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  • in reply to: Through the storm of anxiety #121017
    VJ
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    Dear Blake,

    Since all of what you explained happened just two months ago I will suggest you to do EFT for your issues.
    EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques is useful for freeing yourself from any negative energy or emotions (although it is also used for physical issues).
    There are lots of videos and articles over the web explaining how to do EFT. Check them out, but if you are also ok with some tailor made EFT tapping scripts at a small paid amount then I recommend the below website.
    This is a wonderful website for EFT scripts on almost every single issue of our day to day lives.
    (http://tap-easy.com)
    Go through the site and you will find things relating to your issues like anxiety, panic attacks, low self-esteem and there might also be certain things that may require “healing” from the emotionally abusive relationship. You will be able to relate by simply glancing through the titles on the homepage of the site.
    Although you may have (thought that you have) bounced back from the negative emotions of the relationship, there are chances that they may still be stuck in your unconscious/subconscious memories and may be running in the background causing anxiety issues in the foreground.

    You are doing the right thing about choosing a healthy diet, exercising, staying away from toxic people and situations, setting personal goals, etc. At the same time something like EFT is required to cleanse the negative emotional debris.

    as an fyi -the owner of the site Sonal Pandey will respond in case you have any queries/questions/doubts as I have personally interacted too.

    Take care,
    VJ

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by VJ.
    in reply to: So many bad things happening at once… #120900
    VJ
    Participant

    PS jnv1: If you are more inclined to viewing/listening than reading then check out the videos in No.2 at first and then go to No 1.

    in reply to: So many bad things happening at once… #120898
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear sweet jnv1,

    Yes, it is true that right now what you are going through is not one of those favourable situations one may desire in life and I do have deep compassion towards that.
    I will suggest you something for each of your problems and I’m sure you will come out of it and I am not saying this for the sake of saying.
    Regarding your health condition that your doctor just came up with- Trust me, I have seen/heard so many of such extreme cases and have noticed that due to advancements in the medical field you do still have the chances of becoming a mother, either by direct or indirect medical techniques. Be rest assured about that. Right now only focus on other issues that may require to “heal”. It’s not even about your job. You will get your job life back too. Simply keep applying to open job positions, as and when required and proceed further (more below).
    It is also not about the love you lost. You are going to fall in love back again – with yourself, with life and in turn will have the love of your life.
    “…Having a horrible childhood, always being anxious and depressed about the future, unsure about the purpose of all this pain, have a feeling that there is a never ending pain in life…”
    For all of these and to regain back in all 3 major areas of your life – Health, Wealth, Relationships, I recommend you the following-
    1. At first simply go through the below article with an open mind

    Cellular Memory Healing: How to Clear Limiting Beliefs and Emotional Wounds at the Cellular Level


    By doing so, itself will make many things clear to you.
    2. On the similar lines, go through the FREE video series
    http://www.dralexanderloyd.com/the-love-code/
    3. Start following the process. Not a single penny you have to spend to do them. The instructions on how to do the technique is much better in the link in Point No 1. above, than in the video.
    4. If you are still intrigued, or want to understand more, then you may also go through the book at the below link

    You can also go through the positive reviews on the above link. Don’t get bogged down by negative reviews because there are going to be negatives for anything positive in life and you may not want to miss out on something good because of those.

    For your additional information – ‘The Love Code’ was formerly called as ‘Beyond Willpower’

    Please do post back your progress in life by whichever means you choose, The Love Code or by anything else that you do.

    Take Care,
    VJ

    in reply to: Trying to let the universe handle it #120874
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear kps59,

    “I guess I’m just looking for methods of utilizing “the universe” or other methods that can help me enjoy each day, know that we are growing in love, and just remind myself that things come at the right time.”

    This may be the article you may be wanting to read-

    LET THE UNIVERSE USE YOU

    Let the Universe use you

    Regards,
    VJ.

    in reply to: Need Frank advice about being stuck #120240
    VJ
    Participant

    Hi Dear iamthis,

    I now have a chance to suggest you something on your non-health related areas of life (of course it can be applied to health too)-

    This will be helpful especially on your below need for change-
    “It seems like I am unable to affect any sort of meaningful change in my life and I have this overwhelming sense that I am living a script. I have zero ability to change even small matters.”

