We have known each other for around 6 weeks so in the early stages of dating which is the part I always find the worst.

It has been going well, we have been getting on and had around 9-10 dates in that time, cooked for each other etc.

It is just that over the last week or so I have felt she is taking a step back. The tone of her messages seems to have changed. We have still messaged daily, even if only a couple of quick exchanges. Because of work commitments etc for both of us, it will be at least 10 days before we can meet again which is why I probably have time to over analayse. I don’t like games, if I like someone i like them and if i don’t i would tell them so everyone knows where they stand. I think when we meet again I will just be upfront and ask her how she feels it’s all going.

I do meditate and try and practice gratitude daily too but I still do find myslef overthinking at times.

Hi Anita.

There is a small part of me that is frustrated by her actions and wants to send a letter of some description so I get closure.

I know this probably won’t achieve much so do you think it is a pointless exercise?

Hi Anita,

Brief update. I reached out to her a few days ago to see how she was doing and make sure she was ok?

I had no response to this. I won’t reach out again but just thought it was odd she made a point of saying we would stay friends to then ignore me. I was a little annoyed at first but in reality I know she has more important stuff going on and I just need to move on fully.

I am not worried as such but as i was there along the pregnancy feel i should send a congratulations message when the time arrives.

I will play it by here and see how i feel when the time arrives in 6 weeks or so.

Thanks for your replies, much appreciated.

I don’t know that she will think that. It’s just in my nature to think that she would but I would think that about anyone, not just specifically her if that makes sense.

Thanks Anita,

A lot of my close friends have settled down etc so I do feel a little left behind even though I know it is not healthy for me to compare like this.  I will dust  myself down in due course and put myself out there again when ready.

Quick Update.

We carried on seeing each other up until this week. I was supportive in every way I could be. The father wants to be involved and would like the two of them to give it a go. I have taken a step back and will remian friends with the girl but in reality will leave her to make her own mind if she wants to give it a go with the dad etc or just be on her own. Maybe later down the line we can re-connect and date again but I think the most important thing at this point is for her to focus on the baby and do what she sees best for her.

I had grown to like this girl so I do a feel a little down about it as it is back to the drawing board in terms of dating for me.

Hi Anita,

She is keeping it. She didn’t actually realise she was pregnant until last week and is too far along to terminate it.

Terri – I am very happy with her. That is why it was a bit of a shock. I could definitely see us together for a long time,