Yes. I explained to him what happened and he said he understands and it’s ok. ?

When he went overseas his communication started dwindling. The 7 hour time difference didn’t help either. I would message him. He’d read the message and won’t respond sometimes. One time we made a Skype date and he didn’t show up. I started getting really frustrated with him. So I told him how I felt. Maybe not in the most matured way. So he told me he was managing an office with 1200 employees. Now he is managing 2 offices with 2000 employees. He has several WhatsApp groups on his phone for work. His phone is constantly buzzing with messages from his employees. So atimes he’d read my message and say he’d respond later but then forget. That’s when I would feel like he’s ignoring me. Or I would see him online but he won’t read my message till the next day. He said he’s phone buzzes all night since he works for a global company so sometimes he just puts it on silent. So then I feel ignored yet again. He sent me a screen print of his phone and he had 96 unread messages waiting for him to go through. Just to show me that he is truly overwhelmed with work at the moment. He’s is planning to hire someone else while he’s overseas to manage that office so he doesn’t have to do it.

To be honest I have considered ending it with him because of his work schedule. Now this may sound selfish of me. But he has 2 nights a week when he hangs out with his friends. My thought process is so if you can carve out that time for them then why can’t you do the same for me. Once a week for an hour on video just so we can see each other and catch up. He hasn’t been able to do it. Maybe he’s done it once since he travelled. This makes me feel unimportant. We do communicate via chat. But I feel that is not enough. He doesn’t understand why I feel that way. So I just stopped nagging him. I’m not a nagger and this situation was making me one. I got really mad once and told him to go away and leave me alone. So he did. We didn’t speak for 5 days and I spent those days asking myself if I was asking for too much out of him. Of course it didn’t help that my sister told me to dump him.

So after 5 days I reached out to him and we talked. He told me that he really wants to give me the attention I deserve BUT work is killing him now. All I heard from him was he was making excuses. I feel like people make time for what they feel is important to them. He doesn’t make time for me because he doesn’t feel the need to. Because he knows I will always pick up the phone when he calls. Respond to his texts right away so why would he feel the need to make time for me when he knows I’m not going anywhere.

I truly love this man. But I’m honestly considering walking away because I just don’t feel like he cares for me as much as he says he does 🙁

Hey Michelle,

I struggle between what you have said and what Anita has said. 🙂