March 12, 2019 at 9:17 pm #284365
I’ve always felt that life should be lived to it’s best. Maybe I’m wrong. But I’d like to go back to when I was born. I want to start over. I want to keep the conscious and knowledge that I have now so I can change the decisions I regret so I can lead my own life.
I don’t mean to sound like a victim but I feel like it’s unfair that I haven’t had the right family. One that could raise me and pass their knowledge to me. Instead all I got was a dysfunctional family that neglected me. So I had to learn on my own without a mentor. I had to look up to myself by making many mistakes.
Sure things are great now and I’ve now the knowledge to lead a more prosperous life. But the regrets in my past are a burden to me and I want to go back and create a life that was prosperous from beginning to end.
So, as the questions states in the title:
How can I travel time to relive my life knowing what I know now?March 13, 2019 at 8:45 am #284417
You can’t, of course. Thing is most people, which makes it billions of adults in the world, today, grew up in dysfunctional families and made many mistakes, lived most or all of their lives so far way less functionally than possible if their families were functional. It is the norm, not he exception, to be born into a dysfunctional home. Personally I don’t know of a single person, online or in person, who grew up in a functional home.
Some people are prosperous, but that doesn’t mean they are functional. For example, Robin Williams was a very prosperous man, an internationally famous comedian and movie star, and yet he was so dysfunctional that he is now dead, by his own choice. There are plenty of other examples of prosperous and yet dysfunctional people. This is why our world is in poor shape: material and human resources being mostly wasted, mismanaged and wasted.
And so, if you traveled back in time to another home, another family, most chances would be that.. again, you would find yourself in a dysfunctional home.
Travel forward then, compare your life now not to what-would-have-been fantasy. Instead, compare your life today to your life of yesterday, put into practice today what you learned yesterday. Make today better than yesterday and tomorrow better than today. Learn and be patient. Some days will not be better than the days before, but if you persist, learn to endure your distress and regrets and persist nonetheless in learning and improving your life, you will succeed.
anitaMarch 13, 2019 at 10:46 am #284427
I always liked those ‘ground hog’ type stories were the main character keeps repeating the same day over and over until they get it right. Wouldn’t that be nice. Then again, the main character is stuck for a very long time and even commits suicide several times. How many life times “days” did it take for him to get it right.
If you could go back in time to fix a problem, you would likely have to redo that a few times and then fix what happens next… Then its likely the first attempt of undoing the past would change what you know and what you would change…a possible never-ending cycle.… Even if we get it “right” (to our liking) looking back life, love and suffering remain interconnected. (From a ALL encompassing perspective suffering is LOVE – chew on that for a while)
The idea of fixing our past it’s a kind of like the karma and reincarnation concept… only in the movie you get to remember… You might say that the idea of Karma is a type of remembering that were all really bad at, as it takes a great deal of effort to become conscious of all the factors behind our actions and there affects.
The goal of repeated “life times” could be the perfection of the spirit… however I suspect once that state of being is reached one would look back and not change anything, as everything experienced, the good and the bad is what brought you to that state. And of course, with that the very idea of good and bad disappears.
That said it’s the tension between what we judge as good and bad that leads to “conscious awakening’. Its Irony but basically suggest that you are exactly where you need to be to get to where your gong next. So, stop trying to change the past and Instead address your perspective from which you view it. Learn and move forward.
I think what you really desire is to “fix” your experience of yourself so that you might be different, no loner you? Begs the question what is this something you identify with as being you? If you “fixed” all your experiences would you, still be you? Would you notice?
March 17, 2019 at 1:09 pm #285021
- This reply was modified 1 week ago by Peter.
Sadman11 your predicament is not unlike the one I had to deal with. There was a part of me that mourned the me that could have been had I been loved and supported. I guess that I went through that period of feeling sorry for myself: “why did I get to have the crappy family?”. And in my case my life took a turn for the worst for many years , it is only now that I am starting to make sense of everything. And I realized that everything is happening EXACTLY as it should.Life loves me so much it decided to heap on so much on my broad shoulders because it knew that I would find out who I really was. But it’s more than that: I believe of all us agree before we are born into this life what issues we are going to take on. So I have chosen to look at it this way: I am grateful for every single moment. I would have preferred it to be different,but ultimately knowing that I chose it all to become who I was always deep inside has made it all worth it.
But with you consider the fact that if you have children or will have one day you can give them what your parents never gave you. You cannot change the past, but having a victim mentality will not help you make sense of things. Ultimately it would be lovely if our parents ushered us into the world safely and lovingly but that doesn’t happen often, because few people work on themselves before bringing children into this world. You are responsible for yourself and while you cannot travel back to rewrite history, you do have choices in the now.
How you view your narrative is something you can choose right now and what legacy to leave behind for your kids (if you have them or choose to have themin the future).If you do not want kids you still have the choice of what to choose what your life stood for.