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December 15, 2014 at 10:14 am in reply to: Rejectino and How to not use significant others as emotional crutches #69282silentwatchParticipant
“before you quit.. try”
“Never be sad for what is over, just be glad that it was once yours.!!!!”
“Avoiding something doesn’t always mean that you hate it….. It could also mean that you want it , but you just know that it isn’t yours……… ”
Every mistake you make is progress.
Mistakes teach you important lessons. Every time you make one, you’re one step closer to your goal. The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself. In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it!
And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win. Remember, if you never act, you will never know for sure, and you will be left standing in the same spot forever.
It is often self made.. i am walking through though a short distance.. just nearing 1 year… but it helped me learn so many things.. but i have not given up.. i wont leave that space… will fight..for it.i come across so many instances that disheartens me.. and encourages me as well..But it took sometime to realise that all of it were happening inside and nobody else knew.It hurt my health and it can do even more damage that one could imagine..Just because i was in love and wanted to be intimate.. and always cherished for that day to come as a reality. One thing i can say is try again..never quit.. if it is your passion..love like anything.. but do not regret or remorse.do not inflict pain on yourself.. you need to live healthy to enjoy a love life with her… Just imagine one day she turns around and you are sick?… everybody will laugh out so loudly.and now few words that i read here and somewhere and those my friends shared it helped me.. hope it will do to you too.somebody asked the question: What are you afraid of losing? And are you ready to move beyond that fear to get yourself unstuck?I would ask slightly different questions. I would pose the queries:WHY are you afraid of losing?CAN YOU DISCOVER HOW to move beyond your fear to get yourself unstuck?As I think more about this, it seems to me that we are not so much afraid of LOSS, as we are afraid of not getting BACK what we lost, or the equivalent of that.The successful, balanced people I know don’t lose or fail any less than anyone else. But what drives them to build on their losses, is their ability to BELIEVE that what goes down will again go up, and that the upturn will be better than what they had before.They are not always right about that. They don’t always win again right after a loss. But they don’t get defeated and they look at a failure as the path towards a solution. As cliché as it is, winners see failure as the creation of new opportunities. They really do!So how did they get that way? How did they learn to move past their fears?Somehow, some way, either by being born that way or being taught it, or by convincing themselves through trials and errors, these risk takers developed FAITH. At their core belief they expect losses to be only temporary and that everything will work out.When it doesn’t, when they reach a dead-end on a particular path, their attitude is: There are always other paths, other options with more gains to be found.I think the way to amass FAITH (if you weren’t born with it or taught it) is to never give up and keep generating more and more possibilities until those possibilities turn into probabilities and eventually WINS – sometimes BIG wins, sometimes LITTLE wins, but wins just the same. Yes, you have to be willing to stay in the game and keep playing.And now we’re back to question, . Are you ready to move beyond that fear to get yourself unstuck?
source.. my life and tiny buddha…
silentwatchParticipantsomewhere in tinyuddha somebody had written this. it helped me… hope will do to you too.
You asked the questions: What are you afraid of losing? And are you ready to move beyond that fear to get yourself unstuck?
I would ask slightly different questions. I would pose the queries:
WHY are you afraid of losing?
CAN YOU DISCOVER HOW to move beyond your fear to get yourself unstuck?
As I think more about this, it seems to me that we are not so much afraid of LOSS, as we are afraid of not getting BACK what we lost, or the equivalent of that.
The successful, balanced people I know don’t lose or fail any less than anyone else. But what drives them to build on their losses, is their ability to BELIEVE that what goes down will again go up, and that the upturn will be better than what they had before.
They are not always right about that. They don’t always win again right after a loss. But they don’t get defeated and they look at a failure as the path towards a solution. As cliché as it is, winners see failure as the creation of new opportunities. They really do!
So how did they get that way? How did they learn to move past their fears?
Somehow, some way, either by being born that way or being taught it, or by convincing themselves through trials and errors, these risk takers developed FAITH. At their core belief they expect losses to be only temporary and that everything will work out.
When it doesn’t, when they reach a dead-end on a particular path, their attitude is: There are always other paths, other options with more gains to be found.
I think the way to amass FAITH (if you weren’t born with it or taught it) is to never give up and keep generating more and more possibilities until those possibilities turn into probabilities and eventually WINS – sometimes BIG wins, sometimes LITTLE wins, but wins just the same. Yes, you have to be willing to stay in the game and keep playing.
And now we’re back to your question, Lori. Are you ready to move beyond that fear to get yourself unstuck?
silentwatchParticipantHelooo
Never ever miss a friend.. who is there for you.you know you are one of the luckiest in the world..
but if you don’t have feeling for him still it is great to have such a FRIEND around.. who why hesitate.. just tell him your emotions and feelings.. he will guide you..silentwatchParticipantthank you so much.. prayers from good heart will keep things moving..
I will you meet him sooner..silentwatchParticipantYou know what? you are in the best state on earth.. being in love.
We make so many mistakes but time will tell if they are mistakes or things that ought to have happened.
There is nothing wrong in loving some.. but having said that i warn you never lust around..
Because when we love something we do have that charm and inner power to make true connection and we wont act needy.
but when we look for pleasures all we get might be miseries.. as one of the postings here says
“it is not what will happen in future that makes us worry.. it is rather the things in the past that we enjoyed.. we fear we might lose it..” be there.. just be in love..
God will do the rest“When a person really desires something, all the universe conspires to help that person to realize his dream.”
― Paulo Coelho, The AlchemistsilentwatchParticipantwhere is his wife?
silentwatchParticipantthank you so much.. yes i read till the bottom and felt so happy that i really took time and effort doing so.. your quote helped me to reread those.. these may be easy for people with courage to withstand.. but mine is so tiny that it bursts since it doesnt demand 100 things.. all it need is just 1..
thanks amul for those links
silentwatchParticipantall i can see is the picture just above your name.. and the words really really got meanings.. yes i became a weaker person after i had this feeling.. and just before i was in total control (atleast i believe so) yes she was so comfortable then..
waves in an ocean…. so need to learn so much to row my boat… but one thing is sure i wont get bored with her that is where i placed her 🙂thanks alokji.. thanks a tonne
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