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    Try starting with what you enjoy? What money do you need to earn? Are you just in it for the money? Will your Ph.D. help anyone else? Can you afford to do a Ph.D.? There are so many questions you need to jot down and answer way before you get down to the course and where to study!  I was told after my first first class gons degree to ‘hurry up do your masters as you can easily do your Ph.D. with your brains etc etc!  Thankfully I don’t need to prove anything to anyone! So my advice after two degrees with firsts is to take your time!! Blessings RevRy

    #225593
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    Hiya

    Here is another quick mindfulness for anyone to try blessings RevRy x

     Five Senses Exercise

    This practice of mindfulness can be done quickly in nearly any situation.

     

    • Notice five things that you can see.

    Look around you and bring your attention to five things that you can see. Pick something that you don’t normally notice, like a shadow or a small crack in the concrete.

    • Notice four things that you can feel.

    Bring awareness to four things that you are currently feeling, like the texture of your pants, the feeling of the breeze on your skin, or the smooth surface of a table you are resting your hands on.

    • Notice three things you can hear.

    Take a moment to listen, and note three things that you hear in the background. This can be the chirp of a bird, the hum of the refrigerator, or the faint sounds of traffic from a nearby road.

    • Notice two things you can smell.

    Bring your awareness to smells that you usually filter out, whether they’re pleasant or unpleasant. Perhaps the breeze is carrying a whiff of pine trees if you’re outside, or the smell of a fast food restaurant across the street.

    • Notice one thing you can taste.

    Focus on one thing that you can taste right now, at this moment. You can take a sip of a drink, chew a piece of gum, eat something, or just notice the current taste in your mouth or open your mouth to search the air for a taste.

     

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    Blessings mamaof2kids

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    Blessings Anita

    #223447
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    Dorothee as you are at Uni you have some brains – anxiety is not good – why do you hate yourself :

    At uni (speaking as an alumni for two universities) your focus needs to be on why you wanted to go there, is it still as important to you – if it is you need to knuckle down to your studies and try to attain the best grades you can – rel/ships at uni add to stress I know! but if you are in a crisis with your ex NOW is the time to re-focus and study hard or don’t and fail or get a 3rd!

    Suffering from anxiety like we do our hourly or minute by minute aim is to try many different things to aid relaxation in doing so the anxiety is reduced – positive affirmations work, you do mediation try a 10 min one on youtube  the honest guys is good avoid drugs and alcohol or other foods / drinks that cause anxiety spikes – also some great self help books there.

    Hating yourself – me thinks now is the time to STOP negative thinking breeds negative thinking – so right now grab pen and paper draw a line down the middle and right dislike and love – YOU CAN put at least two things you love about yourself – such as ‘I love the way I laugh at myself when I trip up when no one is watching’ ‘I love the way I make beans on toast and throw in cheese to make a great snack’ you get the picture.

    In simple – STOP the hate and inner self telling you you need this and that – today or tomorrow turn self into others and do 1 thing for somebody else such as open a door for someone, say Thank You after service given, drop some money into a charity box, the best is if no one knows you have done something such as give to a charity etc trust me start small it will change your view of you – plus you can ‘Love yourself for giving without reward’ blessings Ry x

    #222359
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    Felix – where to start… your situation isn’t pathetic! so stop with that line. Debt – many people are in debt and owe money – you know how much and 4-5yrs isn’t long! trust me!  Family – so various options – adopt, foster, or natural or other ways, when? that’s not for now! You need to feel at peace with yourself before you invite a child into your family circle and that maybe just you and a son or daughter!  Ideally when you do find peace with a woman – then you can speak about family at the right time.  Losing weight – great start, NOW inner peace – my suggestion start doing some youtube relaxation, meditation, some are on there for 10mins – and yes you can find 10mins to do one as often as you need, plus great 8-12hr long ones to aid sleep, anxiety etc etc.

    For NOW be in the here and now! stop focusing on ALL the negative emotions they breed negativity – try replacing them with positive affirmations again youtube great vids on pos affirmations.

    Soo you asked, I replied you can take it or leave it, hugs, best wishes, one step one day at a time x blessings x

    #222357
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    Hannah Hi there, long story short, it is your own feelings that you are having problems with, love is love, beauty is only skin deep, my husband often says ‘Your very good looking aren’t you? I’m lucky to have you’ I dismiss his comments and sometimes in guest say yes you are! lol.  I was always getting attention from guys, getting touched up, groped, numbers pushed into my hands and clothes etc but not one did I ring or end up with!  My husband doesn’t feel attractive (this bits for you) but I know he is that’s what drew me to him, he’s as lovely inside as out! still is after many years, Soooo chilax or you may ruin your rel/ship.

    Take a chill pill, go with the flow, enjoy the attention he receives BUT know whose bed he will share at the end of the night YOURS x blessings x

    #219917
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    Csaba, sex and intimacy are just one fraction of the whole – I too was the same – however if like a tree you fail to bend in the wind you will break! Try tantric sex for yourself to ease and release the inner urge and take your own sexual pleasure to a new realm – and when your partner is ready go at a pace you both enjoy, maybe even try joint tantric pleasure?  Men in general are always thinking of sex as one I know, but in re-training and thinking you can learn to control strong sexual urges and in turn develop a higher sexual fulfillment – their are many free male tantirc lesson on youtube – watch a few see how you feel about them etc etc.  Hope this helps a little hugs RevRy

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