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February 24, 2022 at 9:36 pm #393738AnonymousGuest
It’s Saturday afternoon your time, Friday night, 9:36 pm my time. My 50 minutes or so walk in the cold air was very refreshing. I then socialized in the local taproom, then watched the news on the Russian invasion into Ukraine, and thought I’ll send you a quick post.
anitaFebruary 25, 2022 at 4:22 am #393743
Oh thanks Anita. I’m glad you enjoyed your walk. I was looking at news on Ukraine. Surely sanity will prevail. Hopefully, the Russian people will oust Putin. He has been leader for way too long. Most Russian people would not want this, and the sanctions will make citizens impatient to have him out.February 25, 2022 at 4:27 am #393744
I’m feeling somewhat improved. I’m working over the weekend so I rested up as much as O could, but did manage to get some important red kk s, and my friend visited in the afternoon. She made me laugh!
I started reading more articles at Tiny Budha and started a new journal to focus objectively.
I have been aware for a time of feeling unpleasantness in both my chest and stomach. I feel certain this is emotional. I believe the chest sensation is unresolved grief and in my stomach, I am experiencing anxiety.
I am going to Google for meditation exercises to release chakra blockages. Have you ever done that?February 25, 2022 at 4:35 am #393745
Thank you very much Peter. I’m sorry I forgot to reply earlier. That sounds very useful. Can you please tell me anymore and how one does that meditation. Thanks again.February 25, 2022 at 7:41 am #393749AnonymousGuest
I wish that both Putin and his fan and admirer Trump will walk hand in hand into the sunset this very morning and poof- be forever gone.
“I have been aware for a time of feeling unpleasantness in both my chest and stomach. I feel certain this is emotional” –
– the chest and stomach unpleasantness could be, maybe a result of heightened anxiety: anxiety goes up, and the heart’s rate goes up so to sends more blood to the arms and legs for fight/flight, and blood moves away from the digestive system and toward the arms and legs, as well as cortisol is released so to slow down digestion.
Also, heightened anxiety/ fear can result in vomiting, diarrhea, or frequent urination, so to make our bodies as light as possible so that we can run faster (flight). You can look at the nice chart on the matter at trails to wellness. org/ the physiology of anxiety.
“I am going to Google for meditation exercises to release chakra blockages. Have you ever done that?” – no. Are these meditations calming/ stress relieving meditations, and in so doing relieving the symptoms of anxiety, such as the unpleasantness in the chest and stomach that you mentioned?
anitaFebruary 25, 2022 at 12:13 pm #393753PeterParticipant
How to meditate? I m sure if you search just on this site alone you will find many methods and advice Better then I could give and each person is different so like all things the first step is to start. There is no wrong way. Actually that is one peace of advice I could offer – try not to label, measure judge… your attempts to meditate as that will most certainly increase the monkey mind – Trying to quite ones inner thoughts can amplify them, the more we try to stop them the more we unintentionally cling to them. The intention is to notice the thoughts and let them pass without attaching to them. (Some might say the intention is to not have any thoughts but that too is a thought and if attached to, well your back to were you started)
There is also contemplation which is similar but a little different then meditation. In contemplation you might find a quite space and contemplate this sadness you experience. This is a heart exercise not a head one, more listening then filling the space with thoughts. A kind of silent “prayer” that is truly silent. No pleading, no hoping, no if only’s, just a listing to the heart.
I like your Avatar name ‘HoneyBlossom’ Why did you choose it?
If you found a quite space, got comfortable, and breathed in and out those words Honey, Blossom, Honey, Blossom and then sat in contemplative silence for a while , listening, what do you feel?
What does your naming of yourself say about your true self?
Could you bring that feeling with you as you engage with the stuff of life?February 25, 2022 at 6:13 pm #393759
Thank you Peter. I will try your suggestions.
Honeyblossom just came into my head not so much because I feel it represents me – more that it is something I like- a flower which sustains life and healing – although I have been told I have honey blonde hair!February 26, 2022 at 12:41 am #393766
Thank you very much Anita. Yes they are.February 26, 2022 at 1:27 am #393767
I hope we were to better news about the Ukraine. Putin is a lunatic.February 26, 2022 at 7:32 am #393769
Hugs Anita. Been thinking of you. You are a very kind and intelligent person, and give so much to these forums.
