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July 11, 2022 at 6:26 am #403726
I’m sorry I’m so late posting. I did actually respond earlier tonight but must not have submitted the post properly. I’m glad you are well and that your friend found out what was wrong with his dog.
It appears that my little one who suffered hair loss due to the Cushings is now growing more hair. She was unwell when I collected her after sleeping over at work, but I suspect that she had eaten something she shouldn’t have. She is now 18, and I just love her so much. I will be happy if she will live to 20. I know I can likely give her a good life until then. Few dogs make it to that age, but my cat did. I gave her some pain relief and a deep warm bath and she settled and slept for a few hours. When she woke, she was her happy self.
Life is the same here. My last day at work is Friday. I’ve already had a few calls about casual work but haven’t been able to pick them up because of current job. There is a lot happening at work at the moment between people, and I will be glad to be away from it. There is likely going to be a massive shake up. A new supervisor is coming. The last one has only lasted a short while, and the interim supervisor before him wasn’t given a fair go. Some of the people at work are related, and there is a young couple in a relationship together. Nearly all of them have strong social connections and cover up for each other for things they shouldn’t be doing. The operations manager is good though she is not on site. I am on very good terms with her. If there is a massive shake, I would consider going back there later as a casual, and Im quite certain she would have me back.
It’s nice to be back home with the dogs after 3 sleepovers at work in the last 5 days and split shifts between. I’m feeling my age. Finally get to hairdresser for first time in months on Wednesday. I’m going to get some of this grey taken out of my hair. I have had thoughts of letting myself go grey. I never wanted to do that before, but it’s too much work and money. I suppose at some point, I will do that and just take care of it myself at home. No other news. I hope you have a good week. XXJuly 11, 2022 at 9:59 am #403732AnonymousGuest
No need to apologize for when you post: whenever you post, it’s good-enough for me. Eighteen years is quite impressive for a dog, and she is growing new hair… it’s encouraging to see new, healthy growth of any kind when it comes to an old dog… or an old person!
“My last day at work is Friday…. There is a lot happening at work at the moment between people, and I will be glad to be away from it… If there is a massive shake, I would consider going back there later as a casual, and I’m quite certain she would have me back”- good planning on your part.
“I have had thoughts of letting myself go grey. I never wanted to do that before, but it’s too much work and money”- I did, have my hair grey and in a ponytail. Summer (quite mild so far) has finally arrived here, 20 degrees Celsius right now; winter where you’re at. I hope that you have a good week and that your job situation greatly improves!
anitaJuly 25, 2022 at 3:35 pm #404565AnonymousGuest
Thinking about you, HoneyBlossom, hoping you are okay, or better!
anitaJuly 25, 2022 at 8:10 pm #404572
Thank you so much for your kind thoughts Anita. I have been thinking about you too! I hope you are well.
I am okay thanks. I am doing just a little work ATM. I have holiday pay owing to me so could afford to not rush in.
My life is very quiet. My son has spoken to me several times since I was unwell with influenza and CIVID, and he really wants me to sell up here within the next few years and move back to Melbourne, somewhere within half an hours drive from him so he can check up on me and visit me much more often. He has pointed out that I will need to be prepared to live in a very tiny space because of unbelievable realestate prices, but we bith agree that we could make anywhere nice with paint floor coverings and furniture. He wants me to start downsizing in readiness for this.
Part of me would like to do this. I would love to see more of him, Nd once I retire, I’m not sure I would manage with the mortgage and maintenance here. He said he thinks I would be able to find a place where I would be allowed to have one small dog.
It’s definitely something I will consider but shouldn’t have to do for another 5 years.
To be truthful, I suppose I’ve been feeling a bit sad sometimes even though I know I have so much to be grateful for. Most of my life, I believed that I would enter into a happy relationship and share my life with somebody.
Realistically that just isn’t going to happen for me. I will turn 63 this year. In my way, I’m also happy – or perhaps relieved is more accurate to be on my own.
I think I rushed into most relationships I had, but I don’t know really if there are more reasons. These days, I don’t actually like many men although I think there are a few who are okay.
