May 11, 2021 at 8:13 pm #379718
That’s ok, don’t see a reason why I should even visit this thread anymore. We hung out yesterday a few hrs hiking, but yeah we are pretty much done. Back with her guy that pretty much ended us (I really miss the old her, NOT this her), is happy for me to call her less as phone time seems to be mostly for her family and besties, since we hung out a few times already we are done until next year so I wont be talking to her until next summer. Like I said, that guy ended us. Time to move on and use the hate I have for that guy to better myself.
Anyway good luck and stay safe but I wont be back to this place, it will remind me of her.July 4, 2022 at 6:23 pm #403469
BTW just an update to Anita…she ended the friendship over a TEXT message. I reached out to her and she was ignoring me, had a work buddy interviene because I was worried about her and she said my “ok then” text was a little snotty (she was ignoring me though) and sent a long text telling me she can’t give me what I want and feels bad when I feel bad over slow text, etc, that she’s working on herself and has no time for friendship with me anymore.July 4, 2022 at 6:44 pm #403470
So, she let you go and in so doing, you no longer have to answer your question (and title of this 65 pages, Sept 18 2016-July 4 2022 thread) “Let her go?“- How do you Feel about this???
anitaJuly 4, 2022 at 7:12 pm #403473
I was getting emotional for a while because after everything we had been through…I am STILL totally confused what just happened. But I miss the old her, not this lieing her… Pretty sure that ex of hers told her to just drop me. she changed quite a bit and not in a good way IMO. But this was only a friendship end for ME, so it was quite personal for her, she said “I can’t commit to this friendship anymore”, like you said about not able to commit talking in this thread anymore because we talked about everything. Pretty sure that means she’s never going to try another attempt down the line, what do you think? I know she hates when I “dissapear” for months at a time, she once said “no text and call me and I will text and call you” with an annoyed tone, but I do what I want because she refuses to even spend 10 seconds out of her day and send 1 text message like she did in the past or even 1 phone call.
I dunno what I even did to her and I never will…she could not even do this over the phone like an adult but a TEXT message.July 4, 2022 at 7:13 pm #403475
Oops I hit the report button.July 4, 2022 at 7:29 pm #403476
I bet you were getting emotional.. you’ve been emotional about her over the course of 8-9 years (?) I withdrew from this thread because I figured she is an obsession of yours and I didn’t want to continue to feed this obsession with my posts.
“Pretty sure that means she’s never going to try another attempt down the line, what do you think?”- I can’t predict the future… don’t know. If it helps, the serenity prayer goes: god, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
I dunno what I even did to her and I never will…she could not even do this over the phone like an adult but a TEXT message.July 4, 2022 at 7:30 pm #403477
*Can’t edit and remove the quote at the bottom of the post aboveJuly 4, 2022 at 7:51 pm #403478
Well, anyway this thread is done. Yeah I was a little obsessed, but I used to like talking on the phone with her until she changed. I wished her well and said glad she was ok from that 1 summer and this different incident I helped her in and I dunno what I did but I assume someone told you to drop me, wasn’t the first time and I said goodbye forever and blocked her. She blocked me so she wont read it anyway.July 4, 2022 at 8:05 pm #403479
It may be the fitting day to Let her Go and gain your emotional Independence from her, it being that just south of you it’s Independence Day!
anitaJuly 4, 2022 at 8:08 pm #403480
Happy Independence Day!July 4, 2022 at 8:14 pm #403481
Thank you, pete. Have a good, restful night, will you? I hope to have one myself, in spite of the occasional firework explosions!
anitaJuly 4, 2022 at 10:39 pm #403485
I’ll try. Not that upset anymore…I am pretty sure I know why this happened and it has nothing to do with what she said, she’s upset I go months not keeping in touch with her and she’s tired of me coming in and out of her life when she just wants me in it. Like I said, she’s gotten upset I go months not “keeping in touch”, but I vanish because she doesn’t do anything, she can text or call too but she never does and expects me to do it all. I CAN’T DO IT ALL!!! she once said “I message you when you dissapear” and when I said I’ll talk to you next summer one time (it would have been like 11 months) she said “if that’s what you want..i’ll be around just message me”.
Like I said, it has nothing to do with the filler fluff she posted, it’s because I don’t keep in touch anymore and that message of not wanting to hang out with her and see you in the summer was the last straw, I guess she had an emotional reaction to it and had a talk with someone on what to do and there was an agreement to let me go. She could not do it via phone because it was too painful for her so a text and block was the easiest thing to do and she can run away like she always does when a problem arises. She should have told me “I can’t be friends with you if you are always going to vanish”, instead she did nothing and this happened and I presume it was really hard for her because that 1 summer and how close we became when her and her guy split.
I lost a friend for a really dumb reason, but oh well she done for good.July 5, 2022 at 2:33 pm #403503
I’ve been reading from your posts on this thread all morning and into the later afternoon, copying and pasting. Your story is a fascinating story, and our communication takes me back in time… to the time I was 6 years younger, years before the pandemic and through it. Also, I came across a link that you sent me years ago, one that I didn’t open until today. Opening it today I saw you for the first time: t was a photo of you with the Santa beard. I got all the way to page 55, and will continue to read, copy and paste your fascinating story Wednesday morning. I hope you are doing well today!
anitaJuly 5, 2022 at 4:20 pm #403504
Today was….emotional at work. My god! She’s blocked but maybe 1 day many many years from now if I think about her I will message her that I hope she’s doing well or I will see her walking around. Or would that be creepy?
Man this hurts…manager at my work that was tight with her told me maybe it’s not even about me, maybe she just needs to move on for a while and when she’s ready she will reach out in a few months, but I said yeah it’s most likely over now. People at my work are confused why it was a text and block and no phonecall…manager agrees with me it was because she probably could not handle a phone call due to being upset and found this way easier.July 5, 2022 at 6:45 pm #403505
I am sorry that it hurts. Maybe my posts tomorrow will us both to understand everything better. Please try to have a good night!