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  • #366561
    anita
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    Dear Lily:

    You are welcome. K is an Obsession for you. I do think that you need to stop thinking about him, if you can, as it is not easy to disengage from an obsession. I have no doubt that meeting him was not a good idea, just as checking his Instagram is not a good idea, these only fuel your obsession, and since you met him you’ve been doing worse, not better like before.

    “But it will pass. I will be O.K.”- yes you will be!

    anita

    #366563
    Lily
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    Dear anita,

    I think that having met him and having ended it properly will help me in the future. But at the moment it stirred up something in me. But don’t worry, I will not contact him and I doubt he will now contact me again either. “My task is now complete” he wrote.

    I should distract myself, work for uni, go out for nature walks. I have signed myself up for some sports classes too. In a few weeks, I will be doing better again. nothing tragic happened.

     

    #366564
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lily:

    Sports classes- that sounds good to me! Doing my daily walks have been difficult recently because of the smoke in the air as the fires rage in my part of the world. I hope you have a good night (I believe it is now 9:40 pm, your time).

    anita

    #366566
    Lily
    Participant

    Dear anita,

    I am sorry to hear that you are affected by the fires and can’t go for your walks! Climate change is very scary. Are you doing o.K. otherwise?

    And yes, I will go to sleep soon. Have a good night too! And thank you for taking time to reply and read my stuff.

    #366569
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lily:

    Climate change is scary, yes. I am fine otherwise, thank you and have a good night.

    anita

    #367628
    Lily
    Participant

    Dear anita,

    I just wanted to give you a quick update that I am doing o.K. But I have also decided that I should post less. I feel a bit uneasy about having shared so much information about myself online.

    Thank you for taking the time to reply to me, when I was feeling very distressed. During the time of our communication I have learned more about myself and now I have more of a sense of who I am and what I need to work on. I am able to see clearer now and feel more confidence in myself. Overall I think I am a reasonable person (except when stressed) and I am learning how to help myself more and more. I am not there yet, but I am taking steps in the right direction!

    Thank you for everything! Hope you are doing well and please take care!

     

    #367629
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lily:

    Before reading your recent post here, I read your recent reply on another thread and I thought it was a different Lily (different members can have the same screen name). Then, I thought that the other Lily posted on your thread! I clicked your screen name, and it is you! On the other thread, I didn’t recognize the self-doubting Lily of the past. I read the words of a confident, clear-thinking  person who knows what she is talking about and says it like it is.

    Then I read your post here, and you indeed say: “I am able to see clearer now and feel more confidence in myself”- indeed your clarity of thinking and confidence were so visible to me in the other thread, that I wrote to you here before I read the sentence I just quoted, that “I read the words of a confident, clear thinking person”.

    You are welcome. I respect your decision to post less, to post anytime or not at all. Thank you for letting me know and for expressing your appreciation for the quality of our past communication and for wishing me well. Take good care yourself and keep learning how to help yourself more and more.

    anita

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