July 12, 2019 at 10:06 am #303025
No, I am not thinking “Lindsey bad idea”- not about watching a show together and him falling asleep like he did. As long as you feel okay about it, it is not a bad thing… A bad thing would be if the two of you had.. you know, sex and then you would get all anxious about him not texting you after having sex.
So no sex for Lindsey at this point, says I !
Regarding experiencing lower anxiety unexplainably, this is what I learned from personal experience: after feeling severely anxious for a long time, the brain/ body gets tired, very tired because as you know, it is draining. What happens next is the brain releases calming chemicals, even euphoria producing chemicals that motivate the animal/ person to rest. Similar to an animal running away from danger, then gets very tired and rests- it is the calming/ euphoria producing chemicals that motivate the animal to rest.
anitaJuly 12, 2019 at 11:13 am #303031
Very true. You always make me feel better. I don’t feel bad about it. It was kind of relaxing if that makes since. No pressure.
LindseyJuly 12, 2019 at 11:43 am #303039
I am glad you feel better. Take it easy the rest of the day and enjoy the pool this weekend, best place to be when it is hot, pool or at the beach, protected from the sun though, limit exposure and don’t forget sunscreen. I will be car camping tomorrow, have a thick steak cooked in the fire tomorrow evening, ancient times style, and sleep in a tent. It will be in the fifties at night, so not hot.
anitaJuly 12, 2019 at 2:50 pm #303073
I will try my best. Camping sounds very fun I hope you have a good time. Talk soon-
LindseyJuly 12, 2019 at 3:27 pm #303081
I will be back to the computer for a short while Sat morning, then gone camping and back to the computer Monday morning, hope to read about your weekend and will tell you about mine Monday.
anitaJuly 15, 2019 at 7:05 am #303335
How was the camping trip?
My weekend was pretty relaxed. Saturday the kids and I were at the pool all day long and stopped for dinner on the way home. We went to bed really early and I dropped the kids off Sunday with their dad. My Sunday was pretty relaxing. I ran some errands, walked and took a nap, then cleaned house and made food for the week. I texted K later in the afternoon to maybe come over later in the evening to watch the season finale of Stranger Things. He replied right away but I had a feeling he would say no. (If he does not initiate the plans they don’t really happen) He said maybe it had been a long weekend lots of drama from a cookout Saturday. He snap chatted later showing a horrible sun burn to part of his face b/c he wore a headband….maybe that’s why he said no. It was pretty bad lol.
I was proud of myself for no anxiety or worry or OCD thoughts. I was kind of like whatever. I feel like my anxiety is getting better as time goes by. I’m hoping this will continue and it’s not just that I am having a good period for a few months.
LindseyJuly 15, 2019 at 7:17 am #303339
Your weekend is proof that it is possible for you to have a relaxing weekend and all these recent days are proof that you can experience lesser anxiety and more calm. When you feel anxious again, don’t get alarmed, thinking something like: I knew it will not last! Instead say to yourself something like: anxiety goes up and down, now it is up a bit but I can take it down, after all I know it is possible for me. I can make it happen again. Repeat the behaviors that brought you calm before and avoid the behaviors that increased your anxiety before.
My camping trip was fine and dandy, didn’t do a lot of hiking, even less than my daily hike where I live (in the woods, really). It was nice to have time stop with nothing-happening, had the best Sunday brunch cooked over the fire (and Saturday dinner as well), was incredible to be so close to glaciers, in July, had a couple of scares being in such high elevation.
anitaJuly 15, 2019 at 8:02 am #303347RosalindParticipant
Absolutely; what Mark wrote!
RJuly 15, 2019 at 10:42 am #303417
This camping trip sounds amazing….and peaceful. I am glad you had a good time.
I am a little frustrated. I feel like the only time K wants to hang out is only if he initiates the plans. None of this is surprising just frustrating. I don’t feel like I’m ready for a boyfriend so my feelings for him in general go up and down. My impression of his feelings for me also change week by week lol. Any advise?
LindseyJuly 15, 2019 at 10:46 am #303419
I just feel stupid. stupid. stupid. It’s like he would rather stay at home on his computer or be by himself than hang out with anyone or me for that matter.
LindseyJuly 15, 2019 at 10:56 am #303425
Can you imagine: there is a man out there at this very moment who would want to spend time with you instead of being at home on his computer or by himself or hang out with other people, a man who would have chosen to be with you. And would have initiated getting together with you.
Just so happens it is not K.
anitaJuly 15, 2019 at 11:00 am #303429
I know. I’ve known. I just momentarily get my hopes up and then they of course come crashing down. And then I feel bad about myself. Which I shouldn’t but I do anyway.
LindseyJuly 15, 2019 at 11:51 am #303445
Try this then: when your hopes go up (like when happened when he fell asleep on your lap the other evening), rein them down, don’t try to have no hopes, but lower them. That way hope will not “come crashing down”, instead, there will be a gentle thump when they come down.
anitaJuly 15, 2019 at 12:32 pm #303449
Very good idea. I will work on that. Thank you. I was feeling down until I read your post.
LindseyJuly 15, 2019 at 12:39 pm #303451
I am glad you are feeling better. Post anytime. If I am at the computer, I will reply.