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January 2, 2026 at 7:18 pm in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453757
Thomas168ParticipantSorry, don’t mean to say get a life. More like, it is time to concentrate on you and your life. Wanting others to see you the way you do is almost always a disappointment. I like to think highly of myself even though I am not so great. Helps me to sleep at night. LOL. So remember that it is time to focus on you and those around you.
Thomas168ParticipantThat leads me to think about another story which I think most people know about.
The westerner has asked to meet a Zen master to ask about Zen Buddhism.
The Zen master agrees to a meeting.
When the westerner arrives at the Zen master place. He is greeted by the Zen master.
And asked him to sit down. Then he begins to pour tea into the cup in front of the westerner.
The cup becomes full and then start to over flow the cup.
The westerner says the cup is full no more will go in.
The Zen master then says that the westerner’s mind is like the teacup.
It is full (of preconceived ideas) so no more will go in.Simply that Zen is usually straight forward with its wisdom.
It punches thru nonsense.
If one’s mind is full of something then how can one learn?
Traveling monk mind and disciple mind are full.
Sorry, for me, everything is a learning experience.I am so glad you enjoyed the story.
I hope you share it with others and it brings a smile or two.January 1, 2026 at 6:08 pm in reply to: Family and Friends Seem to Want Nothing to Do With Me Anymore #453717Thomas168ParticipantI would like to say that each person have their own life to live. Relatives aren’t the first thing on their minds. And relationships do depend on how close one feels to the other. I mean I care for my brother but he doesn’t feel the same. That is okay. He has his life to live with his family and work and social etc. We don’t live in the same city. But, I try to reach out. And many times he is busy and doesn’t reply. Just got to realize you aren’t in their face so they can ignore you if they want. Even though you would never do the same to them?? Parents favor one child more than the other? Is it natural? Yes. Does it hurt to feel this way? Yes. But, we are grown ups. Moved out and moved away. Maybe time to get your own life going? Invest in yourself and those around you?? I don’t know for sure. I am still feeling my way around too. Sometimes it hurts to think about it. But lucky me, no brains. And am very forgetful.
Thomas168ParticipantHello everyone,
Thanks for Peter and his poetry. And a best wishes to all of the Tiny Buddha community.
It has been nice to be here and have fun talking about stuff.
Even when we do not agree, I do like the talk cause there is no harshness.
It is all just talk. Having fun. Hope to be around in the new year.Thomas168ParticipantHello Anita,
It is important to get rest when feeling sick. Drink plenty of fluids. It helps to flush out the bad stuff in the blood.
Hope you will be feeling better soon. Googled and it said a week to ten days for common cold. Stay warm and hopefully you have someone to watch over you. Take care of the daily stuff so you can rest.Hello Mollie,
Sorry for just jumping in. Only read the last post. Cutting carbs? And no more chocolate and cake?? OMG has the world come to an end. No cake and no chocolate? I understand cutting carbs due to my type 2 diabetes. Got to watch the carbs cause it all turns to sugar in the blood. But, pasta, rice, potatoes are all carbs and I love that food. I wish you good luck in your endeavors. The worse part was no sugar in my morning coffee. Sounds like you are in school? A noble tract of life to better oneself. The toughest part of that is to find oneself interested in the subject of study. Sorry for the rambling.
Hope you and everyone near and far will have a great New Year. All year long!!
Thomas168ParticipantHi Alessa,
It is true that we should not abandon the good in life because we have seen suffering. Thank you.
Hi Peter,
I am glad you liked the story. I heard it a long time ago but it stays with me.
“Our schoolmaster used to take a nap every afternoon,” related a student. We students asked him why he took naps. And he told us, “I go to meet the old sages just as Confucius did. When Confucius slept, he would dream of old sages and later tell his followers about them.”
One day, so some of us took an afternoon nap. Our schoolmaster scolded us. We explained, “We went to meet the old sages the same as Confucius did”. The schoolmaster asked, “What did the old sages say?” We answered, “We went to met the old sages and asked them if our schoolmaster came there every afternoon, but they said they have never seen any such fellow.”
Thomas168ParticipantI thought the abbot only wanted good people in his town. lol
But, you are right. We see what we want to see. And this helps determine how we live our lives.
Thanks for pointing that out.Thomas168ParticipantTwo men visited an abbot at a monastery at different times. The first man said, “I am thinking of moving to this town. What is it like?” The abbot asked, “What was it like in your old town?” The first man responded, “It was terrible. Everyone was full of hatred. I did not like it there.”
The abbot said, “This town is very much the same. I do not think you should move here.”
The first man left and the second man came in.
The second man said, “I am thinking of moving to this town. What is it like?” The abbot asked, “What was your old town like?” The second man responded, “It was wonderful. Everyone was nice and friendly. I was happy. Now, I just wanted a change of scenery.”
The abbot said, “This town is very much the same. I think you will like it here.”
Thomas168ParticipantThree things which can not be hidden forever
The Sun, the moon and the Truth.My previous post is almost the same but has been put into awaiting for moderation.
Can not use the quote function without having to wait for moderation.
I hope I did not say anything wrong by using the quotes.Thomas168ParticipantHi Tee and Anita,
Glad this thread was one that brought a smile. Happy new years everyone. May you have a smile all year long.
Thomas168ParticipantAlessa,
Thank you for your comments. Will think about it.
If I think of another story or if you or anyone else have one of your own then please share.Thomas168ParticipantThank you all for the Christmas wishes. I hope everyone will have a better new year.
Thomas168ParticipantNew Years eve is a tough time. When younger, I would drink til I lost control. Then would drunk call my ex and confess my love. Lucky they knew me well enough to dismiss it. Learned a lesson to not drink so much. One does grow wiser as one gets older.
Thomas168ParticipantThank you Anita for the reply.
I thought it was a fun one to share.
Many times people talk but aren’t really communicating well.
So, I wanted to show this in a story.Thomas168ParticipantAs more time passes and there is no new posts from Laven, I can only hope she is healthy happy and safe. I read her words of suffering and only wish to help. I am not like Anita. I don’t have the capacity to be so loving and being able to touch another’s pain to bring relief. So, maybe I have misstepped by posting here. I am sorry. I do hope she comes back with good news of her life.
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