    1) Short Intro
    http://www.dralexanderloyd.com/the-love-code

    2)
    Begin with the FREE video series and then follow your inner guide on what to do next
    http://www.dralexanderloyd.com/videos/the-love-code-video-series

    Warm Regards,
    VJ

    in reply to: Need Frank advice about being stuck #119908
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear iamthis,

    I went through all of your posts and I do have a deep understanding of all that you are going through. Sometimes it does happen that things go on in such a way in our lives that we have to say something as below.

    “Why is happiness seemingly impossible for some of us?…
    Why do some of us feel we are “not allowed” to have a good life?”

    Right now I do not want to say anything on your job situation and I will comment on it if/when I have anything to say.

    I want to suggest something on your multiple health concerns. And that is about ‘The Healing Codes’. It can act as a ‘one thing’ for all of your health issues.

    The Healing Codes, are a simple and powerful self-healing system and a form of energy medicine. (don’t worry it’s not a medicine to consume). Every time you use a Healing Code, it activates a physical function built into the body that consistently and predictably removes the cause of illness and disease from the body. It basically activates our immune system which then heals the issues by itself, just like our immune system would gradually heal a wound on the leg.

    The official site for the Healing Codes is at -> www(dot)thehealingcodes(dot)com

    There is a book on the actual procedure and it is available on the below link.

    The book has everything you need but if you do not have the time and patience to wait till you finish the book and have the required financial capabilities then you can also consider Personal Coaching on this process, which is done by a Certified Healing Codes Practitioner. You will get all of that information from their official website (above). Read out the number of positive reviews on Amazon to know how it is helping people.
    You may also want to read the success stories of various ailments here –

    Success Stories

    Who knows while solving your health issues you would become a successful Healing Codes practitioner or may be even do writing for it which would solve your other issue of wanting to experience a sense of mastery over something and a feeling of success over it? I’m sure you have heard of such success stories wherein a problem in someone’s life became the reason for success in their life. By the way, Dr. Alex Loyd (also the co-author of this book) developed this technique after his wife Tracey “Hope” Loyd had severe depression for several years and couldn’t find anything to cure it and today has reached/touched many people’s lives using the Healing Codes.

    Take Care,
    VJ

    in reply to: Sick and tired of being weak! #119080
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear Alex,

    It looks from what you have written that you are stressed out and there are overwhelming feelings and causing issues as a result of them.

    I want to straight-away suggest you something practical.

    For chronic mental fatigue I recommend you the Alternate Nostril breathing technique posted on the below link.
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/relaxation-meditation-techniques/#post-114812)
    The 7-11 Breathing Technique is also effective when you are feeling overwhelmed and you can also feel free to try that too.

    Please do them diligently especially before you sit through looking for openings and going through the procedure of submitting resumes. A daily morning practice or before going to bed is the best.

    Sometimes that does happen – “getting psychologically tired”, but trust me it will be temporary.
    The children’s energies are way much higher than the parents and both these energies could never match. You are already doing all that you can from what you have mentioned. You are being a nice mother. While writing this I came across a quote on TinyBuddha and it is apt for your situation since you are already doing your best.
    Here is the image:
    (http://tinybuddha.com/fun-and-inspiring/go-easy-on-yourself/)

    Even if they are not babies anymore they are still not adults yet. They are still children and are going to throw tantrums. If children do not do that then it doesn’t sound mature when an adult does that (though some adults do that 🙂 )
    Even the Oxford meaning of tantrum says that it is typically done by a young child and the example below says that they do it when things don’t go their way.
    (https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/tantrum)

    The earlier breathing exercises were for relaxation and now I want to suggest you something practical for gaining energy and it is done by a simple hand gesture called Prana mudra.
    Prana means energy or life and that is what you need at this moment and you will get it by doing this mudra (hand gesture).

    Prana mudra stimulate the root chakra, which creates a vibration within, that awakens and energizes the body.
    Prana Mudra is said to generate and redirect life energy. This life energy is the energy that animates the living being . It redirects this life to the parts where it is most needed. It also gives vitality to the body and eliminates fatigue and even nervousness along with other benefits.

    Instructions on doing the mudra:
    1) Practice it with both hands.
    2) Tips of ring and little finger to be joined with the tip of thumb.
    3) All other fingers should be stretched straight.

    That’s all. You can do this while doing any other activity when your hands are free, for eg; while watching the TV, even while waiting in a queue and even while talking to someone.
    But if you have a straight thirty minutes of regular practice in the morning then that would be highly beneficial. And then you can do intermittently as and when during the day.

    It will also help you in your anger and irritability issues.