I am having to sleep away from home for work this weekend. I work as a carer and disability for 6 men at a very nice place where the staff and clients ate really terrific. I have woken very early. I am feeling okay. I am missing my forethought. My dear kind friend cares for them at her home when I have to st say over. They love her and staying with her. As well as her own dogs, she has others she c ares for so often 7 dogs, and they play together. My oldest dog is unwell and have an appointment at vet on Monday and my friend is taking him as I go to surgeon on Monday, and expect he will book me for surgery to have in the next few weeks. I am guessing I will need around 3 weeks off work but any luck, it might all be easier. The blood tests did not show increased white cells and all my other organs look normal on the scan. The type of cancer I have had is ? low and treatable, but I can expect it to come back for The Ordinary rest of my life. It is in my bladder. The first time I h as it, it was VERY close to one of my kidneys which concerned the doctors, but this time, the one they found on scan is at bottom part of my bladder and not close to other organs so that is good.
I’m starting to look a lot better as I am taking better care if myself.
Like you, I really dislike politicians like Trump and Putin. I am praying that the situation in Ukraine de-escalates and there is peace in ither countries too. I have hope. Thank you Anita.February 26, 2022 at 8:05 am #393770AnonymousGuest
Thank you and a hug back to you. Following your appointment tomorrow, the surgeon will book a surgery for you in the next few weeks so to remove a cancerous tissue growing at the bottom part of your bladder, a cancer that did not spread to your blood and to other organs. Following the surgery, you’ll need to rest and recover for 3 weeks. I assume you are nervous about it all, aren’t you?
Also, regarding your unwell oldest dog, are you nervous about the appointment tomorrow at the vet?
anitaFebruary 26, 2022 at 1:48 pm #393776
Surprisingly I’m not nervous about tomorrow or the surgery as I have been down this path before. 2011 and 2012 were pretty terrible as I was in hospitals every 6 weeks having some type 9f te set and procedure. In 2012 after looking inside, they found 11 tiny tumors. I was devastated and convinced th a t I would die, but that didn’t happy e n again and I only got one or 2 at a time and they were picked up when small.
I’m more worried about my dog. He was millionaire extra clingy with me as he is when he us unwell, and it’s hard c to leave pets when they are unwell. My friend and I decided that I f we are not satisfied after this next vet visit where he will have more x-rays, we are going to travel to a city in the next state where they have a veterinary university who c h is meant to be the be day place to take dogs wh e re the diagnosis is uncertain as they get looked at by a whole te a m of gets. It’s going to cost me a bit this week with vet fees, but he is worth every cent.February 26, 2022 at 6:24 pm #393778AnonymousGuest
Your dog is lucky to have your love and care! I am glad to read that you are not nervous about tomorrow, and I hope that what follows is way, way simpler and easier than what you went through in 2011 and 12. I hope to read good news from you soon!
anitaFebruary 27, 2022 at 12:43 am #393783
Thank you so much Anita. Yes, I am optimistic, and I believe I will cope with this well. It’s been taking l longer for operations through the public system because during COVID, the health system postponed most surgeries there is a back log but I expect it to be within a few weeks.
Oh my dogs have saved ME. I have had this do f since he was 7 weeks old. He gets so excited to see m when I get home e and never goes far from my side. If I get up in the middle of the night, no matter how tired he is, he gets up with me. I’m sure he does it to check I am okay. He won’t go to bed until I do. I really get why they say dog sickens best for er nd. I have a second dog with quite a different personality, but amazing as well in different ways. She s very old, and I have a dig stroller for her now when we go for walks and she loves it.
I will post at a in tomorrow after I have seen surgeon and tell you what he says. Thanks so much f o r your message encouragement and support. XFebruary 27, 2022 at 10:15 am #393797AnonymousGuest
You are welcome. It adds to my courage to read that you are optimistic, so thank you!
How nice it feels to read about how your precious dog loves you and has loved you for so long. you wrote “Oh my dogs have saved ME” – love does that, it saves us.
I am looking forward to reading from you again!