I’m only 22 years old, I did quite a while of different drugs (party and fun purpose only). My advice for a 52 years old man is probably not the best :p But I can say that this party period made me look differently at life. Your thoughts are intense and different when on drugs, it may change the way you feel about life and yourself. In many circumstances drugs negatively influence your brains, but experienced spiritual people may use it to think differently and perhaps find answers or insights.

I wouldn’t bother to much about the drugs, I don’t think it’s the right way to achieve spiritual goals either. What is it You’re looking for? What do you want to achieve if I may ask? I’m just being curious.

Hey AlyahB

I understand that it’s hard to be social when your current feelings don’t allow you to.

You can try to start a conversation with a good question. Stupid example to make my point: You ask if he/she is a good cook (when you’re are not). People love it when someone is interested in their lives (I bet you know that 😉 ). Ask some things you want to know, and he/she will do the talking for you (in the beginning). It doens’t mather what you ask. Questions are the easiest way to get a conversation started or keep it going. That’s my experience and opinion.

Some people will ask questions about you when you’re talking to each other. If they do, they’re interested in who you are. And that’s the first step for friendship and feeling someone cares about you.

It’s just an idea, tell me what you think of that if you want, perhaps I can give some other idea’s if you don’t think that would help.

I also met a girl with a depression. We met a few times, kissed, I even started to have feelings for her. 1 month later I first noticed her depression, and she’s been pushing me away ever since. At the moment she texts me like 1 time in a month, pretending to be happy. I gave up on her long ago.

Like Kim said they need to fix themselves first to get better. It’s hard to admit you can’t help someone you love, but in my opinion it’s the harsh truth.

If you don’t want to give up on him yet, try leaving presents at his door or write him a love letter or something. Do random nice things. Don’t force him to talk about his problems either. Always try to be his sunshine, be happy around him.

What you have to remember is that you don’t want change the way you treat him. Don’t text him less, don’t ask him out less, ACT NORMAL. Even if he blocks everything off, just keep cool and text again later. You may be the only stability in his life. Also, pets have the similar effect as valium. Pets are surprisingly effective against depressions.

A tip for your own mental health is to keep in mind that he will NEVER hurt you on purpose. Remember this at all times. People who are depressed only care about their own missery, they don’t have energy to take your needs into account. It looks selfish, but they simply lack energy.

I wouldn’t give up on him now, not yet. But don’t let his depression swallow you.

Good luck !

I think you feel lonely, is that possible? Feel like no one really cares about what you’re doing?

I think it might help just talking to anyone in the club. It may be difficult for you to start a conversation to a random stranger, but how would you feel if a nice young man starts talking to you? Ask them about how they manage their lives, what their goals are. Doing this you can meet interesting and wise people, maybe make new friends. If they are not the type that you find wise, no problem, it’s just a talk. If not, the stories of their life may trigger idea’s for your own life. Maybe they can give you good advice. You will judge the advice of a total stranger without any influence of the type of relationship. This way you think clearly and you decide 100% for yourself if this advice is good or not.

As Anita said, good relationships are very important for a human being, but just a talk to a random stranger can be very interesting and lead to positivity and frienship.

I hope you find what you’re looking for, because I understand it’s hard to have no external motivation.

Regi