Hi Mollie 🙂

Good news- I saw the baby rabbit the morning after, in the same location where he was the night before (right before all the drama), just sitting there,and he/ she seemed okay 🙏

As to whether a friendship with your ex is hindering you moving forward- I figure that if the pattern is you trying to help him and him refusing your efforts, that’s unhealthy for you.

So, in my mind- either you stop trying to help him, and even more importantly: if you are no longer hoping/ being emotionally invested in him getting better-

Then better not be engaged with him.

A healthy friendship/ relationship needs to be one that somehow helps you, or at least one that doesn’t drain you.

🌿💛🌿 Anita

Good evening, Mollie 🙂

I definitely relate to making progress- or thinking I made progress- feeling elated about it.. and then, time after time, feeling just as I felt before what I thought was progress, same troubling thoughts, same conflicts- within.

The repeated disappointments and growing frustration wore me down until I gave up on making “progress”.

And then something changed in my attitude: I became genuinely motivated by learning from every (what felt like) regression: learning something new about my brain/ my story.

I carried that learning from one day to the next, building on what I learned the day before, and over time, I felt better and better on a regular basis.

I suppose I stopped caring so much about making progress and dedicated my mind and heart to just this one thing: learning the deeper and deeper levels of my psyche (little by little).

The obsessive thinking (OCD from an early age) changed, lessened immensely ( I no longer fit the diagnosis), and so did my depression ( no longer depressed). Chronic shame and guilt eased greatly.

Unlike you, I didn’t second guess my decisions- not because I was confident in my decisions- but because I didn’t make decisions. At least not actively. Instead, I had let others and circumstances decide for me. I had no trust and no practice in actively, or directly choosing.

You are in much better shape, Mollie, than I have been. No way was I able to graduate law school and pass the bar with distinction 👏

You may be second- guessing your decisions, but you are making them 👍

“Do you ever feel the same?”- I know I never really feel the same as I used to. I feel so much lighter, way, way less troubled.

I would like to read back from you soon 💛

🌿🌿🌿 Anita

Hi Mollie ✨🌿🕊️

I loved reading your message. It’s so encouraging to hear how you’re approaching things with curiosity and gentleness — that “hmm, why does my brain do this?” moment is such a healthy shift. It’s amazing how simply noticing what’s happening inside can soften the anxiety and help you move forward in small, steady steps.

It also sounds like this new job is arriving at the right time for you. A place where you can breathe a little, feel supported, and still grow — that combination can make such a difference. I’m really glad you’re giving yourself space to adjust rather than expecting everything to feel settled immediately.

And your insight about boredom triggering worry was so sharp. It shows how tuned‑in you’re becoming to your own patterns. Those baby steps you mentioned really do add up.

I’m happy to hear you’re feeling more at peace these days. It’s lovely to see how you’re meeting your own mind with kindness and curiosity. ✨🌿🕊️

Anita

You are welcome, Mollie and thank you for being you ❤️. Truly, you are the bee’s knees (meaning positively special), a blessing to communicate with 🙂

I am doing well, planning on dancing to live music this coming Sun afternoon 💃 (not in a red dress though, nothing fancy, lol)

I hope you keep slowing down, at least mentally. I plan to do the same every day, best I can.

🌿 Anita