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  • in reply to: Equanimity in action #235345
    Prash
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    Dear Anita,

    Yes, accessing the inner child is indeed helpful. A child’s feelings of love and affection are unconditioned and unconditional. To be aware of that as we go about our routines is indeed liberating. To realize that this inner child is there in all is empowering for compassion and kindness to take root in interaction with others.

    Wish you the best. Ending my posts in this thread for now. Will be in communication periodically.

    Take care.

    in reply to: Family Problems/ Health problems.Help Please! #235291
    Prash
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    Dear Allumena,

    Your father seems to be exerting a lot of negative influence on you. How is your interaction with other members of your family?

    I think it is important to be aware of what is happening when he says something. More important than what he says, it is important to be aware of what is on your mind and the words that you use.

    As an example when he implies that he does not believe you maybe your mind is telling you “I am no good” or “I am unable to get things right” etc

    No one can affect you by their words completely unless you yourself believe or buy into what is being said. A useful first step is to recognize what is going on in your mind by writing them down.

    in reply to: Equanimity in action #235263
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Every interaction with you takes me a step up in my journey. As I heard my inner child through your words, I was moved in a way indescribable by words. Even as my mind said “what’s the point in this, it is something in the past” and “what am I going to gain by accessing my inner child”, I decided to quiet my mind and just experience and feel my inner child in all his purity and state of tranquility.

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    in reply to: Family Problems/ Health problems.Help Please! #235211
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Allumena,

    What are the words that your dad uses when he gets angry and mad at you? What feelings does his words evoke in you?

    Being more independent in your current situation would probably be a greater control of your thought process. To take better charge of your thought process and not let what anyone tells affect the way you feel about yourself for too long. As you keep doing it you will be able to reach a stage where you are able to move away from your family and give yourself a shelter.

    in reply to: Equanimity in action #235207
    Prash
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    Dear Anita,

    I read and got a feeling of the pain and the struggle that you have been through. Thanks for sharing. Glad to read about your process of healing.

    in reply to: My friend has Stage 4 cancer #235077
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Daliya,

    You wrote about finding it difficult to put together words of support. Maybe what would be useful is not words of support but supportive actions like helping with day to day tasks or giving company for appointments or taking care of any other details that you can for him.

    What is the type of communication that you had with him before? Is it reasonable to continue a similar kind of communication given the changed situation. You can have a word with your mother about what he communicates with her. That too can give you leads on what you can do.

     

    in reply to: Family Problems/ Health problems.Help Please! #235075
    Prash
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    Dear Allumena,

    There are quite a few articles on mindfulness and meditation in this site itself. Once you start practising it, you will experience a shift in the way you think.

    Over a period of time you will focus and define what exactly it is that you love. Till then look for those small moments of beauty and enjoy it in the best possible way you can.

    In every point of time, there will be some things that are in your control and some things that are not. When thoughts are based only on those things that you can’t control – like past events and what will happen in the future, a feeling of helplessness can set in. On the other hand when you focus on those things that are in your control, then you will experience a sense of freedom and peace.

    What type of books have you enjoyed reading so far? I didn’t understand what you wrote here – “I don’t really like reading unless I can imagine with the book and what and see what is going on through my mind.”

    What do you mean by “What you are interested in may be there beyond the fears.”

    As an example, you mentioned a fear of driving. But let us say, that you learn to drive despite your fears. When you have learnt to drive, you will become more independent and able to go to different places. These will give you opportunities to come in contact with experiences that are different from yours and thus help you grow. You are very young and a life full of enriching experiences awaits you.

    Fear of your dad has its origin from your childhood experiences. I understand that you don’t seem comfortable to read anything against your parents. To overcome your fears and what you have been through, you will need to look towards moving away from these childhood experiences that have impacted you so much. That is probably what your first goal should be. Build yourself up to a stage where you can start becoming more independent.

    in reply to: Family Problems/ Health problems.Help Please! #235067
    Prash
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    Dear Allumena,

    At some time of their lives, most people are likely to feel the way that you have described.

    What are the thoughts that go over your mind when you go about your daily routines? What are the things that you would like to do and are interested to do? Do you engage in any form of exercise or meditation practices? Do you read books other than school work?

    You mentioned about wanting something different. Have you described to yourself what kind of different things you want? On the days that you go somewhere or do something different what is it that you like?

    You wrote about your fear of driving. What are the other fears that you have? What you are interested in may be there beyond the fears.

     

    in reply to: Equanimity in action #235007
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Following our communication on sharing, I had been trying to access the scared child from the past in me. However I am feeling a lot of resistance where I feel I don’t want to go in to what is past. It may be due to this conviction that I have been holding on to for some time of focussing on things in the present and focussing on things that I can control.

    Have you felt that kind of resistance? How has being in touch with the scared child helped you?

    in reply to: Family Problems/ Health problems.Help Please! #235005
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Allumena,

    As much help as sites like these offer, they can be limited only to suggestions. Any kind of real help has to happen where you are at. You mentioned that no one in your life is really trying to help except you. It is great that you are doing something to help yourself and looking for help despite your situation.

    What answers are you looking for here?

    If it is your thoughts that are bothering you, one suggestion would be to write them down. Writing helps in slowing things down and you are able to see those thoughts objectively.

    What are the activities that you do in a day? Having a schedule can give you a feeling of control of some aspects of your life.

    Take care

     

    in reply to: severe communication problems with husband #234897
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear ras,

    You are concerned about the future of the relationship. What we seek from a relationship is safety and security. Knowing that we are loved and appreciated . Knowing that we are missed when we are not around. When that goes missing we become upset and start panicking.

    We tend to behave in a way we feel will get us what we want. The behavior is based on previous patterns and relationships and what needs to be asked is if it is serving its purpose in helping us.

    Withdrawing and not talking about the way you feel or attacking your loved one with accusations may not help the relationship. Take a step back to watch what you are doing. Remind yourself of what you seek from the relationship.

    Firmly, calmly, repeatedly state this to the person what you are expecting. If the person reciprocates, it will be a win win for both of you but do remember that how he does so is based on what his patterns of behavior are. See if you can see beyond that and see if you can find his need for being loved behind any behavior that he demonstrates.

    Take care

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 11 months ago by Prash.
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    in reply to: Equanimity in action #234723
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    I don’t believe anxiety, described as ongoing, reactivated fear when there is no real life danger presenting itself, is helpful. The process that I follow to cope with it when it happens has however been a nourishing experience. The process of progressively reducing the level of anxiety has been helpful.

     

    in reply to: Equanimity in action #234661
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    The smiley face was an expression of my gratitude and happiness in communication with you. I apologize if I gave you the impression that I was trivializing/glorifying anxiety in any way.

    Thank you for expressing your unsurety and giving me an opportunity to clarify.

    in reply to: Equanimity in action #234613
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    True. It would have been wonderful to eliminate anxiety once and for all. However I believe I have come around to see the anxiety that I have had and still have to be a significant contributor to who I am today – a composite of all my experiences, feelings, thoughts that includes the anxiety also. For example, if I didn’t have anxiety at all, I would never have come to this forum and I would have missed out on these interactions that I have with you and all the wonderful people here. 🙂

    in reply to: A Quick Introduction and Small Favor #234611
    Prash
    Participant

    Dear Tara,

    Appreciate your honesty and the noble intentions that you have.

    Your questions require some time and a bit of thought  to answer in the best possible way.  I will do so in some time.

    Take care and wish you the best.

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