January 9, 2022 at 8:04 pm #391025
I understand it will be hard but I won’t quit. I can’t afford to. My life in this state is too hard.
January 10, 2022 at 8:31 am #391031
- This reply was modified 1 week, 2 days ago by samy.
Reads like the right attitude: being determined to not quit what is hard (and very slow) to accomplish. Your life will get easier at some point along the way, and the work that needs to be done is the only way to get there!
anitaJanuary 10, 2022 at 8:57 am #391036
I will not quit. Not this time.
But I feel so tired and “sore”. I wish I could be happy while doing this work. I have said that I don’t know what will make me happy, and we’ve discussed earlier as well that healing myself would be the way the work I need to do to be able to experience joy. But, I’m miserable. I have to tear my focus away from the tornado in my chest and use it to get my work done and it is so hard. And there is constantly new stressors that get added. I wish I could figure out how to get my body into a happy state, soothe myself. I am not able to do that.
I tried setting an intention today first thing in the morning, that I will fight anxiety. It did help. I was able to dismiss a lot of fears emerging from meetings at work. But, I am simply swinging between neutral and miserable. I want to feel lighter and happy. I want some happiness. Happiness that doesn’t threaten to hurt. Just a moment of happiness.
GirijaJanuary 10, 2022 at 9:27 am #391038
“But.. I wish I could be happy while doing this work… But, I’m miserable” – I too wish you were happy. As a matter of fact, I wish I was happy this morning, or more content than I am. I slept poorly, I mistakenly blocked a person from my email, and I feel badly about it.
“I have to tear my focus away from the tornado in my chest… And there are constantly new stressors that get added. I wish I could figure out how to get my body into a happy state, soothe myself. I am not able to do that” -lower your expectations: instead of aiming at getting your body “into a happy state“, aim at getting it into a calmer state. Aim at feeling a little bit better (not a lot better): take a few deep breaths, get out of your chair and walk around a bit- these two simple practices should calm you down some and make you feel a little bit better.
“I tried setting an intention today first thing in the morning, that I will fight anxiety. It did help. I was able to dismiss a lot of fears emerging from meetings at work” – congratulations for a job well done!
“But, I am simply swinging between neutral and miserable. I want to feel lighter and happy” – patience, Girija, you will need a whole lot more patience.
“Just a moment of happiness” – that you can get today, a moment of happiness, but not if you desperately want it, or try to force it. A moment of happiness can creep up on you when you stop expecting and wanting it.
January 10, 2022 at 9:37 am #391040
- This reply was modified 1 week, 1 day ago by anita.
Before, I respond to everything else – I am sorry you weren’t able to sleep well. I hope you are able to rest during the day. Is something on your mind bothering you?
And were you able to unblock that person or do you need my help unblocking them? Tell me which email provider – gmail, yahoo.com, etc and I can find and link ways to unblock. I will wait around for your reply.
I feel bad too when I think my actions hurt another person or caused them problems. But it might help to think how you would react when someone made a mistake that impacted you, if they were genuinely sorry and trying to fix it or fixed it and it did not cause you real harm. It might have hurt your feelings but you would understand that it was only a mistake. I am sure the other person will understand too. Please don’t feel bad.
GirijaJanuary 10, 2022 at 9:49 am #391041
Thank you for your empathy, greatly appreciated!!! In regard to my mistake this morning, my email is a hotmail account.
anitaJanuary 10, 2022 at 9:55 am #391042
Could you try the below steps. And let me know if your screen looks different than what the steps suggest.
Sign in to your Hotmail account using your email address and password.
Click the “Options” button from the menu at the top right of the screen and select “More options” from the dropdown menu.
Look for the “Junk e-mail” section of the “Options” menu that opens. Click the “Safe and blocked senders” option. You can view email addresses marked as safe and email addresses that you have blocked here
Click “Blocked senders” to view a list of the blocked email addresses.
Select the email address you want to unblock from the list of blocked email addresses and then click “Remove from list.” The email address you removed is now unblocked and you can receive email messages from this address.January 10, 2022 at 9:59 am #391045
The initially paste I did was badly formatted. I’ve edited it in the same reply.January 10, 2022 at 10:07 am #391047
Thank you so much! You are incredibly supportive and that by itself makes me feel better this morning. I am in the middle of trying to answer a member so I will try your steps later, no need for you to wait for me to follow these steps (I am very low tech, so I have little faith in being able to successfully follow the steps you listed, but I will try… later)!
anitaJanuary 10, 2022 at 10:11 am #391049
Ok, anita. Good luck. I tried posting a link to a video that might help, but it says awaiting moderation. Please search on youtube, you will find videos that are easy to follow, and it would be easier to follow along and pause the video than follow written out steps.
Hope you have a great day.
GirijaJanuary 10, 2022 at 10:29 am #391051
Thank you again, Girija: you are wonderful! I will let you know what happens later. And please post again about you anytime!
anitaJanuary 10, 2022 at 12:48 pm #391048
If what I pasted above doesn’t help. This video has a different approachJanuary 10, 2022 at 1:54 pm #391070
Good news, the problem has been fixed, the email unblocked! I am thrilled and grateful for your help and support!
anitaJanuary 10, 2022 at 5:45 pm #391082
That’s awesome, anita! I am really happy. My moment of happiness as soon as I wake up 🙂
Hope you have a good night’s sleep!
GirijaJanuary 10, 2022 at 6:08 pm #391090
You made my day, Girija. I hope to have a good night, thank you!