Dear noname:

“please tell me it gets better“- it is better already: you are in a long-term relationship (“my gf of 1,5 years“),

C o N g R a T u L a T i O n S !!!

“I have had 2 anger outburst towards her in the past month.. I yelled ‘fuck’ to myself in the bathroom, I wanted to throw something but I did not… The last outburst I had with her..  I screamed while driving the car. I’ve probably had about 4-5 of these type outburst with her in the past 2 years…  I think I need to break up with her… I feel wound up all the time“-

– wound up all the time, you magnify the negatives: one f*** and one scream in the last month, and only 4-5 of these in the past 2 years does not constitute abusive behavior and it is not a valid reason to break up.

“I am worried that I may never be able to maintain a healthy relationship with a woman in my life. I seem to be highly sensitive to criticism, and relationships seem to be full of criticism for me“- magnifying the negatives, you probably perceive criticism when it’s not there, or you magnify what is there. The relationship you have now is probably much healthier than what you perceive it to be when under great stress.

“I don’t think i mentioned it, but i had a panic attack during a therapy session a few weeks ago. My anxiety has never been this bad before…  I need a break badly, a real break, not a few days off work“- yes, this is just what you need and soon! Is there a way for you to arrange for.. an emergency break?

anita