    Note that Prana Mudra is called Elixir of Life. An image is shown here although if you do an Image Search it is available all over the web.
    (http://mrinalkantipal.blogspot.in/2012/12/pran-mudra-elixir-of-life.html)

    “I haven’t started working yet, but I’m already (psychologically) tired.”
    If you have the tiredness and mental fatigue even before joining a job, then put a “Pause” on your job hunting for a while
    until you get back on track. How? By doing the alternate nostril breathing and by doing Pran mudra as and when, I am sure you will regain your lost strength and everything in life will fall back in place including your relationship with your husband which is nothing but only due to things like stress, fatigue, tiredness, etc.

    Take Care,
    VJ

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by VJ.
    in reply to: My mind is super noisy #119018
    VJ
    Participant

    Hi ntolleson,

    “Just wish I could figure out a way out of this. Quite often, I feel at the mercy of my thoughts/feelings/sensations.”

    Would you also please give a try at the exercises I posted (just 3 posts) above.
    Especially the ‘The 7-11 Breathing Technique’ & ‘Counting the thoughts’ exercises would help you.

    Regards,
    VJ

    in reply to: How to become a better active listener? #119011
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear Michael Chan,

    Below is some related information on the topic –

    1)
    When we actively listen, we listen with our whole bodies, letting nothing ditract us. We also suspend judgment and note the thoughts and feelings that are communicated to us. As with active listening, mindfulness meditation takes committed and consistent practice. In both our everyday lives and in our meditative practice, we can easily revert to old habits of distracted listening (especially when we are under stress). As a result, we can quickly fall out of the habit of a meditation practice, especially when we are busy. Unfortunately, when we stop actively listening to others and ourselves, we may bury emotions and tensions until they escalate to an interpersonal conflict or a somatic complaint.

    Book Source:
    Communication from the Inside Out: Strategies For The Engaged Professional
    Chapter 5- Mindfulness: An Attentional Approach to engaged Professionalism

    2) some good information in the below link

    (http://www.independent.ie/life/health-wellbeing/wellbeing-how-to-listen-34365444.html)

    3) “The Art of Listening” from the book ‘The Power of Now’- by Eckhart Tolle

    (http://www.yin4men.com/files/bdeb77d3e90d9e74512ad0d91d62ccf8-17.html)

    4) (http://lewishowes.com/podcast/chris-lee-art-of-listening/)

    Best Wishes,
    VJ

    in reply to: Relaxation & Meditation Techniques #118942
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear sherrysagecmw,

    It’s nice to see your own method of releasing for tension relief. Thanks.
    Yes this post of yours is definitely going to be read and practiced by somebody on the planet.

    For spreading more such wonderful tips and techniques I encourage more and more people who come across this post to go ahead and comment your own technique on this thread. It will definitely benefit someone looking for something exactly like what you have posted.
    It could be something as simple as counting from 1 to 10 when you are angry or upset or something about your own way of practicing mindfullness. Just make sure that it is clear enough for the reader to be understandable by simply reading it and starting with the practice.

    Thank you once again!

    Warm Regards,
    VJ

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    • This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by VJ.
    in reply to: My mind is super noisy #118941
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear sherrysagecmw,

    I too have this problem of uncontrollable thoughts and constant chatter in the head.
    Among the several techniques that I have learned during my spiritual journey I have listed few of them on the below posts and they may be useful to you in your situation. Please give it a try.

    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/relaxation-meditation-techniques/#post-114812)
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/relaxation-meditation-techniques/#post-114978)

    Also, it was nice to see your own post about your own approach added to the ‘Relaxation & Meditation Techniques’ thread.

    Do write back how you feel after practicing those techniques linked above.

    Take Care,
    VJ

    in reply to: My second chance in life #118940
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear Shipp,

    I did feel bad as well as sad for some of the things you mentioned in your post and I have deep compassion for you.

    Below are some of the inputs that I can provide to you..

    “I never understood why my existence made her life so unbearable.
    I was excluded my whole life and I still don’t know why.”

