April 7, 2017 at 5:35 pm #144129
Dear my abuser,
Because of you, I learned to hate myself. Because of you, I am scared of men and how they see me. Because of you, I have nightmares. Because of how you treated me, I am scared to trust. Because of you, I held bitterness in my heart for years. You have taken over every aspect of my life. Despite all of the terrible things you did to me, I forgive you. I will no longer let you take hold of my life. I will love fearlessly and without regret. I will not hide any longer. The rain has come but the rain has passed. The rainbow is in sight.
April 7, 2017 at 7:17 pm #144133
- This topic was modified 2 months, 3 weeks ago by Hannah.
This is a beautiful letter, short and beautiful. I can see, in my mind’s eye, the rainbow that closes your letter.
anitaApril 8, 2017 at 2:03 am #144159
I would hug you so tightly right now. Xoxo I identity with you. I’m letting go too. How can something that hAppened 30 years ago have such an effect on me still? I’ve been afraid of him..afraid that love will be tAken from.me. that to fear him and his lies is safety because the light is fleeting and will only leave me. Surely can’t trust that love will always be there. Ive been a prisoner of my own making. By trusting this darkness which has been more reliable than love, I’ve rejected or cut off this perfect innocent part of me that is still waiting to be loved..I felt unlovable. Very unworthy. He told me I was bad and that my mother wouldn’t love me if I told her. I didn’t want to make mommy upset. I don’t want her to.stop loving me.
But wait. Herr I am. 38yr old and I know damn well it is a lie that I’m not lovable if I expose him. He’s only been able to hurt me by deceiving me. He’s made me.believe better to live in this fear and emptiness than to trust in the light. I thought I was dead inskde. Maybe I’m not..I’m safe now.
I free myself by forgiving him. I see now you need love too. I’m sorry you are hurting too. I resented you. I believe I was bad. I believed I wasn’t good enouggm. I felt guilty for not being enougg. I felt shame for believing it was my fault. I closed my heart because it wasn’t safe to feel. Used to you had power over me because you stole from me and I believed your lies. I was the powerful one all along because I had something you lacked. I had love. I had power. You hated that I had what you lacked which is why you stole mine. But I’ve learned that nothing is ever gone permanently. Things are put away for safe keeping until we’re ready to rediscover them. I have a resoveuri of love already with me. See that light you feared so much isn’t a threat to me. You knew that if I trusted the light just enough it would expose you for what you really are. A coward. I release you. I am.powerful and it ‘s safe. Still I hear your fear. Will it last, is love fleeting……I release that as well.
I used to look at my life as “what could have been”. “It wasn’t supposed to be this way….basing my whole life after those events being completely different..better. but it did happen that way. Why? Who knows. Maybe it never was about ne.
April 10, 2017 at 4:48 am #144357
- I know that I love myself. Ive hated for so long..me. but this darkness wasn’t ever me, it was the absence of me and the presence of.you. but I can’t hate you anymore. To.hate you is to.hate me. When you stole from.me.you stole from.yourself..everything you did to me.you did to.you. I release both of us..forgive us for our sins Lord, have mercy on us. Heal our hearts from.hate
I am sending you Jedi hugs if you want them!!
InkyApril 10, 2017 at 4:24 pm #144465
That is beautiful. You are a gift to the world. Love and Light.April 17, 2017 at 4:41 am #145411
Keep it up!!! Cheers!April 20, 2017 at 1:28 pm #146075
Hannah! Your words make me feel strongJune 27, 2017 at 9:57 am #155266
yes, it is something very hard to move past. Often times I say that I forgive him to only find myself reliving what happened. I still somewhat believe all of the things he told me- and none of them were true. But I realized that someone else’s inability to see my value and my worth does not define me. Only I can define myself, whether I make myself good or bad, that is up to me. I realized that what he did to me had nothing to do with me and all to do with him. It says more about him more than it will ever say about me.June 27, 2017 at 9:57 am #155268
thank you so muchJune 27, 2017 at 10:20 am #155282
RIGHT ON!!!! What amazing strength and courage you have. I’m very happy for you.