do you live? just curious. I actually want to know where everyone on Tiny Buddha lives.

Hi Jade,

I have been thinking the exact same thing for several months now. Your post is excellent in that your questions do not seem to be taken seriously enough by most to make realistic and important changes. So no, you are not blowing this out of proportion. Personally I believe that those questions and other issues that are making this world so damn toxic just happens to be the current state of the world. I think your questions could easily have been asked several millennial ago and, perhaps they were. But it seems to be as far as that goes, just questions. Scholars and social scientists can study those questions, write essay’s and books to share their findings, maybe make the NY Times Best Seller List, still that’s as far as it goes. I think that the vast majority of information put out there by the media is sensational journalism which adds to our awareness of these events. The other day I asked a good friend of mine why have people had such a hostile since day 1. She asked me how long ago do I think “day 1” was. I told her about a man from the so-called ice-man era that was found in the Alps I believe, and the forensics discovered point to murder.

I have noticed those things more and more but I have no idea why so many people are willing to make negative questions. A long time ago when I first took notice of this pattern ill will towards one another, I felt as you do now, sad. My current thinking is realizing that this is in fact the current state of the world. I don’t contribute or condone those very things your question’s propose because I am not part of that world. I choose to live and think in more peaceful ways. I also spend every day at the beach, some times I’ll add in a hike, and I go to a special place in my soul and think about the beauty that really does exist in life. As I am in that special place, I am absorbed by a certain bliss I am not able to describe. And yet the world as it is goes on and on. I think that what you really don’t understand what’s wrong with “my thinking and how I can correct it.” is that there is nothing wrong with your thinking. You are truly connected and aware of its current state as well. To feel sad for days shows how your compassion is affected by this. Believe me, I have sad days as well when a lot of my thinking is diverted to the issues in your question. To feel that is to keep you in contact with the single most important person in pursuit of understanding-you.

It is far from a perfect world in which we live and all I think I can do is go into what I call my “trance dance,” a deep state of meditation, and picture, imagine, pretend, or visualize a world consumed by so much peace and love, and hope that my images change the world. So far I’m not doing so good :/

Here’s what I wish for you with the hope that it gives you good thoughts…I wish you all the love, peace, and happiness that life has to offer, for an eternity longer than a lifetime. It is the least you deserve.

Pearce

Hi None.

Talk about being between a rock and a hard place. Sheesh. I think that when he asks things like “asking me if at that moment we were chatting I wanted something so I told him I wannahug and kiss the baby,” you should be vague and say something like, ” No, I don’t need anything. I’m good.” The way you answered, ” I wannahug and kiss the baby,” was an opportunity for him to create an “opening” to get into your life a little more, apparently a place where you don’t want him to be because, as you said “I am not that open about my life with everyone.” One option is for you to invite your cousin to brunch, lunch, or whatever, and start off with a simple question, “so how are the two of you doing now that there is a baby in your life?”. I wouldn’t ask that right away. I’d focus on the cute baby at first then ask that question. If she says they are doing great, or fine, then I would bring it up and show her the text. If she says they are having some troubles, you can explore that then show the text. Either way, personally, I think she needs to know. I’d definitely put some distance between you and him, subtle enough to let him know that you don’t need a player in your life. I’m just a little harsh with this sort of thing because it happened to me. It started off with a text like the one you got, too many “private” phone calls, etc. I left to go to the Middle East and when I returned I found out she had been with this guy pretty seriously. You give these kind of people an inch they will take a mile. Should you choose to NOT mention something, things go bad to worse, and your cousin finds out that you have known about this for a while, this could easily be seen as betrayal, it could easily be seen as you were in collusion with him, that your cousin could easily ask, “how long have you known about this?” or “why didn’t you tell me earlier?” Nothing good really comes out of this sort of thing. Distance yourself from him and consider telling your cousin.

Pearce

Dear Chloe,

I ask this question to myself nearly everyday, and when I stop thinking about it, it’s not a pretty picture. I have no idea what our purpose is collectively and sometimes, many times I question my own purpose which for me is easier to answer; to try to be better than I was yesterday and to seek out those things that I can help make this a better planet. In doing so I am reminded of the truth you spoke of, that the good is outnumbered by the bad. I sometimes half jokingly tell people that instead of taking a written and an actual driving test to get your driver’s license, instead there should be an IQ test people should take. But because of the very nature that we are that creates a whole new set of problems we would be forced to deal with. I am very much involved with the globe warming issue and while I, along with many people concerned with that research, we as people are not 100% at fault for it. However, we are accelerating it at disastrous speeds. I don’t know what we’re thinking. I think maybe we are not. To not take the consequences seriously and act on them globally has reversible results that are far more damaging than we realize. Bruce Hornsby’s song Look Out Any Window was released back in 1988 if I am correct and it is perhaps even more relevant today. Invite you to Google The Pale Blue Dot by Carl Sagan. Just his very words makes me ask myself, what exactly is our purpose, and while I am happy your post made me think about that again, I have failed to come up with an answer. If we do, then what?

Wishing you peace, love, and hope

Pearce