I was happy with the result when I went to hairdresser – hoping to never dye my hair again. Embracing the grey. It’s mostly an ash blonde color now. I put 2 pairs of beautiful colourful French earrings and a colourful silk scarf on layout which I will collect when my tax return comes. They are not that expensive but just about everybody is feeling the financial pinch here. Fuel prices and food costs affect most ordinary people.
So glad our govt was voted out at the last election this year. The new PM and ministers are so much better. I’m not sure they can make a big difference about the financial situation at the moment but they aren’t as heartless and self-serving as the last lot.
Doggies are doing well, but it appears the wheelchair is either lost or detained in customs so I’m going to start trying to chase that up today. A quiet day for me today. Yesterday I was up at 5.30am. Went to work fir a few hours then looked at shops on the nearest city for a couple of hours. I must have walked a few kilometres, and I was tired this morning. I just did some housework and went to doctor for flu shot. More paid work later in the week.
Keep safe and well. XXXXJuly 26, 2022 at 10:40 am #404588AnonymousGuest
You are welcome, I am fine, thank you. I was thinking about you the other day regarding the record high summer temperatures in Europe and in the U.S. (summer where I am at has been mild-moderate so far), I was thinking that it is winter in Australia, so you are not suffering from the heat. In regard to moving to Melbourne, I think that climate change should be a big consideration, maybe the biggest.
“I will need to be prepared to live in a very tiny space“- how do you feel about living in a very tiny space, do you have experience with it?
It will be less costly to use air conditioning in a very tiny space. Are you using AC in your home during the summer and how different are the summer temperatures between Melbourne and where you currently live?
“Most of my life, I believed that I would enter into a happy relationship and share my life with somebody. Realistically that just isn’t going to happen for me” -it will not happen for lots and lots of married women who strongly believe that a happy relationship isn’t going to happen for them.
“I will turn 63 this year. In my way, I’m also happy – or perhaps relieved is more accurate to be on my own“- focus on being 10 years younger than 73 (!) and focus, will you, on the relief and happiness that you are experiencing from time to time.
“I think I rushed into most relationships I had“- you may still enter a relationship sometime in the next few years, and you’ll be going much slower about it this time.
“I was happy with the result when I went to hairdresser – hoping to never dye my hair again. Embracing the grey“- you are encouraging me to embrace my grey.
“So glad our govt was voted out at the last election this year. The new PM and ministers are so much better. I’m not sure they can make a big difference about the financial situation at the moment but they aren’t as heartless and self-serving as the last lot“-
– congratulations for voting in a better government. I read today (Tuesday 10:40 am here, U.S, Wednesday 3:40 am in Australia): “CANBERRA, Australia (AP) — Australia’s Parliament sat on Tuesday for the first time since May elections with the new prime minister determined to have a greenhouse gas reduction target enshrined in law. Legislation that would force Australia to reduce its emissions by 43% below 2005 levels by the end of the decade will be introduced Wednesday into the House of Representatives… The Greens want Australia to slash its emissions by 75% by 2030. The conservative coalition that ruled for nine years until the May 21 election won’t budget from its 2015 Paris commitment to reduce emissions by between 26% and 28%”.
I opened and closed this post with the issue of climate change. Glad to read that your doggies are doing well and that your life is very quiet. Keep safe and well yourself!
anitaJuly 26, 2022 at 12:16 pm #404594
Thanks so much Anita. I have been reading news through social media on Trump. What a narcisstic lunatic. Our former PM was a huge fan of his which should say it all.
Yes, so happy to embrace the grey. Good salons now do a blending process with grey, and I haven’t seen one photo where it doesn’t look good. Very natural and quite modern. A lot of women embracing the grey on social media are wearing their hair with a little length añd a soft curl usually with a curling wand. So nice. They put toners through it which are not harmful to hair and give it bit more of ash blonde and silver. I definitely want to find a new lipstick I like a s a bit of color in the face makes a big difference. Something not too harsh. Some beauticiabs recommend a bright color, but on me, it’s not a good look. I think I will just wear earrings and scarves with a bit of color.
