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September 7, 2026 at 5:59 am #460854
RobertaParticipantHi Tommy
Practice is easier said than done Ha ha. My alarm went off ay 6am this morning did I leap out of bed enthusiastically to do an hours prayers before breakfast? Um erm no…. but I did do a half our meditation & then breakfast. Is that the middle way between all or nothing?
best regards
RobertaSeptember 11, 2026 at 7:34 am #460916
AlessaParticipantHi Tommy
I wouldn’t say just medication. There are lots of ways to rebalance the body depending on the issue. It is a complicated subject.
I’m glad you haven’t had any side effects from your medications. 🙏
I don’t know what you mean about the experience of truth about ourselves? 🩵
Our body is designed to make us rest when we’re ill. If you’re feeling cheery are you as motivated to rest?
On the other hand, studies show that if you have had experiences where you have safely and successfully navigated complex health issues or severe pain such as childbirth. It alters the way your mind perceives pain and lowers the threat level for lower levels of pain and illness.
I guess my approach is to go with the flow. Emotions happen sometimes. That is okay. Sometimes we feel bad. That is okay. Trying to make things easier and trying to practice gratitude when things are hard. Also, okay. If it doesn’t happen, that is okay too.
Just trying your best to deal with what is in the best way you can at the time. 🩵
My son is getting heavy. I started getting injured frequently when trying to lift him. I’ve always been bad for sprains and tendinitis and things. Just got to figure out how to parent without lifting when he takes a mood.
September 11, 2026 at 7:44 pm #460922
Thomas168ParticipantI am having pain from kidney stones. I have had three before. Each time was told to drink more water to help flush out the stone. The pain really does deter practice. But, it really is what the heart that decides what one does next.
Experience the truth about ourselves is Kensho or Satori. It is receiving the transmission. It is learning the truth of ourselves, enlightenment. It is the path to end suffering by learning the truth of life. Some will say that this life is an illusion. That has to come from a place where one sees the difference between what is real and what is subjective.
Liked, “Just trying your best to deal with what is in the best way you can at the time. 🩵”
Kids grow and we adapt to their growth. Stuff happens and we just try to do our best with what we got.
I feel terrible that I can’t do more to help my child. But, just live life as best we can.September 11, 2026 at 10:45 pm #460924AlessaParticipantHi Tommy
I’m so sorry to hear about the kidney stones. I hear they’re one of the most painful conditions you can get. I hope it passes quickly. Please be patient with yourself. If you get some practice in, great. If not, you can always make up for it when the stone passes. 🙏 🩵
I find this idea from Islam comforting. You know Ramadan and fasting. When you are pregnant and such, you don’t have to do it. But you still have to make up the days you miss afterwards. You have the rest of your life to do so.
I’m afraid I don’t know much about these things. 😊 Satori from what I’ve read briefly online seems to be being mindful and enjoying the moment? I find gassho – gratitude practice really helps. I’m very big on this.
It might sound silly, but I think we can change our minds outside of practice too.
How is she finding the new college? I feel like as parents, we just want the best for our children and want them to have good and happy lives. Part of that is also letting them learn to deal with challenges. For what it’s worth, I think you’re doing an amazing job. 🩵
September 12, 2026 at 2:36 pm #460931RobertaParticipantHi Tommy
Sorry to hear that you have been unwell with kidney stones. I hope they pass soon.Many traditions bless water – Mahayana buddhist medicine buddha mantra Teyata Om bekanze bekanze mahabekanze radza sumugata soha
best wishes
RobertaSeptember 20, 2026 at 8:08 pm #461048Thomas168ParticipantThanks for the well wishes.
The kidney stones, I believe they have passed since I am not having any pain now. I have been slacking off and not doing my meditation. Well maybe in a few days I will get back to a routine. Looking for something, a spark or something of interest. Anything to get me back on the cushion. Don’t know.September 21, 2026 at 5:57 am #461053RobertaParticipantHi
Yeah that lack of motivation is a real bummer, even though I know how beneficial it can be for me. The demon of apathy is one weighty lump to shift. I have a number of short practices to lean on, I even do them in bed even if it is only to have the aspiration for inspiration & motivation. More often than not just seeing the news headlines makes me take a moment to do mantra. There are days & days that are made up of micromoments rather than full blown sitting formally on the cushion & still having my head everywhere instead of being centered in the heart. You are not alone dude, hang in there
RobertaOctober 1, 2026 at 11:22 am #461242Thomas168ParticipantI was recently reminded of how life is, …
Was asked to pick up a pebble and to hold onto it. Like an event or something that happens to our lives.
Then asked to hold onto the pebble tighter. And soon there was pain.
So, the pain wasn’t from the pebble but from how we hold onto the pebble.
And so in life when things happen, we hold onto the pebble, the event.
The suffering comes from how we choose to hold onto it.
When I finally let go of the pebble, relief from the pain.So, I don’t know what everyone has gone thru. But, I do hope you can find a way to let it go
And free yourselves from suffering from it. Maybe even to overcome the pebble.
Whatever we did at the time was something that we did cause it was what we knew was best at the time.
Chasing and regret of past events are using today’s eyes to judge the past.
It does us no good to hang onto it.It just maybe a good time to let go and say good bye to the past.
October 2, 2026 at 12:00 am #461251AlessaParticipantHi Tommy
True! Thank you for your kind wishes and for sharing the experience with us. Same goes back to you. You’ll deserve peace too. 🙏 🩵
It’s a journey letting go. I’m currently working on trying to take judgement out of the equation. Taking things as they come. Not the easiest thing in the world because heck I didn’t even realise that judgement was part of the equation for the longest time. 😊
I think it’s not discussed enough in psychology that wanting is linked to anger. Simply something happening that you don’t want can make a person feel angry. I noticed it because my son gets angry when he doesn’t get what he wants. We like to think that as adults we have evolved past it. But it’s still there underneath a bunch of coping mechanisms. 🩵
October 3, 2026 at 7:43 pm #461309Thomas168ParticipantHello Alessa,
Judgement should never be left out. Well, that is what I believe. We don’t try to stop thoughts. We just stop identifying with every thought. We sound learn to live with the events in this life. And begin to accept whatever comes our way as the ripples in the water. It may move us but we can stay balanced.
Suffering is also linked to wanting. Wanting things to be one way or another. It may brings anger or other strong emotions. And then thoughts to support those emotions. It really takes on a momentum of its own.
Letting go doesn’t stop judgement. It takes crude judgement off the table. Letting go allows for other things to happen. It allows us to think the other person could be right. But, judgement keeps us from making mistakes of believing before understanding. Letting go gives us the ability to see more and to understand more.
I am sorry to sound like I am preaching. Never like to sound like I know anything. I don’t. I only know the sound of the quiet that blesses the spirit.
October 6, 2026 at 6:50 am #461382AlessaParticipantHi Tommy
Thanks for sharing your wisdom. I really appreciate it! 🙏 🩵
I’m just having a hard day and don’t know what to say. My son’s last molars are coming through and with his autism he has a hard time controlling his behaviour and regulating. He’s hit me four times today including in the face twice with a metal matchbox car. It’s not fun…
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