Hi SereneWolf and Tee!

Nice to see you both around again. 🩵

I just thought I’d give my two cents on unconditional love because it’s a fascinating topic. I hope that’s okay? 🩵

It’s interesting to learn that as a parent a ton of “bad behaviours” are developmentally appropriate up into your teens.

So they are not really to be viewed as bad behaviours, because developmentally executive function doesn’t develop fully until adulthood. I guess that is why it’s called that. 😅

So part of being a good parent is staying calm and trying to teach your child how to process and manage their emotions in a healthy way and set healthy boundaries.

I think I only really started properly understanding unconditional love as a parent. It’s a unique experience. It is doing something for someone else, including experiencing “bad behaviour” and expecting nothing back. You just appreciate the person for who they are and enjoy spending time with them. Have faith that they will figure out their difficulties in time and find their own way in the world.

I think for adults it probably looks like something different. It’s important to love ourselves unconditionally too. So it is a balance between loving ourselves and loving others. Obviously, “bad behaviours” are not developmentally appropriate as adults and there are a lot of expectations socially and in the workplace.

I think it comes down to personal choice. What are you willing to accept? How do you view others mistakes? In very stressful circumstances are mistakes forgivable? How severe are mistakes? How much do mistakes negatively impact you personally? Where exactly is the line that you set to protect yourself because you are also important? 🩵