I’ve been up with one of the dogs since about 3am. He must have eaten something which has disagreed with him but is settled now. I’ve been learning so much about dogs. I’m going to try crating the oldest one who is very tiny as she goes for wanders through the night. Any future dogs will be crated. I have always spoilt pets whenbI have had them and broughtvthrm on my bed to comfort them. I have had the malteseXshihtzu since he was 7 weeks old, and I think he is a little too closely bonded to me sometimes for his own good. I’ve put a large old sheet on top of the bed as he is here with me and he had cried when I tried to get him to sleep in his day bed on the verandah.
The climate where my son lives is just a bit less extreme than here. It’s hotter in summer and colder in winter. I just am not sure what I will do yet. I had been planning to sell my house and buy an apartment around 40 minutes from here. There are a lot more facilities evenbthpugh it’s away from cities but my son wants me to be closer to him – within half an hours drive. I admit that there are some things I miss about Melbourne. Definitely more culture – lot of cinemas, music and art. At times, it feels like so many people here are related or strongly socially connected – mostly in the workforce- and that’s often not a good thing. Happens in the cities too but not so much as here. Geoff was c a fifth generation farmer on the same farm and related to many people here and in surrounding towns.
Even though I’m glad I have no involvement with him anymore, part of me just hasn’t seemed to move on. In a way, it felt like my last chance at a relationship.
There is one ex of mine who I am still friends with who I have contact with every couple of months. He is the only one I want any contact with. He would still like a relationship with me, but I have moved on from that. He understands and says he wishes he had treated me better when we were together. At one time, I loved him very much, but it seems for me that when things go really too far, a light in the relationship switches off for me that doesn’t go back on. We were seeing each other a couple of years. He taught me a lot about horses. He is very good with them and other animals. I still have a deep fondness for him as a friend. At one time, he was an extremely handsome man – much better-looking than Geoff. I thinkbD will always be handsome and we will remain friends, but I don’t feel anything else for him anymore. He lives on a farm near a beach and has been urging me to visit and stay with him And his adult daughter. They are aboutv5 hours away. He has visited me several times here so maybe one day in the warmer weather, I will get there.
Imbgoingvto try get some sleep before U get up and bath this dog who hates baths. Have a great day/evening.July 26, 2022 at 1:09 pm #404596AnonymousGuest
You are very welcome. And yes, it says it all.
“A lot of women embracing the grey on social media… I think I will just wear earrings and scarves with a bit of color“- I am glad that Embracing Grey is made popular, it would save a lot of women lots of trouble and money of repeatedly dying hair, anxiously looking for the grey roots. Also, reads like you know how to keep yourself looking good!
“I’ve been up with one of the dogs since about 3am…“- taking care of a dog is similar to taking care of a child.
“The climate where my son lives is just a bit less extreme than here…. there are some things I miss about Melbourne. Definitely more culture – lot of cinemas, music and art“- you have a few years before you make your choice of where to live. Considering climate and social opportunities will be two important factors to consider.
“Even though I’m glad I have no involvement with him anymore, part of me just hasn’t seemed to move on. In a way, it felt like my last chance at a relationship“- it felt like he was your last chance, but what we feel at any particular time is not necessarily what is true.
“There is one ex of mine… I still have a deep fondness for him as a friend…. but I don’t feel anything else for him anymore. He lives on a farm near a beach and has been urging me to visit and stay with him And his adult daughter… maybe one day in the warmer weather, I will get there“- socializing with people we are fond of is.. nice.
“I am going to try get some sleep before I get up and bath this dog who hates baths. Have a great day/evening” – Thank you. I am imagining you giving your dog a bath, the image is cute. I hope you have a nice morning nap (6 am where you are at), no wonder you need it since you woke up at 3 am. It’s early afternoon here. Till next time, be well.
anitaSeptember 5, 2022 at 7:38 am #406646AnonymousGuest
Thinking about you, HoneyBlossom, hoping you are well.
anitaSeptember 18, 2022 at 6:49 pm #407210AnonymousGuest
It is impossible to forget about you, Honeyblossom. How are you?