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Hi Amy,
“I know this guy isnt for me and he never wanted to be with me however I cant seem to let go of it and totally feel not good enough.”
Yes I do have some helpful tips.
1) Do a variation of Ho’oponopono
Continously chant/say,
I’M SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME THANK YOUPlease note you are not saying this to that person.
Don’t bother much about whom you’re saying to. Simply say it! Say it over and over. Mean it.
You may ask it to whoever you believe as God, or to Nature, or to the Universe, or to Life, or to your own self, or simply in the air to nobody.Just say it either mentally, loudly or softly or proclaim it by yelling it, however you want to.
Say it as many times as you can/want. If that person’s thought comes in your head, immediately go to the chanting.2) Another similar variation
Format: I _______ FORGIVE YOU _____________, YOU PLEASE FORGIVE ME AND RELEASE ME, THANK YOU
Example: IFORGIVE YOU Keep saying this the same way as explained in No.1. Either mentally, loudly or softly or however it works best for you.
You said you are not able to let go of him which is nothing but trying to remove him from your head, so that you can go back to your own life, in a calm and peaceful way. So don’t try hard to remove him. Instead, while saying the above, if the guy’s image comes to the screen of your mind, let it come, allow it to come. Don’t push it. Don’t resist it. What you resist will persist.While saying “YOU PLEASE FORGIVE ME AND RELEASE ME”, you can also imagine this person getting RELEASED from your head, while putting greater emphasis on the words “RELEASE ME”. Don’t worry if you are weak in visualization like some people are. In that case, simply keep chanting.
These energetic exercises do not necessarily always mean that you or they have done anything wrong, but it is to break the negative link or to cut the negative energy cords. The end result would be harmonious and in alignment with you and for your greater good.
Soon you will be back on track with your routine life.Remember to say it as many times as possible. You can even say it involuntarily (meaning: just like alphabets ABCD… without thinking much about them). If you are doing something else and you are disturbed by his memories, then immediately start chanting and do it continuously till you are OK.
I am sure you are going to feel much more peaceful about your situation. Even if thoughts about this person may (or may even not) come but they will lose their intensity and will no longer bother you anymore.
Best Luck.
VJHi Chris,
“I’ve heard from my therapists (yeah, multiple. LOL) that “You just need to let these things go.” Only one tiny little problem with that. How? How do you let go of something you’ve held onto for so long, so tightly that you can’t even begin to understand HOW to let it go. “You just do it.” Whatever. In my case it really is like teaching a child how to tie their shoes by saying “You just tie them.”
This is exactly what I’m upto. To share something on the “how” part. If you look at my profile’s biographical intro and it talks about the same…Comforting anyone with words do produce a healing effect, but I believe that doing a practical healing technique has greater effect than words like “just let it go, don’t worry, everything will be alright, just relax, quiet the mind”. The problem with this is simply saying to “let it go” won’t work in the long run. One must be guided “how to let it go”. The important part is the “how”. “How to let go”, “how to relax”, “how to quieten the mind”, “how to stop worrying and start living” and so on.
This is where various Life Healing Techniques come into play and are useful in having a greater and lasting effect, because they are something practical in nature.I am going to share with you one such Healing Technique relevant to your situation. It’s called ‘The Release Technique’.
It’s neither a good idea to express any unwanted or negative emotions (because this becomes venting),
nor even to suppress them (because this bottles up),
but to release them.I have learned the technique from this book after I read “Learn to “let go” of any negativity…in seconds!” on the cover
(https://www.amazon.com/Abundance-Book-Lawrence-Crane/dp/0971175500)
Go through the book description on the above link starting from “This exciting book will help you:” and if you feel it resonates with you then you may give it a try. You may also want to go through the ‘About the Author’ section under Editorial reviews.But if you do not have the time and/or patience and are fine to go with something paid for faster access then this is their official website (http://www.releasetechnique.com) where you will find more things about the technique like – live classes, events, programs, CDs, digital downloads, online courses, etc.
I did not take any of their programs but at the end of the book I purchased there was a coupon which allowed me to attend their LIVE Coaching class for FREE every Wednesday and this was undertaken by the author of the book – Lawrence Crane. I am sure this is still there but if you intend to then you can confirm with their customer care before buying the book.
From what you have described, its a good resource on the naughty knots like fear, shame, hatred, pain and guilt.
From my information there is also a similar tool called as ‘The Sedona Method’, although I am familiar with the technique, but since I haven’t practiced it much, I won’t be able to tell you more on it.
Before ending you may want to take a look at this review (http://mindtoolsreview.com/the-release-technique-review/). That’s all I can share on the letting go process.
If you ever happen to choose to do the Release Technique and are in case of any doubts then I will try my best to assist in whatever way I can.
Happy Releasing,
VJDear dude,
Wow, what a poetic format of your issues you have written here….every sentence starting with an ‘I’.
