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  • #226387

    Katie
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    I am so lonely I just need some help on how to solve this. I am a freshman in college and I have yet to find my group of friends. I have met and know tons of people but I am not close with anyone. I said this in my last post on here, but now that it is Wednesday (day 3 of literally spending my days alone) I am getting more and more depressed. Last night I talked to some girls for about an hour I really like them and I think I’m gonna end up being close with them. However that doesn’t change the fact that I feel really depressed and alone. It’s so awkward when my roommate is always out with friends (I stated before that I don’t really like her friends). I am just sad

    #226389

    Nisha
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    Sometimes it takes a little bit to find a group of people you really click with but give it some time. In the meantime, is there a group you can consider joining? culture club? art class? dance class? sports?

    #226445

    Cat
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    Since you’re a freshman this is all so new, I’m sure it just feels awkward. I have no doubt that countless others feel exactly the same. How far are you from home, in other words maybe you can reach out to family. My daughter is still young but if she were lonely, I would do all that I could to make her feel as if I were there with her. Family is good like that. Have you thought of joining any self interest groups? You may find delving into yourself could reveal something undiscovered and untapped. I’m in my early 40’s and just discovered I can actually draw, really. In other words, continue to look within and shed the complex layers to develop and define yourself sweetheart. College is the perfect format for self development and exploration, embrace it.

    #226493

    Katie
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    Nisha,

    I am in Latin club and Spanish club since I am studying both of those languages in college. I am only in Latin club for extra credit, and there are few people in that club. I am in Spanish club because a lot of people I knew are doing it and went to the first meeting… yet when I went to the second meeting nobody was really there and I didn’t have fun. I guess I will look for some other things to join

    #226495

    Katie
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    Cat, thank you

    #226621

    David
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    This is nothing new as a Freshman. Lots of people dealt with this, including me. However, if you are an introvert, it’s gonna be harder for you. Finding a good friend usually start with a classmate, then maybe joining clubs as what Nisha said. Give it some time. I’m sure you’ll find someone or a group that will bring joy to you. 🙂

    #226717

    Katie
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    David,

    That is what everyone keeps saying. But it’s been a month and I am still alone. The only fun I have is when I leave campus to hangout with my boyfriend. It’s Saturday and I am literally in my dorm alone. It’s been a month.

    #226739

    Petal
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    Hi Katie

    I feel lonely too but I’m much older than you . I think we all go through some lonely spells . Tbh I never felt lonely in college I was pretty extrovert back then. I think you have got some good suggestions above. There will be others in the same boat. Have a look around your class and see someone else sitting alone or a small group and try join them . Also join groups for socialising like a hiking club or movie night club . I bet they exist. You are going to have to put yourself out there and make the first move.

     

    What happened with girls uou spoke to for an hour ? Have you met them since ?

    #226793

    stacey
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    Can you invite a few people over to watch a movie and send out for pizza? Maybe you can plan a routine thing of doing it? The other thing is if you have time, volunteer your time doing something, even if its only for two hours on a weekend. Doing for others always makes you feel good. Help someone study. Close friendships will happen. Just put yourself out there and invite them to hang out. Go shopping, ask someone to see a movie etc.

    #226875

    Katie
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    Petal,

    Thanks for the advice. I have met with those girls since. I hung out with them and their other friends but since the group was bigger… it was harder to fit in. I tried talking to everybody but I still felt out of place. I am worrying now that since I may not have gotten along with them well enough that they won’t want to become closer with me. I feel like I’ve been constantly nagging other people to hang out.

    #226877

    Katie
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    Stacey,

    thank you for the advice

    #226913

    kahani ?
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    First , I think first you think you are enough for you , you should enjoy yourself first like dressdup you feel happy and enjoy your company and start listening your favourite songs n all…

    • In college you must initiate first to talk anyone… no one is bad in this world ;some circumstances makes them ,I mean take initiative,  try to communicate,  start joke fun, party , some thins tell about you,  some listen them stuff… like that you start enjoying!!! Make plans tell them yours plans… tell them try something new… let’s play truth and dare., this game make people close and understand easily.. so like this .
    • But important first love yourself and enjoy… try to make comfortable with them and make more memories!!!
    • I hope you find some help in my suggestion!???#_being happy #_be smile ?
    #226993

    Katie
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    Kahani ?

    Thank you that  advice helps a lot!

    • This reply was modified 2 months, 2 weeks ago by  Katie.
    #226999

    kahani ?
    Participant

    Your welcome!! Katie ?if anything else can share… feel free to share

    #268123

    kahani ?
    Participant

    Hey katie,

    How are you ? Are you overcome that problem…I mean these days all okay… friends n all !!

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