    Good that you mentioned that you believe in spirits and after life. Things will become easy to explain in that case.
    One of the Universal Laws governed by the Universe is the Law of Karma. There are so many variations that explain this law in other words. Below are some of those.
    What goes out, comes in.
    What you sow, so shall you reap.
    To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

    Law of Karma is a Law and it never misses, no matter what. Take the Law of Gravity which is also a Universal Law. If a ball is tossed up in the air, it has to come down.
    Now on a life level. We are all spirits in our physical bodies and Spirit is Energy. Any action done from one Energy (person) towards the other Spirit (person) gets the exact equal amount of the same energy and in the opposite direction ;ie back towards the sender of that energy. Now this energy that was sent can be of several forms – energy of hatred towards that person, anger, greed, resentment, jealousy, physical violence and so on are the negative energies. Note that every single thought is also an energy. So anything thought incorrectly about a person is also sending vibes of that quality depending on what you are thinking/wishing/feeling towards that person. The reason for explaining all this is it could have been highly possible that in one of the many earlier lifetimes when your spirit/soul was in another body and when your mom’s soul was in another form, your mom may have faced a lot of trouble from you of the exact same quality that you were facing in this lifetime with her. Perhaps you as a owner did not treat a servant properly all through her life. The life setup (situations) between both of you could be different. This is just an example, but I hope you are getting the point.

    A simpler example in real life scenario could be as follows.
    Suppose you are wearing a red shirt today and I am wearing a blue one. Today in this red shirt you borrow $10000 from me by requesting that you are in financial trouble and will return it back in a few days after your salary. Now you get your salary but greed enters your head and you cheat me and do not return me my $10000. Now after 1 year when you are wearing a pink shirt and I am wearing a black shirt we cross paths at a shopping mall. I haven’t forgotten you and ask you about my money. If you may not give it to me I may even threaten to take it away from you by wrong means. The important point is even though the shirts have changed, the body who borrowed the $10000 did not change.
    Similarly on a larger perspective of life, even though your body may have changed (died), the soul who borrowed the $10000 did not change. The soul simply takes on another body. So whatever the karmic accounts of that soul are (like bad deeds performed out of lust, greed, anger, jealousy, ego, etc …also the good ones done out of love) get carried forward with the soul even when they take different body forms. But since the Law says that the same quality of energy is going to come back to you, then you will face the consequences of what you have done either in this lifetime or any other. When these problems come to us then we say “Oh, what have I done to this person that s/he is troubling me so much for no reason…., what have I done such that my life is so and so”. Unfortunately we are not aware of the karmic debt accounts of our soul. But there is someone, or something, or some Infinite Intelligence that causes the blade of grass to grow, causes the sun to rise in India and set at the same time in the U.S. “That” something has the full balance sheet of our life and we get the circumstances according to that.
    Now the problem with people is that instead of facing their karma by passing through it, they retaliate and even further intensify their karma and hence gather more negative karmic points and face more trouble in this or further lives and go on in this loop. For example, if you would have retaliated your mother by ill-treating her and further causing here more trouble then you would face these problems in this or upcoming lifetimes. But based on what you wrote, it doesn’t appear to be the case. More below. But the point is – Every single thing that is happening to us is exactly as it should have happened.

    “…there was so much hope near the end for us to finally have a great relationship but it was jerked away from me right as it began.”
    It looks like you have nullified your karmic baggage with this soul and finally have settled your accounts.
    Perhaps towards the end when things got better between you it may have been possible that both of you nullified each other’s karmic debt accounts and it was time to depart. This departing happens in many ways for many people – some leave the body, some suddenly move to a different location, a child leaves his/her parents at a very young age due to some extreme illness, two people get divorced and they depart, some leave the house after an argument and never come back, and likewise.

    These were just a few inputs from my point of view. There is a book which you may possibly be interested in. I haven’t read it but if you could take a look at the book description (I have pasted below) and also things people have written in their reviews on Amazon to see if it interests you.

    The Laws of the Spirit World – by Khorshed Bhavnagri
    Amazon US link:
    (https://www.amazon.com/Laws-Spirit-World-Khorshed-Bhavnagri-ebook/dp/B008X3TEP8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1477474501&sr=8-1&keywords=laws+of+the+spirit+world)

    You will get to read more reviews on the Amazon India link:
    (http://www.amazon.in/Laws-Spirit-World-Khorshed-Bhavnagri/dp/817992985X)

    Below is the book excerpt from Amazon-

    The Laws of the Spirit World-
    ‘The Laws of the Spirit World’ by Khorshed Bhavnagri is a book that tells us about automatic writing, spirits and life after death. This book is based on the author’s own life. In 1980, Khorshed Bhavnagri and her husband lost their sons in a car accident. Their lives had come to a standstill after this tragedy until after a month of their death they started getting messages from their sons through mediators. This was something unimaginable. The author turned her personal misery into a spiritual story which is now admired by millions of people. The author claims about how the spirit of their sons contacted them and they successfully reunited. He also talks about how their sons provide them with immense spiritual guidance and knowledge.

