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  • #400122
    HoneyBlossom
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    <p style=”text-align: center;”>Thanks very much Anita.  I hope you have a nice weekend.</p>

    #400267
    anita
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    You are welcome, HoneyBlossom, and thank you! Anytime it might help you to get things off your chest by posting here, please do!

    anita

    #400670
    HoneyBlossom
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    Thanks so much Anita.  I am going back to work Tuesday next week.  I wish I could have more time off work, but I will just have to wait a few months.

    I’m glad you are well. Nothing much to report here. I’m pleased to say that. I’m liking my life being very quiet.

    #400675
    anita
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    Dear HoneyBlossom:

    Good to wake up this Thursday morning (I know it’s night time where you are) to your posts, what excellent replies to other members! I hope you rest well before you return to work in five days.

    You are welcome and thank you for… being you!

    anita

     

    #400735
    HoneyBlossom
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    Thank you Anita.

    I have been feeling really sorry for myself and having a big puty-party when I know I should be grateful for the things I do have.

    I don’t feel ready to go back to work, but I have to for financial reasons. I have been seeing photos on FB of both my sisters holidays.  Both are retired and have b even a couple of years – they are bith well-off financially.. Often I feel I will be working until I drop dead.  I can’t even partially retire for another 5 years.

    I had also been feeling down in the dumps about being moved from a workplace I have loved to a place few people have wanted to work at. Mostly this was because of a really nasty manager and one other nasty worker.  It turns out the nasty manager has been gotten rid of.  One of the other more senior managers rang me today to give me feedback on another job I applied for.  He told me the place I am going back to is quite a different place since that nasty manager was finally gotten rid of.

    It’s a difficult place to work.  The clients either can’t speak or can only say a few words. All of them are mostly incontinent and require full meal assistance.  I’m not getting any younger and don’t know how I will go.  My first shift us a 6 30am start and 5pm finish and it’s 45 minute drive away.  I have to sleep over a minimum of 6 times in a 28 day month, and work every second weekend with split shifts and sleeping over. I just don’t want to be doing this number of sleepovers any more.  I had been w I ring a lot of 12 hour shifts. Thankfully, there are fewer of those. I must not ley myself burn out like this again.  In my work, and in nursing, a lot of people have left through burnout since COVID.  Even though lockdown is over, we lost a significant number of experienced staff who chose not to be immunised.

    I applied for another job in the same organisation. The interviewing manager told me that I did very well in the interview but another person did a bit better.  He said if there were 2 jobs, he would have given me second job. He did give me some ideas on improving my answers at future interviews.

    I’m not planning on applying for anything else immediately.  I will see how things go.

    I know I need c to get a grip on myself – practice more gratitude and be more positive.

    #400777
    anita
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    Dear HoneyBlossom:

    I understand that you are frustrated about not being able to retire- not even partially- before you are 67 (in five years from now), and working such long hours in a difficult workplace, with a long drive to and from and sleepovers. And then seeing  other women your age who are already retired and financially well off.

    As I read your post, I remembered a conversation I had with a young man in his early 30s the other day, he was frustrated about having saved money to buy a truck, but then his landlord called to tell him that he needs to move out, so the young man had to spend his money on getting a new place to live, instead of what he wanted to spend it on. He now has to start saving for a truck all over again. He said that such things happened to him repeatedly in life. He then said that if he expected life to be fair, he would be very frustrated over these things. But he is not very frustrated because he expects life to be unfair.

    Since that talk I’ve been trying to apply this true thinking into my own life: I have suffered and still suffer from unfairness, and I see other people suffering. It hurts.  I want to be fair to others and to promote fairness, but unfairness is the predominant reality nonetheless, promoted successfully by people in positions of power.

    It is better to accept what is real and what we cannot change. It helps me feel better than otherwise. Is it helping you, to accept that life is unfair?

    anita

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