Also with HSP and being introvert you have a girl friend, that is again something to feel worthy about yourself.Coming to your problems, since the problems you are facing have gotten too much onto you and into your body’s energetic system, I will want to suggest you the Bach Flower Remedies.
– Read point B in this link for steps to do-
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/how-to-work-smarter-not-harder/#post-114347)For all issues identify the remedies from
(http://www.bachflower.com/bach-flower-remedy-questionnaire)
and
(http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/remedies.htm)
By the end of these you will have identified a list of Bach flower remedies for each of your issues.–I am a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and very much an introvert.
For HSP see – (https://www.flowerspirit.co.uk/3-bach-flower-remedies-for-hsps)
For Introvert MIMULUS is the remedy which is already for HSP too.For any others let me know if you do not find the Bach remedy for any of the issues.
-Other symptoms are CFS (Chronic Fatigue), brain fog, low sex-drive, mood imbalances (like I can get very angry, very fast).
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/relaxation-meditation-techniques/#post-114812)Please go with patience through each of the above links. I am sure you will come out of all your problems.
Regards,
VJHi newlife,
At first while reading the initial part of your post I planned to ask you of a way to communicate with God. I know few ways of them…nothing very specific…but few of those generic ways like writing a letter, asking for a sign, meditating and listening to the inner voice, and so forth.
But then I read that you do not want to expose about it so I won’t ask.But to answer your question…
“Is God telling me something?”What I got to know from ‘Conversations with God – By Neale Donald Walsch’…
If the answer you get is filled with joy, love, peace, happiness, freedom, clarity, a sense of calmness it is the Divine voice and not of the ego. It should make you feel uplifted.Because you are feeling freaked out and crazy, so not sure about what you are experiencing.
Or may be you should see what God is trying to tell you…Is s/he telling you that you are not the only child in this world to me? all others are also a part of me, would you like to share about this with the rest if it works for you so that all of humanity can benefit?
May be you can try sharing with someone very very close and see if there is any effect in your feelings. This is just my opinion, you may or may not do that, but if your anxious feelings (which has led you to ask a question here) reduces then you are on the right track.
When you understand that we are all interconnected and finally connected to the Divine Source then there won’t be feelings of competition or hiding anything from anyone. It will be all about caring and sharing.
Warm Regards,
VJHi raquel,
I just went through the website that you posted (http://www.troimail.com) and it does sound encouraging adding to the fact that it worked for your friend too. There are lot many advantages of direct mail marketing.
This approach does have more of its upsides but I also want you to be aware of few of its minor downsides too (http://www.directmac.org/direct-mail) eg; recipients consider it as junkmail, people opting out due to its negative environmental impact with more people choosing for paperless stuff. I personally never looked at any direct mail letters, but that is just a personal preference as there may be people who prefer them when it is done in a neat and catchy way by QR codes, in some other decorative way, etc as mentioned here (http://www.troimail.com/services/why-choose-direct-mail-advertising/). With you having to mail coupon codes, offers to people I do not think nobody would deny these as that is what any person on this earth wants – something at a less price than its actual, more and more deals and offers. So direct marketing does look to be promising in that context.Not sure about your location but also do take a look at this which may be of interest to you-
(all the below links are for the same website)http://partners.restaurant.com/
http://partners.restaurant.com/how-it-works.aspx
http://partners.restaurant.com/faq.aspx
http://help.restaurant.com/what-is-restaurant-com/
https://www.restaurant.com/Best Wishes for your business,
VJDear Librette,
Firstly, I am glad that you are looking for some practical tips by wanting to know about any tools or exercises.
I hope that the below responses will answer all your queries and help to overcome the issues of your situation.“I am also curious where does it come from? Why am I like this?”
Answer: (http://www.consciouslifestylemag.com/cellular-memory-healing-clearing)“if there are any tools for me to work with to change.”
Answer i. Yes, the FREE video series on the below link. The series is short enough to be finished in a day’s time too.
(http://www.dralexanderloyd.com/the-love-code)The above video also talks something about seven principles but it is not read out in the series.
You will find them here along with a free download link on this page – (http://beyondwillpowertogether.com/2015/07/15/seven-key-points-of-the-greatest-principle-revised-longer-version/)
(PS: don’t stop yourself just by reading out the 7 principles in the above link. There is more to it.)ii. One of the exercises is much better explained in the first website that I mentioned above, than in the video. And the other two tools are explained in the video series.
iii. And if you still want to understand more about the concept and/or the tools/exercises then you can go through the book at the below link
(https://www.amazon.com/Love-Code-Principle-Achieving-Happiness/dp/1101902833)For your information – ‘The Love Code’ was formerly called as ‘Beyond Willpower’
A Beyond Willpower workbook was designed if anyone needed more help in putting the concepts of Beyond Willpower into practice further assisting in completing the exercises in the book.
Workbook:
(https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Willpower-Workbook-Alex-Loyd-ebook/dp/B00U1TO9BG)Warm Regards & Take care,
VJ
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