    The book, according to the author, is a product of their sons’ desire to explain laws of the spirit world. It is an example of an extraordinary courage shown by parents, how they have managed to keep their sons in their lives even after three decades of their death. The book is designed for those who believe in sub-conscious, spirit and the supernatural powers. It is a national bestseller with followers like Shiamak Davar who states how this book helped him understand his own sub-conscious better. The form of this book is ‘Automatic writing’ which is a form of writing inspired by spiritual beings or supernatural powers. This world is a complex, mystical and alluring place. The hidden truths of this world can be unveiled through books like these.
    —————————
    Below are some of the reviews which you may relate to-
    “…But, it’s worth reading, especially if you’re still wrestling with whether there IS life after death. It’s comforting to hear that your loved ones live on, and still love you, are aware of your doings and continue to feel your love for them- this book (along with many other sources) bears witness to that and to the importance of love in general as the cosmic force underlying all creation.”

    “I bought it shortly after my mom expired.. to know the afterlife.. it can make you to get out of deep sorrow after loosing loved ones…”

    I hope, pray and wish that you will make peace with whatever is happening with you and lead a normal life – all 12 months of the year from now on.

    Take Care,
    VJ

    in reply to: My second chance in life #117766
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear shipp,

    All that I have suggested to you (about having less of questions and more of the actual action “doing” part), is a response to what you have written to me, and I still stick to that. Please continue your questions/conversations/updates on the forums of the site.

    As a well wisher I want to suggest you to make sure you don’t reach a stage where you end up even challenging Eckhart Tolle (author of TPON book) or Aine Belton (writer of the booklets) or anyone else for that matter. Of course you can do that because you have the free- will to do so. But what a waste of time and energy that would be. Instead, as a learning process of life, check out for yourself if something works for you the best, and discard the rest. Yes, that learning too requires time but there doesn’t seem to be any option and takes positive energy as compared to simply questioning/challenging without any actual action. These are all traps of the egoic mind and you will get to know more on that in ‘The Power of Now’. If the book is too “heavy” to read for you then your consciousness is not yet ready for it and you may even come to it at a later stage at the right time. One can only point you to a particular direction, but going there and coming will be your job. No amount of explanation is going to help you in that case.

    If tablet A does not work for your fever but tablet B does, are you going to go to the level to question/challenge the manufacturer of the Tablet A or the doctor or the person at the chemist shop who suggested you the medicine. A wise person will not waste time and energy in all those things and instead start taking tablet B the next time. What a simple act that is. If you keep life as simple as that then you are going to lead a calm and peaceful life.

    Take care buddy,
    VJ

    in reply to: Stuck #117686
    VJ
    Participant

    Dear Anonymous,

    Sometimes those situations that you explained do come in our lives.

    I want to come straight to an action point for you. For that I suggest you to make a list of all things that you are good at (it may be job and non-job related ones). Perhaps you can start in the descending order…..the best that you can do will be at the top and that way going down to the bottom of list.

    There could be things which you like to do (don’t think now whether it will pay you or not)….there could be things where you forget about time and space…where you forget about what’s going on around you, or certain things which you cannot be disturbed whatsoever. It can be as simple as making someone laugh or cheering someone up. Include those too.

    I am currently super busy so in the interest of time I suggest you to take a look at this post.
    Do not scroll through other answers from me on this link, although you can look upwards, but not downwards. You will be doing that later.
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/need-a-change-of-work-search-strategy-perhaps-please-help/#post-113583)

    ————-
    And then only after you make the above list go through the below post.
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/need-a-change-of-work-search-strategy-perhaps-please-help/#post-113706)

    Take care,
    VJ

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.
    in reply to: My second chance in life #117681
    VJ
    Participant

    🙂 nice to hear that on how the Universe is guiding you.

    Regarding the follow up posts….take a look at this follow up post for that same post 🙂
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/how-can-i-love-myself/page/2/#post-117674)

    Don’t let that stop you from having any questions and please feel free to write back but don’t let the thinking mind trick you….don’t allow it to say you that you will have more and more questions as you read else the mind has the capacity to take us into an infinite loop….keep things plain and simple as the action point explained in the above link.

    Take care,
    VJ

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.
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